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Lately I've discovered when they don't want me, and I bounce, they come back later wanting to pursue me. With experience, they just realize they are attracted to guys that treat them poorly. It's all psychological, but it's things they can change. As people, we just have to want to change and most of us are stubborn as mules. That's what makes people so great!
It's funny - but I'm kind of the opposite of that. If I sense someone is attracted to me, it makes them seem more attractive to me. If someone seems like they couldn't care less about me - I don't want to be around them as much.
It's funny - but I'm kind of the opposite of that. If I sense someone is attracted to me, it makes them seem more attractive to me. If someone seems like they couldn't care less about me - I don't want to be around them as much.
My motto is, and I know this DOES sound a little arrogant, but if he's better than me, look me up in two years and we can compare our lives. NOTE I DON'T TELL THEM THIS. It's how I mentally deal with being rejected. He's better than me now, but he's not better than me in the future. It sounds childish, but everyone has their ways to keep from chasing people that aren't interested in them. I'm getting interest from a woman now, because she bit into the forbidden fruit, and it was worms. I told her we would likely just remain friends. I ONLY have her attention more now, because she got burned. If things would have worked out with the guys she was pursuing, I wouldn't have heard back from her. She started seeking me out again, because I was a decent human being, I just wasn't insatiable. I'm not up to being her sloppy seconds, but I am ok with garnering a female friend and another perspective that isn't dominated by my male friends...
You know, I've found that too (that men are more open to being approached and that a lot more women, than men, seem cold). But the women who are friendly are just as friendly as the men. And men can be just as cold at times as some of the women. I also find that men are more willing to be spontaneously "crazy." I once played a version of "tag" with a man in the grocery store. We kept running into each other and saying. "Tag! you're it!" Then the one of us who was it tried to hunt down the other. It all ended when we had to check out and we waved good-bye.
But I am not always so weird. I also to the more socially acceptable thing with complimenting people on the necklaces, dresses, ties, suits, etc. I am selective with my weirdness
We used to play "Hide & Go Seek" in the furniture dept of a department store......heehee......
Sometimes ended up in a dressing room, next dept over..
My motto is, and I know this DOES sound a little arrogant, but if he's better than me, look me up in two years and we can compare our lives. NOTE I DON'T TELL THEM THIS. It's how I mentally deal with being rejected. He's better than me now, but he's not better than me in the future. It sounds childish, but everyone has their ways to keep from chasing people that aren't interested in them. I'm getting interest from a woman now, because she bit into the forbidden fruit, and it was worms. I told her we would likely just remain friends. I ONLY have her attention more now, because she got burned. If things would have worked out with the guys she was pursuing, I wouldn't have heard back from her. She started seeking me out again, because I was a decent human being, I just wasn't insatiable. I'm not up to being her sloppy seconds, but I am ok with garnering a female friend and another perspective that isn't dominated by my male friends...
Hey - whatever you need to do to deal with things is fine! Back when I was dating - maybe from the end of high school on - my feeling was that if he couldn't see how awesome I was - he couldn't really be that awesome himself! This actually mostly has to do with my sense of humor - and it's true to this day. If someone doesn't enjoy my company (now in the friendship capacity) - then I just move on. I'm a quirky, funny person. If someone doesn't get me - then their loss!
That's good that you can say that. It might be because you are a woman, and know that at least on some levels (and I don't know what you look like, what your personality is like or what you have accomplished) you are seen as desirable by men.
But though I have accomplished many things - some things, believe it or not, that very few men have accomplished - and that in many, many ways I am supremely confident, I still have problems with self-esteem because I know deep down that women don't really care about those things because they see me as unattractive. You'd be surprised how many men are in this situation.
I have an idea, I've heard so many guys on here talk about how women never do the approaching, I'm going to try it out...for the rest of the month, every time I see a guy who I feel is attractive - I'm going to walk up to them and tell them so. I'm going to
If they are with another woman I will compliment her on her good taste in men.
Then I'm going to report back to CD with the results...that will be March the 18th.
How many think that the guys will look at me like I just stepped off a spaceship?
How many think the guys will laugh in my face and walk away?
How many will get out a peice of paper and a pen and start exchanging phone numbers?
How many of them with women, will the woman present slap me?
To make it a real experiment, lets say I have to go for a quota of 25 guys total...
Ready, set.... GO
Go for it, but they get really confused and start acting weird.
Ms. Foclampt, did you also wonder about how many men will cling to you and/or become enraged that you will not have sex with them, because your compliment equals immediate and exclusive sexual desire in their little worlds?
Just putting that out there based on my experience doing the same thing. Never again--it only took me one bad apple to put a moratorium on complimenting a man's physical appearance. Really I think it's sad. Who doesn't want to hear good things about himself? For me and some others, it's just a game, you don't take it seriously. Unfortunately some take it way too seriously, and then of course you're to blame because you "led him on."
Ms. Foclampt, did you also wonder about how many men will cling to you and/or become enraged that you will not have sex with them, because your compliment equals immediate and exclusive sexual desire in their little worlds?
Just putting that out there based on my experience doing the same thing. Never again--it only took me one bad apple to put a moratorium on complimenting a man's physical appearance. Really I think it's sad. Who doesn't want to hear good things about himself? For me and some others, it's just a game, you don't take it seriously. Unfortunately some take it way too seriously, and then of course you're to blame because you "led him on."
Please PM me nice things and feed my ego monster.
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This actually mostly has to do with my sense of humor - and it's true to this day. If someone doesn't enjoy my company (now in the friendship capacity) - then I just move on. I'm a quirky, funny person. If someone doesn't get me - then their loss!
