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In hindsight, it's not as rewarding and usually more debilitating. If you feel that you can over reach than you should, but over reaching usually comes with consequences. Just like underachieving comes with consequences as well. The closer two people are to even, the happier I believe they are. Any other way just seems like you're trying to impres other people or prove a point.
I've rarely found it a matter of "over reaching" as it is just "wanting something you can't have". I thought the whole concept was stupid until it happened to me. I still feel like an idiot about it. Such is the way of the psyche.
I've rarely found it a matter of "over reaching" as it is just "wanting something you can't have". I thought the whole concept was stupid until it happened to me. I still feel like an idiot about it. Such is the way of the psyche.
Most people know what their talents are once they reach a certain age, so that's why I call it over reaching. The pot bellied guy with the blonde bombshell woman is an anomolly, or he has something that is compensating that is considered of value to her (lifestyle, security, etc.)
Most of us are just your average people. If you lose a bunch of weight, change how you dress, and get a better job, well you have found yourself in a different category of desirability. What I'm talking more of is the person that doesn't really want to as much as lift a finger, but wants to "jump" categories. I'm not saying you have to date average, but some people are just out of our reach, and I resepct that. I'm a glass is half full realist. Not the glass is runeth over opportunist.
I have an idea, I've heard so many guys on here talk about how women never do the approaching, I'm going to try it out...for the rest of the month, every time I see a guy who I feel is attractive - I'm going to walk up to them and tell them so. I'm going to
If they are with another woman I will compliment her on her good taste in men.
Then I'm going to report back to CD with the results...that will be March the 18th.
How many think that the guys will look at me like I just stepped off a spaceship?
How many think the guys will laugh in my face and walk away?
How many will get out a peice of paper and a pen and start exchanging phone numbers?
How many of them with women, will the woman present slap me?
To make it a real experiment, lets say I have to go for a quota of 25 guys total...
Ready, set.... GO
So it's probably going to be the same guys that typically get approached by women
I've been approached by women, but my shyness was crippling. I used to think they were mocking me or something. I didn't even like talking to random dudes back then.
I'm a lot better now, I'll flirt back and have a conversation, even if I'm not interested..
Snowboarding and my career have really helped me along, I'll bull**** with anyone now
Most people know what their talents are once they reach a certain age, so that's why I call it over reaching. The pot bellied guy with the blonde bombshell woman is an anomolly, or he has something that is compensating that is considered of value to her (lifestyle, security, etc.)
Most of us are just your average people. If you lose a bunch of weight, change how you dress, and get a better job, well you have found yourself in a different category of desirability. What I'm talking more of is the person that doesn't really want to as much as lift a finger, but wants to "jump" categories. I'm not saying you have to date average, but some people are just out of our reach, and I resepct that. I'm a glass is half full realist. Not the glass is runeth over opportunist.
Oh totally. I'm just saying that, as an example, my latest experience in this regard was with a woman who was "average" in most respects, but the second she told me that she wasn't interested, I instantly wondered why and thought about her a LOT more often. I never considered that over reaching. Simply wanting something that I (suddenly couldn't) have.
So it's probably going to be the same guys that typically get approached by women
I've been approached by women, but my shyness was crippling. I used to think they were mocking me or something. I didn't even like talking to random dudes back then.
I'm a lot better now, I'll flirt back and have a conversation, even if I'm not interested..
Snowboarding and my career have really helped me along, I'll bull**** with anyone now
If we all found the same people attractive, we'd all look the same by now.
Oh totally. I'm just saying that, as an example, my latest experience in this regard was with a woman who was "average" in most respects, but the second she told me that she wasn't interested, I instantly wondered why and thought about her a LOT more often. I never considered that over reaching. Simply wanting something that I (suddenly couldn't) have.
Lately I've discovered when they don't want me, and I bounce, they come back later wanting to pursue me. With experience, they just realize they are attracted to guys that treat them poorly. It's all psychological, but it's things they can change. As people, we just have to want to change and most of us are stubborn as mules. That's what makes people so great!
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