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Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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Originally Posted by rrtechno
Better stay here with us. We are definitely NOT crazy.
Yes we are! Your nose is growing, Pinocchio
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Originally Posted by sun queen
I have too much leftover German chocolate cake... I can't have sweets in the house, it's just too much of a good thing. I may have to toss goodies out and that will hurt.
Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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Although I'm feeling much better now that I'm home, I just wish that I can get together with certain family members without them nitpicking me to death about my appearance and other superficial crap! I know I am no beauty queen and fully aware of all my physical flaws so there is no need to point them out and trying to offer me "constructive" feedback about what I should do to "fix" those flaws. Gosh! I hate being a bug under the microscope. I'm already sensitive about certain things and wish that they would just learn when to shut up! Maybe next year, I'll just take a trip solo for Christmas versus dealing with these family members so I don't have to detox afterwards.
Chatteress[/i];22272583]Although I'm feeling much better now that I'm home, I just wish that I can get together with certain family members without them nitpicking me to death about my appearance and other superficial crap! I know I am no beauty queen and fully aware of all my physical flaws so there is no need to point them out and trying to offer me "constructive" feedback about what I should do to "fix" those flaws. Gosh! I hate being a bug under the microscope. I'm already sensitive about certain things and wish that they would just learn when to shut up! Maybe next year, I'll just take a trip solo for Christmas versus dealing with these family members so I don't have to detox afterwards.
Sorry you went through all that. You can always take a solo trip. Or each of the times you would spend money on airfare etc to attend a gathering where you get nit picked, take that same amount of money and give to a favorite charity, like a local women's shelter -- or give yourself something you've been doing without because you save money for those trips. Pamper yourself on that holiday or whatever the occasion. You are definitely a Beauty Queen here on CD!
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Chatteress, I'm sorry, too. Believe me, I get it. When I moved here, I was really toned and in great shape. Too little exercise and too many dinners out and cocktail hours helped me gain a lot of weight. The codger 2 houses down said to me one day, "you know, when you first moved here, you were a neat, attractive, trim woman. Now look at you." I said to him, "You know, I'm STILL a neat, attractive woman. And you know what else? Tomorrow, I can go on a diet and get slim again. But you'll still be an a$$hole!" Well, I thought my friend who was with us was going to swallow his teeth! Till the day he died, I heard him chuckle and he'd say, "remember the day you told Cal he was an a$$hole?"
I wish Cal were still around....I'm losing that weight now.
I don't think people realize how much they hurt others when they offer such opinions.
Chatteress, I'm sorry, too. Believe me, I get it. When I moved here, I was really toned and in great shape. Too little exercise and too many dinners out and cocktail hours helped me gain a lot of weight. The codger 2 houses down said to me one day, "you know, when you first moved here, you were a neat, attractive, trim woman. Now look at you." I said to him, "You know, I'm STILL a neat, attractive woman. And you know what else? Tomorrow, I can go on a diet and get slim again. But you'll still be an a$$hole!" Well, I thought my friend who was with us was going to swallow his teeth! Till the day he died, I heard him chuckle and he'd say, "remember the day you told Cal he was an a$$hole?"
I wish Cal were still around....I'm losing that weight now.
I don't think people realize how much they hurt others when they offer such opinions.
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Originally Posted by Chatteress
Although I'm feeling much better now that I'm home, I just wish that I can get together with certain family members without them nitpicking me to death about my appearance and other superficial crap! I know I am no beauty queen and fully aware of all my physical flaws so there is no need to point them out and trying to offer me "constructive" feedback about what I should do to "fix" those flaws. Gosh! I hate being a bug under the microscope. I'm already sensitive about certain things and wish that they would just learn when to shut up! Maybe next year, I'll just take a trip solo for Christmas versus dealing with these family members so I don't have to detox afterwards.
I'd like to take this opportunity to add just the right response for nit pickers.
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Although I'm feeling much better now that I'm home, I just wish that I can get together with certain family members without them nitpicking me to death about my appearance and other superficial crap! I know I am no beauty queen and fully aware of all my physical flaws so there is no need to point them out and trying to offer me "constructive" feedback about what I should do to "fix" those flaws. Gosh! I hate being a bug under the microscope. I'm already sensitive about certain things and wish that they would just learn when to shut up! Maybe next year, I'll just take a trip solo for Christmas versus dealing with these family members so I don't have to detox afterwards.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. Some people have no sense. Take a lesson from nms and her comeback
If we are selfish, useless and greedy people, then don't ever bother to ask us to buy stuff anymore. You have money, so why don't YOU buy the stuff they need. Quit lying to us that you don't have money when you DO. Who's the "selfish, useless and greedy" person now. I love them and am willing to watch over them when you discipline them, but I just hate how you DO NOT EVER discipline them. Not only that, STOP HAVING KIDS.
Location: The Chatterdome in La La Land, CaliFUNia
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Thanks guys for the support! LOL! I wish that I was as feisty as NMS! There were so many things that I could have said to that particular family member as she really does not have it all together like she acts but I held my tongue as I really did not wish to inflict hurt even though I was hurting inside. Hopefully, as time goes on, I can put aside those hurtful, insensitive comments and move on as life is too short.
Although I'm feeling much better now that I'm home, I just wish that I can get together with certain family members without them nitpicking me to death about my appearance and other superficial crap! I know I am no beauty queen and fully aware of all my physical flaws so there is no need to point them out and trying to offer me "constructive" feedback about what I should do to "fix" those flaws. Gosh! I hate being a bug under the microscope. I'm already sensitive about certain things and wish that they would just learn when to shut up! Maybe next year, I'll just take a trip solo for Christmas versus dealing with these family members so I don't have to detox afterwards.
That happened to me too, Chatteress. Except we were out of state at someone's house~so no escape for three days!! Later I learned her own children avoid her like the plague and she had a long history of being very critical and ultra-negative.
I just used really passive-responses. And I stayed away from her as much as possible. That really got to her. The silent NDN treatment!
BTW, she was a neat freak beyond comprehension. I was secretly very happy when our oldest dog pee'd on her white carpet!!! And our oldest dog was beyond house trained. Never pee'd inside in 10 years!!
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