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I have been married for a year. Together almost 10. My husband is a city guy Im a country girl. Where i really want to be is in the country where my friend is. Shes my best friend and only family I have left. My husband doesnt have any family or friends, I do wish he did of course, but he is not seeing my side that where does it matter where we move if there is no one for him wherever we would go. So would you leave your marriage over something such as this? Theres other issues in our marriage as well, but this one is taking the cake as I feel I have sacrificed alot for this man and with the moving it would be the first thing he would sacrifice for me.
I feel like location isn't a reason to divorce.
However, I feel like this is probably something you should have considered and discussed further before getting married.
How do your jobs fit into where you live? People move away from their families and friends all the time. Just because she is your only friend/family and your husband has none can NOT be your only argument for moving to the country. Jobs, finances, housing....all of these things matter.
I feel like location isn't a reason to divorce.
However, I feel like this is probably something you should have considered and discussed further before getting married.
How do your jobs fit into where you live? People move away from their families and friends all the time. Just because she is your only friend/family and your husband has none can NOT be your only argument for moving to the country. Jobs, finances, housing....all of these things matter.
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Originally Posted by max's mama
No. I wouldn't leave a relationship for something like this.
It buggles my mind that after 10 years you didn't learn this major difference about each other.
That.^^ Kinda late to be having this revelation IMHO. I don't see where this is something to leave a marriage for.
i usually dont go out with city girls because i dont like going to the city much. avoids the headache esp since most of the time they dont have cars and wed always be in the city
Sorry should of explained better. This was brought up a year ago. He said he would go anywhyere with me. He said he didnt care as long as it was with me. He has been this way since we been together with wanting to be anywhere I am. We have moved alot and everywhere we have gone he has never had a problem with. Up till now where i want to move my ex lives there and deep down I think that is really the problem. The ex not where I want to move too. I think he thinks i am going to leave him for the ex. Location doesnt matter for work I work at home he doesnt work.
I have been married for a year. Together almost 10. My husband is a city guy Im a country girl. Where i really want to be is in the country where my friend is. Shes my best friend and only family I have left. My husband doesnt have any family or friends, I do wish he did of course, but he is not seeing my side that where does it matter where we move if there is no one for him wherever we would go. So would you leave your marriage over something such as this? Theres other issues in our marriage as well, but this one is taking the cake as I feel I have sacrificed alot for this man and with the moving it would be the first thing he would sacrifice for me.
I would never leave my husband because we couldn't agree to live near my friends.
In my book, my husband and I go together where-ever we feel makes the most sense for our family: work & income, children, us - that's it! Everything else is secondary as far as I am concerned.
I have been married for a year. Together almost 10. My husband is a city guy Im a country girl. Where i really want to be is in the country where my friend is. Shes my best friend and only family I have left. My husband doesnt have any family or friends, I do wish he did of course, but he is not seeing my side that where does it matter where we move if there is no one for him wherever we would go. So would you leave your marriage over something such as this? Theres other issues in our marriage as well, but this one is taking the cake as I feel I have sacrificed alot for this man and with the moving it would be the first thing he would sacrifice for me.
In that scenario I would. There seems to be no reason for him to stay unless it's his career? I've ended a marriage for this reason among others. It turned out to be a great decision for me and a terrible one for her.
So would you leave your marriage over something such as this?
Depends upon what you agreed upon before you got married or agreed to live together.
I'm a university professor and due to the tenure system, professors are notoriously immobile -- though some move, most of us tend to stay put in our jobs. If I graduated with my PhD and, say, the University of Colorado offered me a position, I'm moving to Boulder.
This is something I made clear to those I dated when I was in grad school (and it is understood among fellow academics...you go where the job is). Were my gal to say "No, I don't want to be in the mountains...I'm a coast woman" I've gotta say, "Sorry, sweetheart, but I can't do that. I must go where I'm offered a good job and that is in Boulder."
But if the deal I made with her before we married/got together was that I will stay put in Paducah and if Boulder beckons I will tell them "no," then it's a different story.
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