The reason why you can or cannot get a date, a relationship, etc... (dates, woman)
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I don't necessarily mean a carbon copy. But (using myself as an example), I have a degree, work in a non-profit, and have plans for where I want to go within the non-profit sector. What would I have in common with someone who works as or wants to work as a hedge fund manager at a corporate bank?
What is that person's job didn't define who he was though? Perhaps such a person would have other stuff in common with you aside from differing career goals?
Jobs don't define who we are, unless you're talking about someone in the military, which is not just a job but also a lifestyle.
What is that person's job didn't define who he was though? Perhaps such a person would have other stuff in common with you aside from differing career goals?
Jobs don't define who we are, unless you're talking about someone in the military, which is not just a job but also a lifestyle.
No, but what a person's goals are when it comes to what they want to do with their lives says a lot about that person, does it not?
It's not just an American thing. It's a human historical thing, which is quite natural. People of similar religion, culture, race, education, value system have always coupled.
We used be cave dwellers too once, but we evolved.
It does happen everywhere, but it seems to be more of an issue here (status, physical appearance, etc). It is what it is, but it's not my cup of tea.
No, but what a person's goals are when it comes to what they want to do with their lives says a lot about that person, does it not?
It's part of the picture, but by no means all of it. Plans can be derailed at any time, life can change in an instant. It's always good to have goals, but many become too dictated by them.
We used be cave dwellers too once, but we evolved.
It does happen everywhere, but it seems to be more of an issue here (status, physical appearance, etc). It is what it is, but it's not my cup of tea.
I don't think status has as much to do with it either. Maybe more so due to online dating, but people in the US have historically met their mates via college, work, family, or friends. That pool tends to be homogenous. It's proximity first, and then interests and commonalities follow.
It's part of the picture, but by no means all of it. Plans can be derailed at any time, life can change in an instant. It's always good to have goals, but many become too dictated by them.
I'm not saying that it is a complete picture of who that person is. BUT, I tend to find that it speaks about what the core set of values are for that person. If my core set of values don't mesh with another person's, I wouldn't be interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with them. That's all it is - having similarities in your basic values.
It's part of the picture, but by no means all of it. Plans can be derailed at any time, life can change in an instant. It's always good to have goals, but many become too dictated by them.
Which is totally fine, but the point of the matter is that a person on trajectory A is likely going to want another person on a similar trajectory. I don't see the problem with that. The point of this thread, tho, is that if you want that person on trajectory A, but you're not on it yourself, well, there's no point in complaining if that person is not available to you. And certainly no reason to blame that person.
I don't think status has as much to do with it either. Maybe more so due to online dating, but people in the US have historically met their mates via college, work, family, or friends. That pool tends to be homogenous. It's proximity first, and then interests and commonalities follow.
The bolded part seems to be more of the case here than elsewhere. College is much more entrenched in American culture than elsewhere (not that more people necessarily go, but it's where people seem to reminisce about a lot more).
The point of this thread, tho, is that if you want that person on trajectory A, but you're not on it yourself, well, there's no point in complaining if that person is not available to you. And certainly no reason to blame that person.
Well, that is kind of a no sh*t sort of thing. Things can be made easier when that is the case. But a*sholes will be a*sholes and wh*res will be wh*res no matter the trajectory someone is on. Meeting the right person is a combination of things: location, activities, work and so forth.
Well, that is kind of a no sh*t sort of thing. Things can be made easier when that is the case. But a*sholes will be a*sholes and wh*res will be wh*res no matter the trajectory someone is on. Meeting the right person is a combination of things: location, activities, work and so forth.
Your thread is more like this:
Which is fine but looking in the mirror is only one part of the equation.
The other part of the equation is what you see in that mirror. And then what actions and behaviors you incorporate in your life. People who refuse to take responsibility for their own situations are not going any where, as this forum clearly shows. What you're doing is either working for you or not.
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