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If I really like her then I'll propose to her and we'll get married... then we'll have sex. I don't find sexual compability to be important. I'm not going to dump someone I love just because we don't have great sex.
I don't have a small penis. But, if a girl won't marry me if I have a small penis then she's really not in love with me.
It's remarkable how much people care about sexual compatibility. Perhaps that's why rich men dump their 40 year-old wives for a younger girlfriend or just cheat with escorts.
Yeah, weird, isn't it?
I mean, it's not like we're biological creatures with innate sexual drives shaped by eons of evolution, or social creatures with untold generations of cultural constructs that emphasize pair bonding and expressions of love through sexual contact!
Oh, wait ... no, that's exactly what we are...
Last edited by Green Onions; 03-18-2012 at 12:58 AM..
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My input to the OP: Hold on until marriage. I am 25 years old, single, and I have never had sex with anyone, period. My reason is more religious. That said, you keeping your virginity until marriage is admirable. I would keep doing that if I were you. Some women won't want to date you unless you have had sex. It says nothing about you. It says something about those women who think the way that they do. I am single, I feel lonely, and I often wish I had a girlfriend. That doesn't mean I'm going to go and have sex with some random woman just to get a girlfriend. I might be alone, but I'm not going to deviate from what I know in my heart is the right thing to do. You shouldn't deviate either. If a woman won't date you because you've never had sex, she isn't worth your time, she isn't worth dating, period.
You have some very strange understanding of dating. And your idea of how to "get a girlfriend" is completely off-base.
What you described (and I highlighted) is either rape or a hook-up, not dating.
You're saying that all women who won't date a virgin aren't worth dating? Unless you're talking about you and you only, you're dismissing and putting a great portion of women in a very negative light.
They are absolutely worth dating, but not for you.
You have some very strange understanding of dating. And your idea of how to "get a girlfriend" is completely off-base.
What you described (and I highlighted) is either rape or a hook-up, not dating.
You're saying that all women who won't date a virgin aren't worth dating? Unless you're talking about you and you only, you're dismissing and putting a great portion of women in a very negative light.
They are absolutely worth dating, but not for you.
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My point about the "random sex" was in reference to women rejecting men because they stay virgins. To be honest, all I understand about dating doesn't include sex. I was thinking more about a hook-up.
My message to the OP was that any woman who won't date him simply because he is a virgin, he should just move on.
Why date a person who is going to judge you? If any woman is going to judge him simply because he's a virgin, that woman has a problem, not him.
My point about the "random sex" was in reference to women rejecting men because they stay virgins. To be honest, all I understand about dating doesn't include sex. I was thinking more about a hook-up.
My message to the OP was that any woman who won't date him simply because he is a virgin, he should just move on.
Why date a person who is going to judge you? If any woman is going to judge him simply because he's a virgin, that woman has a problem, not him.
Pot, meet kettle.
I will not date someone who is a virgin because we would be incompatible. Sexual expression and intimacy is incredibly important to me. Why should I limit myself to the amount of ways I can connect with my partner?
No one involved "has a problem", other than those with your attitude. A person who chooses to remain a virgin due to religious or personal reasons knows that they are limiting themselves, just like I know that my need to be intimate with my partner means that I am limiting myself in another way.
For the record, I did try to date someone who was a virgin until marriage. We were together for 3 months and it was clear that a combination of both of our sexual frustrations was a killer for any potential relationship.
I will not date someone who is a virgin because we would be incompatible. Sexual expression and intimacy is incredibly important to me. Why should I limit myself to the amount of ways I can connect with my partner?
No one involved "has a problem", other than those with your attitude. A person who chooses to remain a virgin due to religious or personal reasons knows that they are limiting themselves, just like I know that my need to be intimate with my partner means that I am limiting myself in another way.
For the record, I did try to date someone who was a virgin until marriage. We were together for 3 months and it was clear that a combination of both of our sexual frustrations was a killer for any potential relationship.
I'm different from you. Sexual compatibility is not the most important factor for me. I want a woman who will love me and treat me right, and in reciprocation, I do that same for her. I'm a virgin, yes. I plan to be that way because I'm a Christian, of the Roman Catholic faith. I want to stay a virgin until marriage because I want my first time to be with a woman I'm married to. To me, sex outside of marriage is meaningless. You might think I'm limiting myself, but it is my faith that I consider important. If any woman I want to date has her heart for Christ and I am on the same direction, why worry about sex?
I still stand by my message to the OP. I don't think of his waiting until marriage as limiting himself. I think for him, it will be that much more valuable and meaningful if he waits until marriage.
No offense Jesse (enjoy your posts on the Chicago thread), but you are like the poster child for why a woman may not want to date a man who won't have sex before marriage.
You do enjoy cross-dressing in women's clothing and role reversal, pretend lesbian sex. That is something a girl should know before marrying a guy, don't you think? It works best if the man is very up-front about these desires before marriage and the woman is good with that. Many women are not good with that. Do you think most men would be upfront about that sort of thing before marrying/having first time sex with a woman?
I'm different from you. Sexual compatibility is not the most important factor for me. I want a woman who will love me and treat me right, and in reciprocation, I do that same for her. I'm a virgin, yes. I plan to be that way because I'm a Christian, of the Roman Catholic faith. I want to stay a virgin until marriage because I want my first time to be with a woman I'm married to. To me, sex outside of marriage is meaningless. You might think I'm limiting myself, but it is my faith that I consider important. If any woman I want to date has her heart for Christ and I am on the same direction, why worry about sex?
I still stand by my message to the OP. I don't think of his waiting until marriage as limiting himself. I think for him, it will be that much more valuable and meaningful if he waits until marriage.
It is a shame to most people don't have any morals anymore. This society has become hyper-sexed. People want to do things their own way.
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A person who chooses to remain a virgin due to religious or personal reasons knows that they are limiting themselves, just like I know that my need to be intimate with my partner means that I am limiting myself in another way.
