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Originally Posted by NoDoubt1993
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Summarized:
"When you wait until marriage to have sex, you preserve your innocence."
That sex in and of itself makes you guilty (responsible for a reprehensible act; deserving blame, as for an error) is unfounded. You preserve your innocence by being sexually irresponsible, which doesn't require abstinence.
"When you decide to wait until marriage to have sex, you are willingly becoming the obedient child, the lovelorn conquerer."
I read this section over and over, and I still can't find any intrinsic value mentioned therein.
"As long as you maintain your virginity (original or re-claimed) the values and character that come with it will remain alive as well."
People can do this simply by maintaining their sexual responsibility. On a daily basis, not having sex with someone who isn't my gf maintains the value of making sex exclusive to one person.
"People who have big hearts wait until marriage, and people that wait until marriage have big hearts. One will usually cause the other."
There is no proof or evidence of this.
"STDs... pregnancy... abortion"
This means you don't have sex with someone you don't know and know
well. There is nothing about legal marriage in and of itself that protects people from all this. Married couples are assuming based on knowing the person they're married to that everything will be okay, same as committed couples who aren't married.
"People who wait till marriage tend to prioritize meaningfulness in all relationships much more than other people."
Again, proof? This section defines 'meaningful' as pulling the maximum potential out of every relationship. I don't agree with this definition. Neither that this is the best way to define it, nor that doing this is a good thing. Sounds like a one-way ticket to Burnout City to me.
"(The wedding night of those who didn't wait) doesn’t feel special enough.
Because they’ve
already committed themselves fully to the person they’re marrying. They’ve been in love, having sex, and (usually) living together for years now."
Exactly. Meaning they were already a married couple. The only "special" thing they were missing was for some stranger to say "Okay, the church/law recognizes your marriage". Whether the wedding feels special or not depends on your view of marriage in general, not on whether you waited to have sex.
"When you get married, you’ve got a whole lot of awesome sex that you haven’t ever had yet. And now you get to catch up, instead of just burning out."
So it buys you a few years, tops. And then you're "caught up", ready to burn out.
Then what?
"Waiting till marriage means that you do not dilute this piece of yourself by giving it to a lot of people."
Except for those who were married a lot of times. Really, marriage has nothing to do with this either. Waiting until you are in a committed, exclusive relationship is enough. At best, this is arguing that people should wait for quite some TIME before having sex. And I can agree with that.
"A great example for your kids"
See above. THAT'S a great example. Giving them one more reason rush into legal marriage, no.
"You have stepped outside the conventions of world and said “No. I’m going to be different.”"
I certainly have. And I didn't need a preacher or the State of Texas to do it.
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