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We use to joke a good friend will help you move a body. I agree people really are not into being friends unless things are going well for you. I mean all my friends have good jobs married with kids. I wish them well and good health and all that. But it is different when you are handicapped. Your life just gets struck in neutral going nowhere. I work temp work when I can find it. Long bouts of employment wife kids a house. I mean it not going to happen few handicapped marry. Sadly even fewer land jobs. Think about only 17.9% work at all of that maybe 9% work full time. I mean if my friends call what do I talk about? My second round of physical therapy or my bouts of unemployment?
I guess I have friends, a group of people that my wife knows that we hang out with (out side of us hanging out I rarely hear from them), but I don't really have any friends that I made on my own. I've tried making friends, but it always seemed like it was me trying to put forth the effort to hang out, or converse etc...even with my own family, and facebook, work situations, the only time some one reaches out to contact me is if they need something. I do enjoy me own company, and do consider my self pretty socially ackward, but I'd still like it if someone put the effort out there just say hi every friggen once and a while.
I'm in my mid 30s and never really had friends even in my younger years. I'm very awkward and have always had poor social skills. Sometimes I feel if I'm experiencing what a 90 year old man must feel even though I'm in my 30s. No family, no friends, never had a girlfriend, etc. It don't help that I'm stuck in a semi rural area as I don't have the means to make it in a high COL urban area where there are more social opportunities. I had a short stint at a commuter community college shortly after high school and after that I've had next to no contact with people of my age group.
Living in a small town/suburb/rural area sucks when you're young unless you enjoy that kind of lifestyle. Never getting out of it is something I beat myself up daily about.
I'm in my mid 30s and never really had friends even in my younger years. I'm very awkward and have always had poor social skills. Sometimes I feel if I'm experiencing what a 90 year old man must feel even though I'm in my 30s. No family, no friends, never had a girlfriend, etc. It don't help that I'm stuck in a semi rural area as I don't have the means to make it in a high COL urban area where there are more social opportunities. I had a short stint at a commuter community college shortly after high school and after that I've had next to no contact with people of my age group.
Living in a small town/suburb/rural area sucks when you're young unless you enjoy that kind of lifestyle. Never getting out of it is something I beat myself up daily about.
I live in a moderately large city, but I've also spent time in small rural communities as well. I tend to face the same problems no matter where I am. I'm not socially equipped to have friends, regardless of how many opportunities or what type of opportunities that I may have.
I only have one real friend, and she lives abroad. Otherwise my other "friends" are people who call me just to party with them. They're not people I would have a deep conversation with. I kind of wish I had one like that, though.
do these other people who don't have friends have twitter, instagram, FB, etc? I don't have any of those things b/c I consider them for people with friends.
do these other people who don't have friends have twitter, instagram, FB, etc? I don't have any of those things b/c I consider them for people with friends.
I have FB, but only use it wish happy birthday for relatives and friends. I could use it to catch up with certain people, which I do every month or 2, but it does feel meaningful without periodic, close contact.
do these other people who don't have friends have twitter, instagram, FB, etc? I don't have any of those things b/c I consider them for people with friends.
I don't have any of that nor do I want them. I have 6 long term friends and only one of them is on FB. Out of those 6 I see none of them regularly so I'm not far behind you.
Online friends while good is not the same as IRL.
Granted that RL friends can be both but still...
When I was in my twenties, I had a small group of close friends. We went out a lot and we could talk to each other about anything. Then when I was in my late twenties, I developed agoraphobia and could no longer work. All my friends disappeared. Ten years later, I still do not have any friends. I have been to college in that time and I was friendly with a lot of my classmates. I laughed with them in class often and looked forward to seeing them each week. However, no real friendships formed even after three years of college. Now, I am working again and I like my coworkers but the majority of them are at least ten years younger then me and we have nothing in common. I will be 40 next year and so it is difficult being a single woman at this age because other people my age are busy with husbands and children. I am not too bother by this because I am introverted by nature but I miss having someone to confide in sometimes. I wouldn't feel too bad about not having any friends right now. Have you thought about joining a meetup group? Maybe you can volunteer somewhere, I did a lot of volunteering before I started working again and it was an awesome experience. This is my first time posting on here.. I hope I did this right!
When I was in my twenties, I had a small group of close friends. We went out a lot and we could talk to each other about anything. Then when I was in my late twenties, I developed agoraphobia and could no longer work. All my friends disappeared. Ten years later, I still do not have any friends. I have been to college in that time and I was friendly with a lot of my classmates. I laughed with them in class often and looked forward to seeing them each week. However, no real friendships formed even after three years of college. Now, I am working again and I like my coworkers but the majority of them are at least ten years younger then me and we have nothing in common. I will be 40 next year and so it is difficult being a single woman at this age because other people my age are busy with husbands and children. I am not too bother by this because I am introverted by nature but I miss having someone to confide in sometimes. I wouldn't feel too bad about not having any friends right now. Have you thought about joining a meetup group? Maybe you can volunteer somewhere, I did a lot of volunteering before I started working again and it was an awesome experience. This is my first time posting on here.. I hope I did this right!
I'll be the first to welcome you to the board!
I hope it's not another 4 years before you post again. (I noticed your join date)
I think making friends is super tough and even harder when you get older. I'm glad I have a few from when I was younger. As I mentioned I haven't made a new friend in 23 years and I suspect I never will again. A couple of close calls recently ended up to be very disappointing so I have given up. It's just not worth the effort anymore...
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