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Location: In a city within a state where politicians come to get their PHDs in Corruption
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Originally Posted by Nlambert
The old saying goes "The road to hell is paved with good intentions".
If you cannot communicate your intent effectively and in such a way that all who hear it can benefit from it, then it's a failed effort.
Naive sentiment. There is no such thing as "all". There are only probabilities. 68% of all employees are considered average, at any company. That is within one standard deviation of the mean. No matter what I do, say, "communicate effectively" there will always be average, for myriad of reasons. My marginal cost will always be higher than my marginal benefit if I tailored my companies to those 68%. I choose to spend vast majority of my time improving the top 10%, and minimize my time with average performers.
Bright people and good managers understand people are different and they change their approach based on the specific person they're dealing with. But rudeness is never okay, in my opinion.
Some people personalize everything, and yes, they have to be handled with kid gloves. Others would be offended by that and just want the facts.
NLambert is spot on when he says, "Know your audience."
I really like honesty, but maybe its your tone. I'm a pretty blunt person so when someone asks me for my honest opinion I let them no its not to insult or offend. Some people you have to let them no its with no hard feelings because thats how some people take it.
It's pretty context dependent. When I worked in NYC people were often very blunt and nobody was offended.
However, here in Minnesota, you have to glad handle everyone or they literally will hate your guts.
Most places are in between these extremes. In general, it's best to err on the side of finesse.
OMG....This is so true. I was raised in So. California From a "we never met a stranger" type family background....I have had so many of the same experiences, up here in N.D. and M.N. country.
Especially a regional thing. People like to pretend they appreciate honest open communication...But get offended and run when it happens.
OP, it's good that you are taking this criticism and working on things. Like others have said...Finesse your statements a bit...
" Well, since you've asked I will tell you my suggestions....bla, bla....What do you think of those ideas?? Hope it helps."
Also...Go to those work related folks that have made these suggestions....Offer up that you are really taking these suggestions to heart and are trying to grow from their advice...Ask them for examples of how you could change your approach. It will win you some brownie points, and you'll get some good advice to guide you..
Good luck...
Location: In a city within a state where politicians come to get their PHDs in Corruption
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Originally Posted by MPowering1
Bright people and good managers understand people are different and they change their approach based on the specific person they're dealing with. But rudeness is never okay, in my opinion.
Some people personalize everything, and yes, they have to be handled with kid gloves. Others would be offended by that and just want the facts.
NLambert is spot on when he says, "Know your audience."
Don't disagree with that, especially with clients. What I disagree with is that "tailoring" your approach to each "individual audience" will have a marginal benefit. It is naive to think that I, you, or anyone else for that matter will be able to make a difference with someone who has been average their entire career. Sure, one in a hundred may be a superstar, but for the most part spending time with employees like that is waste of time.
Bright people and good managers understand people are different and they change their approach based on the specific person they're dealing with. But rudeness is never okay, in my opinion.
Some people personalize everything, and yes, they have to be handled with kid gloves. Others would be offended by that and just want the facts.
NLambert is spot on when he says, "Know your audience."
Good point. A big part of my issue is that I just want the facts, and I treat everyone as if they feel the same.
My impatience makes it hard to slow down and realize the differences - I just want to put it out there!
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