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Me, no.... but I know people who have moved to Dubai and hated it. The job was interesting and the pay was excellent, and after the novelty of that city wore off, the day-in-day-out life in Dubai was dreadful--according to them.
Well boredom really depends on things really. I get a tad sick of some in the Boston area here that act like bars and clubs need to stay open to 4am. I'm sorry but how long do you have to stay out for an maintain a job ? What good things happen after 11pm?
If you are in a place that seems boring I'd check to see the events at a local college/university and/or library.
How's that working out for you? That may be our best option, as we got really good deal and interest rate on our current house which is close to wife's family.
This is a tough decision. I have lived in a community that was pretty crummy, but we stayed there for 5 years. We did it for the professional opportunity at the time, and for us (at that moment), it was a good decision. When you are in a smaller market, you can be a "big fish in a small pond", you can advance significantly professionally, and position yourself well for future moves. We stayed where we were that long because my spouse was doing very well income wise. We had a great home and I had wonderful friends. We were driving distance from my family in Houston. In a way, we got trapped for a while because of the $$. My husband liked to call it "golden handcuffs".
We ultimately chose to leave after 5 years to move somewhere with a better quality of life. We took a huge, huge hit to our income to make the move, but we are happier with our quality of life.
Whether or not we will stay remains to be seen. As someone else pointed out you should follow the jobs and work. I think people are far too hesitant to do that these days.
And, I would never separate the family. I just personally think that is a bad idea unless you know for certain it is a short term arrangement like a few months or a year at most. You can talk about resentment from a spouse being somewhere they don't want to be, but how about the resentment from a spouse whose partner is not supporting them in taking care of their family? If the spouse who does not want to move does not even work and puts their foot down, then all the bigger a problem. You suck it up and move. Just my opinion.
This is a tough decision. I have lived in a community that was pretty crummy, but we stayed there for 5 years. We did it for the professional opportunity at the time, and for us (at that moment), it was a good decision. When you are in a smaller market, you can be a "big fish in a small pond", you can advance significantly professionally, and position yourself well for future moves. We stayed where we were that long because my spouse was doing very well income wise. We had a great home and I had wonderful friends. We were driving distance from my family in Houston. In a way, we got trapped for a while because of the $$. My husband liked to call it "golden handcuffs".
We ultimately chose to leave after 5 years to move somewhere with a better quality of life. We took a huge, huge hit to our income to make the move, but we are happier with our quality of life.
Whether or not we will stay remains to be seen. As someone else pointed out you should follow the jobs and work. I think people are far too hesitant to do that these days.
And, I would never separate the family. I just personally think that is a bad idea unless you know for certain it is a short term arrangement like a few months or a year at most. You can talk about resentment from a spouse being somewhere they don't want to be, but how about the resentment from a spouse whose partner is not supporting them in taking care of their family? If the spouse who does not want to move does not even work and puts their foot down, then all the bigger a problem. You suck it up and move. Just my opinion.
I don't think it's really separating the family. I did the math, and I would be spending more than 50% of nights with them, 80% of my "free time" hours with them every week, plus I could easily come back any evening for emergency, special event, etc - just not every day. Is that really that bad? Wife's retired parents are also close by current location.
This is a tough decision. I have lived in a community that was pretty crummy, but we stayed there for 5 years. We did it for the professional opportunity at the time, and for us (at that moment), it was a good decision. When you are in a smaller market, you can be a "big fish in a small pond", you can advance significantly professionally, and position yourself well for future moves. We stayed where we were that long because my spouse was doing very well income wise. We had a great home and I had wonderful friends. We were driving distance from my family in Houston. In a way, we got trapped for a while because of the $$. My husband liked to call it "golden handcuffs".
We ultimately chose to leave after 5 years to move somewhere with a better quality of life. We took a huge, huge hit to our income to make the move, but we are happier with our quality of life.
Whether or not we will stay remains to be seen. As someone else pointed out you should follow the jobs and work. I think people are far too hesitant to do that these days.
And, I would never separate the family. I just personally think that is a bad idea unless you know for certain it is a short term arrangement like a few months or a year at most. You can talk about resentment from a spouse being somewhere they don't want to be, but how about the resentment from a spouse whose partner is not supporting them in taking care of their family? If the spouse who does not want to move does not even work and puts their foot down, then all the bigger a problem. You suck it up and move. Just my opinion.
Which crummy community did you spend 5 years in? What made it so bad? If the place was much worse than Houston, could you have just gone to Houston after the 5 years and made a compromise on pay and quality of life? Jobs in Houston can pay extremely well with the right experience.
Which crummy community did you spend 5 years in? What made it so bad?
Wichita Falls. Great people. Terrible location. Poor long term prospects for the community from a growth perspective in our estimation. We live in Denver now. Best place I have ever lived (and I grew up in Houston). My husband (also from Houston) thinks Houston is just Meh. He is a surgeon in a very in demand field and we could literally probably go anywhere we want at any time. We always entertain our options. Constant balancing act because everyplace has pros and cons.
If you are going to spend the preponderance of your time with your family, then go for it (if the extra cost of renting someplace where the job is doesn't matter.) You are correct in the argument that you would not really be separated. The constant travel will be a pain, though. You said your in laws are retired, that gives them plenty of time to drive up and see you
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