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Leave your spouse behind and get yourself a small apartment. Is relocating your family to be near either one of your parents desirable or a viable option? My dad was career military and he did this several times with us when he was deployed on unaccompanied tours.
We are currently in the same suburb as my wife's parents, which is huge for her. Current metro area is not ideal for me, but it's tolerable enough and has the best long term opportunities in my chosen field, that is, IF I take advantage of this particular opportunity. We also own a house in the only suburb of that whole metro area that we actually like FWIW, and have a 3% interest on 30 year mortgage, so really don't want to let that go.
Opportunity is in a location where there is practically nothing that we like to do on our free time, and it makes our current metro look like paradise.
Problem is if I don't take this opportunity, I will stagnate in my chosen field and be much more vulnerable in an industry downturn.
Same here... It's been 3 1/2 years since I relocated from the undesirable Deep South to the PNW. Couldn't be happier.
Saw this top 10 list today...
It may have plenty of gray, rainy days, but Seattle also has some great coffee, a thriving music and arts scene and, most importantly, jobs. Home to Microsoft, Amazon and Boeing, among many other companies, Seattle has become an economic powerhouse, attracting tech workers, outdoors types and those seeking world-class access to arts and entertainment.
May read the article later, thanks. "Most importantly, jobs" may be the key phrase, IF you've got the chops to thrive here in tech, aerospace, or a few other industries. Otherwise, this place (Seattle) would be a wretched dreary wasteland. Half the year, it is. I break the monotony by taking motorcycle rides in the pouring rain and other similar stuff you "shouldn't" be able to do, but can if you put your mind to it.
Every move I've made has been "desirable," including to Seattle long ago now. That's part of the allure, a combination of economic and cultural migration. I wonder if times are such now that people sometimes must do this to places they really don't like, OP's point for-sure.
Barring major economic catastrophe (national, worldwide) might actually make it through the whole career living in places I've loved vs. some hell-hole just for economic purposes. The crash of '08-'09, however, made me realize that such situations are possible, however.
I relocated several times for work - Seattle, San Francisco, Denver, Phoenix. A few years ago I landed in Denver, the only place I have ever truly felt at home, and really loved living there. I thought it would be my forever home. But then after a couple years, what I thought was an awesome career opportunity opened up in Indianapolis, a city I knew nothing about. I moved, thinking it would be an adventure. It has been a year and a half, and I regret doing it. There's really nothing good I can say about Indianapolis, I hate it here. I plan to move back to Denver, but now trying to get a new job there is not so easy.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Let's put it this way, Houston TX metro would be considered more desirable to 99% of the nation's population than this particular location. The locals love it there, and I highly respect them for it, and I would do my best to learn the culture, but the location will never be my cup of tea any way you slice it, much less so for the rest of my family.
It has to be REALLY bad for that to be the case. What state? Indiana?
I've done it, and regretted it (Fort Wayne IN and Madisonville, KY, bailed fairly quickly), and I can be happy most places.
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I relocated several times for work - Seattle, San Francisco, Denver, Phoenix. A few years ago I landed in Denver, the only place I have ever truly felt at home, and really loved living there. I thought it would be my forever home. But then after a couple years, what I thought was an awesome career opportunity opened up in Indianapolis, a city I knew nothing about. I moved, thinking it would be an adventure. It has been a year and a half, and I regret doing it. There's really nothing good I can say about Indianapolis, I hate it here. I plan to move back to Denver, but now trying to get a new job there is not so easy.
That's Indiana! I lived in Wisconsin for many many years (and Chicago for awhile) and spent a lot of business trips going to Indianapolis (central location) and I swear, it is the worst, most boring, big city in this country.
hmmm...would west Texas be considered "undesirable". Bascially moved out here over 3 years ago, although my main residence is in the D/FW area, to work in the oil fields...and yes the money was/is worth it!
May read the article later, thanks. "Most importantly, jobs" may be the key phrase, IF you've got the chops to thrive here in tech, aerospace, or a few other industries. Otherwise, this place (Seattle) would be a wretched dreary wasteland. Half the year, it is. I break the monotony by taking motorcycle rides in the pouring rain and other similar stuff you "shouldn't" be able to do, but can if you put your mind to it.
Every move I've made has been "desirable," including to Seattle long ago now. That's part of the allure, a combination of economic and cultural migration. I wonder if times are such now that people sometimes must do this to places they really don't like, OP's point for-sure.
Barring major economic catastrophe (national, worldwide) might actually make it through the whole career living in places I've loved vs. some hell-hole just for economic purposes. The crash of '08-'09, however, made me realize that such situations are possible, however.
Could be worse... I moved here after 35 years in southeast Georgia.
Literally a flat barren wasteland of pine trees... lots of sun... and from April thru September, heat and humidity. Electric bills over $400 a month from the A/C running 24/7.... 90+ temps for 6 months, 100% humidity... heat index well over 100 in June-August... Weather reports commonly say "don't go outside."
Also, a weak economy. For me that was quite undesirable.
When comparing the two it's easy for me to love everything Seattle has to offer... the jobs, the mountain scenery, the mild temps year round... and even the rain. But c'mon, we all know it doesn't rain here every day... it's just cloudy for 6 months of the year. When it does rain how often is it actually "pouring"? More often than not it's just a misty drizzle. A person doesn't even need an umbrella... and BTW, you haven't seen heavy rain and thunderstorms till you've been in the south.
It has to be REALLY bad for that to be the case. What state? Indiana?
I've done it, and regretted it (Fort Wayne IN and Madisonville, KY, bailed fairly quickly), and I can be happy most places.
That's Indiana! I lived in Wisconsin for many many years (and Chicago for awhile) and spent a lot of business trips going to Indianapolis (central location) and I swear, it is the worst, most boring, big city in this country.
I know, Indy seems like a wasteland. No beach, no skiing, not much art. Only the 500. But many have lived there a lifetime and don't want to leave.
It's hard to imagine a place that is so undesireable that 99% of people would prefer Houston (which is definitely not everyone's cup of tea) yet the locals love it, it's established enough to have its own culture, to support good local private schools and there is a sufficient business base that a stellar career opportunity exists there. Personally, if it's THAT good of an opportunity, I'd rent out your current home and try it out. Worst case scenario, you walk away after a year or so (meaning you find a new job if relocating isn't an option) and then move. But maybe the fantastic job and what sounds like a substantial salary increase will make it tenable for the 3 or so years it takes to have this job be a stepping stone to bigger and better things in a place that is more to your liking.
I've lived in a place I don't like for the last 25 years because of job opportunities. After a while, any place will probably grow on you a little bit. The terrible schools part doesn't describe us, though - schools are OK.
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