Biology tells women to go for promiscuous men, society tells them not to (history, city)

[rebel12]

Originally Posted by Joykins

You should not assume that just because someone is married means they are having regular sex. More likely, yes, but there would not be such a market for Viagra and Cialis if there were not issues there for anyone.

Also, there was nothing in "the realm of this discussion" that implied that it applied to singles only. Sociobiology does not apply to single people only.

I know but being single you obviously have a litlle different perspective. Unless of course you are in an open marriage.

[danielpalos]

Originally Posted by Joykins

I think it may be a matter of pickiness more than sex drive.

I tend to get pickier when women realize they really just need to fornicate me into relationships.

[Joykins]

Originally Posted by rebel12

I know but being single you obviously have a litlle different perspective. Unless of course you are in an open marriage.

Well, it wasn't like I was never single you know. I had my chance to make an idiot of myself just as young people today do.

[danielpalos]

Originally Posted by Joykins

I'd rather satisfy my sex drive by myself than with a guy I am not personally attached to in some way. (disclaimer: been contentedly married for a long time, so I guess I'm kind of looking back on how I was when single.)

I feel the same way about women who are players, when I don't have enough money; even though I would be less picky if all the other girls aren't trying to just use me for sex even if they have to lie to me for it.

[danielpalos]

Originally Posted by Joykins

Actually biology tells us to be both promiscuous and monogamous, because people ARE both (not all the smae people and not all the same time but we have both patterns). But monogamy, or at least serial monogamy, predominates--we are nowhere near as promiscuous as bonobos, and people in monogamous relationships tend to be happier and more stable. Compared to bonobos sexual behavior (and feel free to google the details, they're really something) we are chaste.

That doesn't seem to hold true with our modern divorce rate, which, coincidentally is being initiated more by women now than by men in many cases.

[green_mariner]

Originally Posted by danielpalos

That doesn't seem to hold true with our modern divorce rate, which, coincidentally is being initiated more by women now than by men in many cases.

I think what has happened is this. Alot of women have stopped taking crap. Cheat on your wife? Sure way to get divorced, and you would deserve it. Hit your wife? Divorce, and possibly prison time.

I think alot of women are learning they don't have to put up with certain things and are more willing to get a divorce.

[danielpalos]

Doesn't that involve more promiscuity rather than less promiscuity every time a woman gets divorced and is "hot to trot", that much more often?

[Joykins]

Originally Posted by danielpalos

That doesn't seem to hold true with our modern divorce rate, which, coincidentally is being initiated more by women now than by men in many cases.

divorce is completely compatible with serial monogamy.

[green_mariner]

Originally Posted by danielpalos

Doesn't that involve more promiscuity rather than less promiscuity every time a woman gets divorced and is "hot to trot", that much more often?

It could involve that. However, what about when the man cheats on a woman, over and over? Isn't that promiscuity?

[green_mariner]

Originally Posted by Joykins

divorce is completely compatible with serial monogamy.

That is the difference between divorce and promiscuity. Divorce involves a wife and husband. Promiscuity involved more than one person to have sex with. Not to mention, if a person is in a marriage, then it having sex outside of that marriage would count as promiscuity, on the most dishonest level.