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Women, and people in general, gravitate to their own. I was just reading this paper that mentions likes with likes in a round about way. Although, it's a paper on work/life balance.
"First of all, a fairly large proportion of female scientists marry or partner with other scientists. Approximately 70% of female physicists are married to other scientists and 80% of female mathematicians are married to other mathematicians (Gibbons 1992)."
It's pretty typical, so no, not just any guy acting like an alpha will do. Many women require a man who has an intellect that surpasses the equivalent of a person who regularly chews on lead paint chips.
I think there is a lot of truth in that. It's been my experience that smart women almost always prefer smart guys, with looks being secondary to both. The same goes for both sexes when it comes to less intelligence, too.
Humans are ruled by biology just as much as any other creature on this planet, and I believe that we really don't understand as much about what attracts us in the opposite sex as we think we know.
We are social animals- we pack up, just as many species do. In a herd or a pack, there is a place for every member. The curious and incurious are equally needed for survival, as are the strongest and the weakest, the most able and the least able.
I believe that we tend to seek out a partner who is most like us, physically and mentally most of the time. But, at the same time, I think there are those of us who seek to improve our offspring's genetics by seeking a mate who has strengths to enhance our own weaknesses.
I think that women in general tend to do the second more than men, as their biological burden is greater. Mothers always want their kids to be better than they are in some way or other.
I also think that different cultures have different priorities, which causes different preferences.
I think it may be a matter of pickiness more than sex drive.
Yes but for one male that has had 500 female partners there was 1 non-picky male, 500 non-picky females.
And the next male that has had 500 female partners, there was probably a lot of overlap.
What is considered promiscuous? A woman who essentially ends up sleeping with anyone she dates, might only date 5 men a year which would probably not look very promiscuous. Yet in ten years that's going to add up to 50 men.
Of course the bar fly kind of woman who picks up a different man every week will have had sex with 52 men in just one year. In ten years she could easily have been with 520 men.
So, what is wrong with women using sex on us, just to get to know us better? If women were that honest, men may discover they don't even need to lie to women for a relationship. From that perspective, why is it that women prefer lies and liars, to the sublime truth and honesty as a moral and form of respect toward fellow human beings; unless, they prefer amorality to morals contrary to what they tend to claim on public forums?
I think there is a lot of truth in that. It's been my experience that smart women almost always prefer smart guys, with looks being secondary to both. The same goes for both sexes when it comes to less intelligence, too.
Humans are ruled by biology just as much as any other creature on this planet, and I believe that we really don't understand as much about what attracts us in the opposite sex as we think we know.
We are social animals- we pack up, just as many species do. In a herd or a pack, there is a place for every member. The curious and incurious are equally needed for survival, as are the strongest and the weakest, the most able and the least able.
I believe that we tend to seek out a partner who is most like us, physically and mentally most of the time. But, at the same time, I think there are those of us who seek to improve our offspring's genetics by seeking a mate who has strengths to enhance our own weaknesses.
I think that women in general tend to do the second more than men, as their biological burden is greater. Mothers always want their kids to be better than they are in some way or other.
I also think that different cultures have different priorities, which causes different preferences.
I would say men more so, try to pusg their love of contact sports on their kids, often leading to serious injury....who would want that for their child ? ...only the greedy.
I am thinking of doing some preliminary "research" for a book that may be entitled: The smartest women in the room; why women seem to "enron" their relationships while claiming they aren't really like that.
biology tells us to procreate, no matter how overpopulated the world is with human beings. . . . .our intellect tells us that "moderation" is a more appropriate means of continuing the specie.
So, what is wrong with women using sex on us, just to get to know us better? If women were that honest, men may discover they don't even need to lie to women for a relationship. From that perspective, why is it that women prefer lies and liars, to the sublime truth and honesty as a moral and form of respect toward fellow human beings; unless, they prefer amorality to morals contrary to what they tend to claim on public forums?
Bottom line women are not always what you think. Remember, objects in the mirror may be closer than you think !! Contrary to what men are lead to believe, many women use men the same way as men "use" women. Most however are slick enough about it so they do not become labeled a ****. yes , life IS a double standard. I am sure glad I grew up as a white middle class male who, could do about any thing including women and get rewarded for it among your piers.
Somebody (the testosterone influenced gender) is missing a big (and TRUE) point here.
For men, sex is (or at least can be) about sex, period. For women, this is rarely if ever the case. . ..for (most) women, the willingness to engage in sex is an indication of the emotional bonding she believes is being developed with a man. Men sure don't "get it". . ..and if they did, they would say "no" to those who they believe are not at least potential life partners. . . ..
Somebody (the testosterone influenced gender) is missing a big (and TRUE) point here.
For men, sex is (or at least can be) about sex, period. For women, this is rarely if ever the case. . ..for (most) women, the willingness to engage in sex is an indication of the emotional bonding she believes is being developed with a man. Men sure don't "get it". . ..and if they did, they would say "no" to those who they believe are not at least potential life partners. . . ..
I have to disagree with this statement about women.. I still say many women consider themselves very independent. Started in the 60s and progressed from there. They do not need men for much. They DO like sex, when they want it, the guys they find may think differently, I agree with that, but ,from personal experience from the 70s on I see the women I was around as mostly confident, self centered, progressive , indiapendent. I may have lived in a singles complex near Chicago,where everyone was work sensitive , their job came before social contact, and yes, quite a few encounters I had ( sex ) were with young women who had little interest in marriage, kids, and " settling down". Often I was not the aggressor, lots of my female friends knoked on my door, and mostly for one reason.....sex !
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