Is it OK for parents to dictate what gifts you can give their kids? (old, grandkids)

[Drover]

Originally Posted by nolij4

Then again there seem to be a lot of other power-hungry liars out there, especially in this thread

What you're seeing is people holding up mirrors. If you don't like what you see, it's no use lashing out at the mirrors.

[nolij4]

I was just reacting to all the people in this thread who have said "yes, parents get first dibs on the big gifts, too bad"

There is no excuse for deliberately lying about what the kids want

no excuse whatsoever

[Drover]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I was just reacting to all the people in this thread who have said "yes, parents get first dibs on the big gifts, too bad"

There is no excuse for deliberately lying about what the kids want

no excuse whatsoever

Parents get first dibs on the big gifts.

Too bad.

Now get off your power-hungry soapbox and focus your energies on something more productive.

[somebodynew]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I was just reacting to all the people in this thread who have said "yes, parents get first dibs on the big gifts, too bad"

There is no excuse for deliberately lying about what the kids want

no excuse whatsoever

That and a $20 is going to get you a Starbucks. She does not need to make excuses. She is the Mom.

[rrah]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I was just reacting to all the people in this thread who have said "yes, parents get first dibs on the big gifts, too bad"

There is no excuse for deliberately lying about what the kids want

no excuse whatsoever

As I tried to help you see, perhaps your D is not lying. Perhaps she's just trying to get to the real question: What should I buy the kids?

Given your responses here, I understand why your D might not want to engage in a lengthy conversation with YOU about what the kids want or gift giving. I can see that turning into a big fight with you over who is permitted to buy the kids certain presents. I know that's how I would handle you: short and to the point Moderator Cut is generally my motto when dealing with difficult people.

As I said before, look inward.

[nolij4]

I am going to have a little chat with my daughter. The chat is going to go like this:

"Why do you feel the need to lie to my face when I ask you what the children want or Christmas?"

[somebodynew]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I am going to have a little chat with my daughter. The chat is going to go like this:

"Why do you feel the need to lie to my face when I ask you what the children want or Christmas?"

Let us know how that goes.

[Drover]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I am going to have a little chat with my daughter. The chat is going to go like this:

"Why do you feel the need to lie to my face when I ask you what the children want or Christmas?"

I bet you're a real pleasure at family functions.

[Larkspur123]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I am going to have a little chat with my daughter. The chat is going to go like this:

"Why do you feel the need to lie to my face when I ask you what the children want or Christmas?"

Sounds like you just want to be the winner, rather than a mom to your daughter.

[easternerDC]

Originally Posted by nolij4

I am going to have a little chat with my daughter. The chat is going to go like this:

"Why do you feel the need to lie to my face when I ask you what the children want or Christmas?"

I really feel bad for your daughter. I sincerely hope you are just Moderator Cut trying to get people here riled up.

If you are for real, are you trying to sabotage whatever relationship you may have with your daughter?

Moderator Cut