How do you tell a woman she needs to get in shape ? (depression, blood)
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I have recieved some reps to my comments in this thread, I want to reply to all in one hit....
Some have said make it fun and people will do it. My take, most workouts or exercises most people aren't going to describe as fun.
People need to look at the big picture, what IS FUN, are the spinoffs of your exercise. Improved physical and mental well being, increased life expectancy, more desirable to the gender of your choice, improved confidence.
Its a little like a guy that works a stressful job with great pay. The work is mostly not fun, but spending the money sure is.
I find working out enjoyable.
I also find yoga on at 5.30am at Sydney Harbour a heap of fun....
But agree, the best part is the energy I have for the rest of the day.
I find working out enjoyable.
I also find yoga on at 5.30am at Sydney Harbour a heap of fun....
But agree, the best part is the energy I have for the rest of the day.
It can be fun/enjoyable to a certain extent. But how many people leave a workout saying "My God that was fun". Many gym memberships go un-used.
Sports are often the best way of getting people working out with more of a fun element.
Yoga 5.30am at Sydney harbour, didn't know that. What days a week do they do that?
I have recieved some reps to my comments in this thread, I want to reply to all in one hit....
Some have said make it fun and people will do it. My take, most workouts or exercises most people aren't going to describe as fun.
People need to look at the big picture, what IS FUN, are the spinoffs of your exercise. Improved physical and mental well being, increased life expectancy, more desirable to the gender of your choice, improved confidence.
Its a little like a guy that works a stressful job with great pay. The work is mostly not fun, but spending the money sure is.
That's not true. Here are some fun dates that include physical exercise.
Take a walk around your local zoo and take the long way around.
Go hiking in a state or national park.
Go for a bike ride.
Walk around your dream neighborhood or a nice local park.
Go rollerblading.
Garden
Wash your car with your significant other. Trust me...this can be a lot of fun.
Get a dog and walk it two times a day.
Play frisbee, tennis, volleyball, badminton, etc...
Take a ballroom or Latin dance class.
Go out to a club and hit the dance floor.
Go to the pool and swim laps between lazy floating.
Go kayaking or canoeing.
Exercise can be fun and a way to connect with your significant other.
i wonder if the op were female and she wanted her man to get in shape, would people be so overly concerned about his feelings? I notice in past threads where fat men aren;t treated with the same "kid gloves" that overweight women are. Men are supposed make themselves as "attractive as possible" to succeed in the dating world, yet women want to be accepted "just as they are" hmmm double standard?? Nah never on cd!!
I wonder if the OP were female and she wanted her man to get in shape, would people be so overly concerned about HIS feelings? I notice in past threads where fat men aren;t treated with the same "kid gloves" that overweight women are. Men are supposed make themselves as "attractive as possible" to succeed in the dating world, yet women want to be accepted "just as they are" Hmmm Double standard?? Nah never on CD!!
Seeing as you have to wonder if the OP were female would the posters be giving the same reaction it seems the fat men threads you noticed weren't about an OP dating such a guy but the guy himself likely asking advice. In that there are plenty of threads/posts were fat women aren't treated with 'kid gloves'.
I have yet to see the dichotomy I bolded be the general notion if anything it seems guys are to be accepted 'just as they are' and it's shallow, superficial, stuck up for the gal to evaluate his looks and she's supposed to give him a chance.
So hey, while y'all were still fighting about this ish, my apparently "fat" arse (at least going by the comments here) went in a couple of dates with a really attractive man.
Some of you might want to try that sometime, instead of making judgments on others based on your own prejudices. Just sayin.
So hey, while y'all were still fighting about this ish, my apparently "fat" arse (at least going by the comments here) went in a couple of dates with a really attractive man.
Some of you might want to try that sometime, instead of making judgments on others based on your own prejudices. Just sayin.
I certainly would be. I don't believe it is ever appropriate to criticize a partner about that kind of thing, or try to foist your own preferences on someone you claim to love. You take people as they are, or don't take them.
So stop putting words in my mouth, and the mouths of the other women here.
Ok little girly-I think someone here needs a nap, or a Midol LOL
I brought up a fair point- I stand by it. Looks like I struck a nerve Are you a mod? I'll post whatever I choose OK? Did I specifically single YOU out?? don't get so bitchy and defensive, and certainly don't flatter yourself into thinking you crossed my mind when I posted that, especially since I was asking everyone, men, women and whatever you are
Don't tell me "you don't" ! There has to be some way to bring it up and encourage / support , ask them to loose weight and get in shape without hurting their feelings. I know being pushy or rude is no way to go but somebody has had to have hit on the exact combination of timing and words to pull it off
I don't know what relationship you have with this woman...but if it is a close one you can always ask her, "honey, do these pants 'make' me look fat? From there it's purely a matter of being subtle; maybe she will examine herself and ask the same question (at least in private to herself, perhaps).
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I have yet to see the dichotomy I bolded be the general notion if anything it seems guys are to be accepted 'just as they are' and it's shallow, superficial, stuck up for the gal to evaluate his looks and she's supposed to give him a chance.
Are you a mod? I'll post whatever I choose OK? Did I specifically single YOU out?? don't get so bitchy and defensive, and certainly don't flatter yourself into thinking you crossed my mind when I posted that, especially since I was asking everyone, men, women and whatever you are
