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If you don't have the self-discipline to help yourself, or think you look "fine" 30 lbs over-weight, then I'm showing you the door. It really is simple to diet and throw in a little bit of exercise, yet people make it seem like some death-defying act to get in shape. It says alot about your drive/will-power to neglect something so basic as your appearance. Being in shape is tantamount to your grooming/hygiene habits. It's all the same.
Cut out the sweets, watch your calorie intake, eat smaller meals throughout the day instead of a big meal. Fasting also works.
So I take it that you look like the very picture of perfection then?
Plus you created your ID and profile today. Quelle surprise!
This is the problem with this leftist culture, you have to use politically correct euphemisms around every corner, and be careful not to hurt anyone's feelings ever. It's really a child-like state we live in.
If my SO was starting to gain weight and I found it unattractive, I won't beat around the bush, and I'd expect her to take it like an adult. If not, then clearly we aren't compatible to begin with.
And what does politics have to do with you wanting to be a rude and insulting person to others, something I'm sure would set your hair ablaze if it were done to you? You seem to live by a double standard. That sounds right wing to me.
Talking about eating well is very different than body shaming. And leads to different future outcomes.
If your parents said "it is good to eat your veggies so you will stay healthy and live a long life," that is not problematic.
If your parents say "you are looking chunky/you won't be pretty like your mom/your arms look fat/ so you need to eat veggies.
Well those 2 sentences have entirely different meanings (and feelings).
I agree. I know sooooo many people that were made to feel horrible about themselves because of their weight growing up. It really did a number on them.
And then you have people like me - people with awesome parents who still developed an eating disorder. Sorry mom and dad.
If you want to be overweight, then don't expect people to respect your decision just because it's a decision you made. It shows a lack of self-discipline, plain and simple.
Actually, for starters, how someone else looks is none of your business. Or perhaps you're the common man's papparazzo and have a common man's gossip blog.
Second, it does make you look immature, infantile, and not at all grown up that you're excessively concerned with the looks of others.
Third, if you developed for yourself a fascinating life, sticking your nose into the lives of others and how they live, how they eat and what they do and what they don't, would seem relatively boring.
Actually, for starters, how someone else looks is none of your business. Or perhaps you're the common man's papparazzo and have a common man's gossip blog.
Second, it does make you look immature, infantile, and not at all grown up that you're excessively concerned with the looks of others.
Third, if you developed for yourself a fascinating life, sticking your nose into the lives of others and how they live, how they eat and what they do and what they don't, would seem relatively boring.
Don't let it get to you. I'm sure any woman that is with him would expect whatever he has to offer. One of the shallowest a-holes I ever met ended up with a girl I knew from my past. She used to be very overweight and not that attractive. I also wasn't crazy about her personality. She lost a ton of weight and had some plastic surgery and looks attractive now. I don't know if he knows all this about her but they are getting married. Hey - if they are happy - that's all that matters. Personally, I wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole. Just hope she doesn't gain all the weight back!
Reading comprehension there, kiddo. I said I won't respect you or your decision to be over-weight, cause it is your decision and in your power to change. Other than that, have fun.
However, if I have an SO letting herself go? No, that isn't going to fly.
So go your separate ways. Guaranteed that there's a guy out there who will love her up and down just fine and enjoy every inch of her. On the other hand, you might not like that so much.
Don't let it get to you. I'm sure any woman that is with him would expect whatever he has to offer. One of the shallowest a-holes I ever met ended up with a girl I knew from my past. She used to be very overweight and not that attractive. I also wasn't crazy about her personality. She lost a ton of weight and had some plastic surgery and looks attractive now. I don't know if he knows all this about her but they are getting married. Hey - if they are happy - that's all that matters. Personally, I wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole. Just hope she doesn't gain all the weight back!
I grew up in a home where we regularly discussed exercise and eating well so that we didn't get fat. Instead, I've maintained a healthy body weight for my entire life.
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I agree. I know sooooo many people that were made to feel horrible about themselves because of their weight growing up. It really did a number on them.
And then you have people like me - people with awesome parents who still developed an eating disorder. Sorry mom and dad.
My parents were mostly supportive. Once in a blue moon my dad made a well-meaning comment or two.
But they weren't great at the example setting part. Sure it was important to eat my veggies. But we always had treats in the house too. It was normal to have dessert after dinner at my house. After school snacks were fruit and veggie sticks but post dinner was cookies! My dad is (was) a junk food junky! We always had soda around too. It was also normal to "play outside" "go on a bike ride" and yes, we played video games, but my sister liked the track and field game on our nintendo's powerpad.
If you want to be overweight, then don't expect people to respect your decision just because it's a decision you made. It shows a lack of self-discipline, plain and simple.
I have recieved some reps to my comments in this thread, I want to reply to all in one hit....
Some have said make it fun and people will do it. My take, most workouts or exercises most people aren't going to describe as fun.
People need to look at the big picture, what IS FUN, are the spinoffs of your exercise. Improved physical and mental well being, increased life expectancy, more desirable to the gender of your choice, improved confidence.
Its a little like a guy that works a stressful job with great pay. The work is mostly not fun, but spending the money sure is.
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On the other hand, you might not like that so much.
