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Interesting observations.... When I was single I dated a couple gals who I didn't want to be intimate with. And I dated them several times -- dinner at my place, dinner at their places, dinner out, movies, casino visits, long drives in the country, etc. One stayed at my house enough times that she called my spare bedroom "her room". We hugged, kissed on the cheeks, etc. They were "friends only."
I've never asked a gal, "Do you want to go on a date?" To me a date is simply making plans ahead of time to get together and do something. I never realized it had to include "courting". And I never realized I was an azz for inviting them out, paying for their meals and entertainment and spending time with them either. My bad.
I'm surprised by some answers here. I thought I will see a definite "no" from every man here. Not that it's bad or good, just interesting. I know this question was directed for men, but to be honest, when I was young and dating, intimacy and sex was the first thing that would come to my mind. When I met my husband, one of my first thoughts was "man, i'd like tto screw him". That was a sign for me that I want to date him.
I think it is shallow to date a person who you have no attraction to. I think most of us can recall a couple or a marriage where the guy was in it for money, or his career (girls father owns a company) gay married men who “play” husband and father for obvious reasons. I even knew a guy who dated a black woman to get credibility with the black community that he would not otherwise have. (She was 20 years older than him and, over weight )So I guess it depends on how weak the guy is because he prolly doing it for ulterior motives
Last edited by thriftylefty; 02-14-2010 at 09:44 AM..
I'm surprised by some answers here. I thought I will see a definite "no" from every man here. Not that it's bad or good, just interesting. I know this question was directed for men, but to be honest, when I was young and dating, intimacy and sex was the first thing that would come to my mind. When I met my husband, one of my first thoughts was "man, i'd like tto screw him". That was a sign for me that I want to date him.
Well, duh... What's the purpose of "dating" someone you don't even want to touch?!
Frankly, the whole premise of this topic sounds like an oxymoron to me.
I don't bother dating women or wasting time on them if I don't see any long term prospects.
I realized at one point in my life there are just women you do not want to sleep with. Some of them are my friends and I am fine with that. I have had a few long term platonic female friends and I'm fine with that.
Now guys, I don't mean to offend ur delicacy, but since when does a man have to be attracted to a woman in order to do the wild thang? If she's willing u r attracted. Hence, the concepts such of "WAM BAM THANKYA MAM" or one night stand mentality? I know some of u may still say "I don't want to date someone I am not attracted to," but doesn't that mean u don't want to do something else? It may mean u don't want to pay for a date with money or time, but u will capitalize given the opportunity. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!
If she's just "average" by my own standards and feel that I could REALLY use some company, why the heck not?
I'm not a man, but at my young age now, I would not date someone who I had no physical attraction to. I like sex, it is important to me to feel good about my partner touching me. If I was not physically attracted to him, I would not want him touching me.
I think the kind of relationship you refer to is common with older people. It's more about companionship, someone to grow old with - not someone who's going to turn your wheels.
I'm not a man, but at my young age now, I would not date someone who I had no physical attraction to. I like sex, it is important to me to feel good about my partner touching me. If I was not physically attracted to him, I would not want him touching me.
I think the kind of relationship you refer to is common with older people. It's more about companionship, someone to grow old with - not someone who's going to turn your wheels.
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If she's willing u r attracted.
Hence, the concepts such of "WAM BAM THANKYA MAM" or one night stand mentality? I know some of u may still say "I don't want to date someone I am not attracted to," but doesn't that mean u don't want to do something else? It may mean u don't want to pay for a date with money or time, but u will capitalize given the opportunity. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!
