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Originally Posted by Brainy Intellectual Type
I can not get over the number of old friends and relatives who have decided to swear off men and dating after a few bad relationships. They assume that because a few men have treated them poorly, that they are destined to be single and without a female/male relationship forever. Many have given up on themselves, became mannish, fat and they have stopped trying to be attractive. Many have announced to the world that they are now free of men and will never date again.
Do you know any men that would say that after a bad relationship? I do not, just lots of women! Why?
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This is an old thread started by someone who is no longer a member, but it's interesting and it has been revived, so I'll bite.
There are a few presumptions here, in that the OP is assuming that the women who swear off men all get fat, become "mannish," or give up on themselves.
That's not true. I've taken time off from dating, and I did none of those things. In fact, it was because I did NOT give up on myself that I took a break from dating. I wanted to spend time with my friends, travel, work on my career, and focus on myself. I wanted to be comfortable where I was, in my own skin, without worrying about men or what men thought. It was more about me being happy with myself and my life than about men. Likewise, it wasn't after any "bad relationship," per se. I just got tired of considering what men thought, and was dissatisfied with the kind of men I was meeting at that point, so I figured it was better to get my own act together.
In a way, it kind of backfired. The less I cared about dating, the more men wanted to date me.
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