Public Display of Affection: Do you display it? (guys, couple, feeling)
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Is it ok for gay people to do PDA in most of the US? Outside of San Francisco, and a few other cities? He said it can generate heckling and flack.
I live in San Antonio, Texas, and I am a woman married to a woman. Generally we are not big on PDA but we hold hands in public with no problems and I see other lesbian couples do it all the time. I do think gay guys have a harder time, but I still see guys walking around holding hands.
I imagine it's less of a problem or issue in any larger city, regardless of where in the US, and a bigger problem in smaller towns.
I am not comfortable with more than hand holding or a quick kiss goodby or hello, but that is true for me regardless of if it's with someone of my own gender or not.
Is it ok for gay people to do PDA in most of the US? Outside of San Francisco, and a few other cities? He said it can generate heckling and flack.
That's sad. Love is love. As for Sally Sparrow I can see where they might see her holding hands with her wife as two best friends because I have women BFF's that I have done that with - it was just the loving mood we were in. But neither one bothers me at all, it sure beats two lovers fighting in public.
I am two ways about this.
I agree that grandpa may have overdone it, yet sometimes willfully not touching builds up sexual tension. I have known people for whom the outward expression of emotion did not easily manifest, but I felt very loved by them. I do think that if you are close you pick up on each other in some psychic way. I hope I don't come off as too odd by saying that.
Sometimes, by restraining a lot of obvious outward demonstration, you can become more sensitive and attuned to each other.
If you observe some other animals, cats come to mind, some are very touchy-feely and others like being close, but not touching. I have never felt less love from the latter. We each have different temperaments.
No you don't come off as odd goldgrain. I understand perfectly what you said and it's true too. As a generalization most people will be as their parents were, which is why I said that about my folks so readers of my post could see "why" I think the way I do, not that it's the only way to think. Yet it is how I personally view love to be shown. My husband is not overtly physically demonstrative to me and it does leave me feeling empty sometimes. I wish he were more openly affectionate but he shows his love in other ways which I have learned to appreciate. Maybe because the way I was raised I am a serotonin junkie and need that show of physical affection which is why I have to dogs that raise my serotonin levels daily.
There have been studies done that physical affectionate contact, hugging, etc. induces the brain's serotonin levels to increase so I, personally, see it as a healthy part of one's life. Makes for happier folks on Earth.
My boyfriend likes to kiss me in public and then say quite loudly, "You're the best sister ever!"
-_-
He thinks it's hilarious. :P lol
Hahaha. That's so messed up.
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