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This past weekend I attended a high school reunion/meet up at a local club.
I am naturally a very affectionate person and it becomes ten fold after a few (dozen ) beverages, especially with people I haven’t seen in years (it was 10 years at least for some of them). I was hugging, dancing with, holding hands as we were walking through the club crowd and protectively rubbing the backs of my ex classmates, both male and female. I have known them for most of my life and even though we don't see each another much I consider them more or less my brothers and sisters.
I awoke the next morning concerned about my actions as one of the boys had asked me for a kiss during the night and I could see that at least one other was showing interest in me (at least that’s how I perceived it). They both know I have a man as I talked about him a lot during the night.
How do you perceive strong affection from friends? Guys, from women friends?
It wasn't my intention to lead anyone on, and I would hate to think that some of these good male friends now see me as a “tease”.
I"m find this troubling myself as well with this new girl I met just a few weeks after my 5 year relationship ended. She also had a bad falling out with a long term mate and is also recovering. She stated and we both agreed that friends would be best for the time being. I like her so much I can't help but be an utmost gentlemen and give her sutble hints that I want us to be in a relationship down the road but without scaring or throwing her off at the same time. All weve done physically is hugging me and shake hands, thats it.
i wish i were a bit more physically affectionate with people... hugging, touching someone's back as you guide them somewhere, handshake, kiss on the cheek... all OK
but i dont think should be holding hands with a male friend... one guy i know really likes to put his hands on a girl's hip or is just generally super touchy feely. quite disgusting and makes him seem like a perv. i think some girls are more embarrassed than actually receptive. where's a taser gun when you need it?
anyways, those two guys sound pretty clueless... if they didnt notice that's how you were with everyone. no special treatment here. move on, folks.
Well VG i can see how they would feel that way. So even though you are affectionate you have to realize this stuff is perceived by most people as a signal you want more and back off some.
I don't like strong affection... especially from other women... And not from guys that are just my friends either. I like it even less if the person is drunk. I don't think I am the affectionate type. I thought I was till I dated a really affectionate guy. He was a good kisser too... He was just too affectionate and I could not take it! I say let's do what we are going to do in the thralls of passion and be done with it
Well VG i can see how they would feel that way. So even though you are affectionate you have to realize this stuff is perceived by most people as a signal you want more and back off some.
ITA - to me you can be affectionate but honestly some of the things you mentioned can come across as being flirty and wanting more. I would take the time to pay more attention to how others are acting. IME most people aren't constantly touching and hanging all over everyone.
WOW. Negate my earlier post, I completely misinterpreted the OP thread topic.
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) beverages, especially with people I haven’t seen in years (it was 10 years at least for some of them). I was hugging, dancing with, holding hands as we were walking through the club crowd and protectively rubbing the backs of my ex classmates, both male and female. I have known them for most of my life and even though we don't see each another much I consider them more or less my brothers and sisters. 
