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We all know the concept of a SAHM has always been a thing, but women, would you honestly be okay being married to a SAHD? Say you were the one with a great career and he did do all the cleaning, cooking, errands, child care and everything that SAHMs do, would you be fine with it?
If he did indeed do all the cleaning, cooking, errands, child care and everything SAHMs do. I think the problem many women have with a SAHD is they dont do these things.
We had over the years 2 men here at work who thought they would be SAHDs when their child was born because their wifes make more money. They would say things like, yeah piece of cake, It takes what about one hour to clean the house then Ill just strap the kid in and we'll go fishing.........
One never did one lasted one year with help from his MIL and was chomping at the bits to go back to work.
You also have to remeber this not everyone has the same set of living standards, circumstances or responsibilities in life. This will contribute heavily to how much work being a stay at home parent will take on.
It's hard to relate everyone's experience to one another in such a one to one way without going in to the specifics of everyone's lives.
The problem is when you try to go back to work. If you have a gap in your resume, it is not uncommon for a women to say I raised my children and no one bats an eye. But, a man says that.........eek, he will be looked at sideways and scrutinized intensely. Men are looked at as "bums" or "lazy" if they would choose to stay at home.
The problem is when you try to go back to work. If you have a gap in your resume, it is not uncommon for a women to say I raised my children and no one bats an eye. But, a man says that.........eek, he will be looked at sideways and scrutinized intensely. Men are looked at as "bums" or "lazy" if they would choose to stay at home.
I knew a guy who was a SAHD for a few years, he nearly off'ed himself because he couldn't get an interview or a job due to having that gap in his resume. Guy had a degree and everything, recruiters even told him that the SAHD thing was a "dumb move". Luckily, he landed on his feet.
I knew a guy who was a SAHD for a few years, he nearly off'ed himself because he couldn't get an interview or a job due to having that gap in his resume. Guy had a degree and everything, recruiters even told him that the SAHD thing was a "dumb move". Luckily, he landed on his feet.
How long ago was this, and what industry? Not that it should matter, but what's good for the goose is good for the gander--stay at home parents should be viewed the same.
How long ago was this, and what industry? Not that it should matter, but what's good for the goose is good for the gander--stay at home parents should be viewed the same.
Around 2015, ironically the "tech" industry (since that industry is full of SJW's and PC culture I found it ironic). And I agree they should be viewed the "same". But, this is reality and unfortunately reality doesn't care about "what should be" and what your concept of fair is. SAHM's have issues with gaps in their resumes too, but you'll never hear somebody say a SAHM is "lazy" "just doesn't want to work" "they need to be a real woman(or man)" etc. The problem he also faced was being shunned by other men, especially when he volunteered to coach his sons football teams. Women though he was cool though
Around 2015, ironically the "tech" industry (since that industry is full of SJW's and PC culture I found it ironic). And I agree they should be viewed the "same". But, this is reality and unfortunately reality doesn't care about "what should be" and what your concept of fair is. SAHM's have issues with gaps in their resumes too, but you'll never hear somebody say a SAHM is "lazy" "just doesn't want to work" "they need to be a real woman(or man)" etc. The problem he also faced was being shunned by other men, especially when he volunteered to coach his sons football teams. Women though he was cool though
your friend should have lied and left off the gap. just say he worked there until recently like a couple/few months ago. and if he has friends at his old job...they could probably vouch for him if the company that interviewed him called or something.
even though it's 2017 and this is changing for the better...there are still some companies here and there that discriminate against stay at home dad's. it's unfortunate..but i don't think you can take that chance if you're looking for a job to have a gap because you took care of your children.
The problem is when you try to go back to work. If you have a gap in your resume, it is not uncommon for a women to say I raised my children and no one bats an eye. But, a man says that.........eek, he will be looked at sideways and scrutinized intensely. Men are looked at as "bums" or "lazy" if they would choose to stay at home.
Sure, for women it's not that surprising to be a SAHM (compared to SAHD), but there are few professions where that will get them any points either.
The problem is when you try to go back to work. If you have a gap in your resume, it is not uncommon for a women to say I raised my children and no one bats an eye. But, a man says that.........eek, he will be looked at sideways and scrutinized intensely. Men are looked at as "bums" or "lazy" if they would choose to stay at home.
You think its any different for a woman. Even though it may be more socially acceptable for a woman to be a SAH, that social attitude doesn't make up for the gap in your resume or getting behind in current procedures or new breakthroughs in technology or whatever.
Seriously doubt an employer is going to give much consideration to what you were doing during those years as long as it wasn't being incarcerated or joining a cult.
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