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As for those that have husbands that aren't up to the task of housekeeping, just remember if/when you have boys.... Father raised me to participate in all household chores. My main responsibility (even today in my household) is the kitchen; cooking and cleaning. This was quite the departure from the father's culture in which only the girls in the household were taught household skills. Father wasn't perfect but that decision (and the one to push me to college) were right on.
Mine is just cluttery, completely unfazed by clutter (actually prefers it), and is chronically disorganized. He wouldn't keep a neat house because he doesn't prioritize keeping a neat house. Disarray does not bother him. He could be up to the task of acceptable housekeeping, if he so chose...he has the capability. It just is simply not a priority. He has many, many outstanding traits. His organizational behavior is not at the the top of that list, though, in many ways.
When my husband is a SAHD, we will be hiring out for housekeeping.
Wise woman.
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Mine is just cluttery, completely unfazed by clutter (actually prefers it), and is chronically disorganized. He wouldn't keep a neat house because he doesn't prioritize keeping a neat house. Disarray does not bother him. He could be up to the task of acceptable housekeeping, if he so chose...he has the capability. It just is simply not a priority. He has many, many outstanding traits. His organizational behavior is not at the the top of that list, though, in many ways.
That's interesting, because I'd always thought that military guys have that kind of tidiness drilled into them (NPI).
That's interesting, because I'd always thought that military guys have that kind of tidiness drilled into them (NPI).
You would think. But my ex, who felt very much at home in the military and could keep their standards when he had to...at home, was a filthy slob and a hoarder.
You would think. But my ex, who felt very much at home in the military and could keep their standards when he had to...at home, was a filthy slob and a hoarder.
You know, It's a tactic I used to use as a kid.
When I am too lazy to do something, I also pretend to be bad at it. Then no one asks or expects anything.
When I am too lazy to do something, I also pretend to be bad at it. Then no one asks or expects anything.
I think a lot of people here are being had.
I agree. /lol
I read somewhere that in a household, whoever cares the most about something, is in charge of it.
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Yeah, that's really perfect if you want your spouse to resent you increasingly over the years for never helping and expecting them to do everything for you like a child...and eventually break up with you.
I knew very well that my ex was doing that. And I just took on the work, for the most part, and simmered and hated him for it, lost respect and grew contempt for him. Of course that was one factor among many, but it was one of the more persistent ongoing ones.
But when I refer to my ex as a slob and a hoarder, I mean that he would leave perishable food sitting on the bedroom floor overnight, and then stick it back in the fridge, wipe his greasy or filthy food smeared hands on our bedspread, and his version of cleaning up was to basically put every object that was out of place, into a box or tub, mixed together, and stack it in a closet or in the garage. Then, when he could not find something, he'd just go buy another one. I have no idea how many hammers we owned. Probably at least ten. Lucky if we ever knew where one could be located at any time. Those boxes were full of tattered paperbacks, random tools and hardware, dirty socks, junk mail and other trash, maybe a dirty dish or two...etc. Hoarder.
Oh, and during his time as a stay at home jerk, he also got four dogs and put them in the yard and ignored and neglected them. Guess that was supposed to become my job too?
Anyone who thinks they're being cute manipulating their partner into doing all the work, with the whole "I'm no good at it" game, probably doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. That crap IS childish.
I read somewhere that in a household, whoever cares the most about something, is in charge of it.
That's perfectly ok if you agree to it willingly. Not cool if someone has to manipulate you into it.
Present bf and I agree that I do the dishes, it's a chore I actually enjoy doing. He cleans bathrooms. I don't like doing that. No stupid games necessary.
Anyone who thinks they're being cute manipulating their partner into doing all the work, with the whole "I'm no good at it" game, probably doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. That crap IS childish.
Yup.
And as we can see, plenty of people marry these folks and are willing to overlook this foible.
I know both men and women who are PROUD of using this tactic.
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