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HIM:
Top notch executive
Great college education
attractive
very smart
middle aged
HER:
Secretary
high school graduate
attractive
middle aged
They have some of the same hobbies but mainly he can't really talk to her about stuff he is interested about (like politics).
Her favorite topics are celebrities ...
Anyone ever seen it work (outside the bedroom)?
Can they have a fulfilling conversation at the dinner table or does he get bored of her rather quickly because she it not on his level?
I don't believe it can work in the long run. The only emotion he will feel regarding her is pity due to her lack of intelligence and lust if she is attractive.
He would get bored with her quickly and start getting irritated by her.
HIM:
Top notch executive
Great college education
attractive
very smart
middle aged
HER:
Secretary
high school graduate
attractive
middle aged
They have some of the same hobbies but mainly he can't really talk to her about stuff he is interested about (like politics).
Her favorite topics are celebrities ...
Anyone ever seen it work (outside the bedroom)?
Can they have a fulfilling conversation at the dinner table or does he get bored of her rather quickly because she it not on his level?
The concern is less about boredom while in each other's company, than with eventual descent into strife and animosity. The less-established partner will come to believe that the better-established partner regards her as being less than his equal. She will feel condescension, whether or not her partner exudes it. He, on the other hand, may subconsciously feel that he "could do better", and would therefore be reluctant to emotionally invest in the relationship.
The standard trope is that much of this imbalance is attenuated if the less-established partner is comparatively more attractive than her counterpart. Then the wealth and status of the one, would counterbalance the physical appeal of the other. I am persuaded that though this might have worked in the past, it's dicey and problematic today.
Also, is "middle aged" closer to 40 or to 60? The older the couple, the less the social and pecuniary distinctions matter.
HIM:
Top notch executive
Great college education
attractive
very smart
middle aged LIKES THE OTHER PERSON
HER:
Secretary
high school graduate
attractive
middle aged LIKES THE OTHER PERSON
Since the jaded people always like to treat a relationship like some sort of balance sheet, let me throw something in there that will balance it all out.
To me all the bullet points don't matter. What does matter is they cannot share conversation. It could still work, lots of couples do not share common interests, but I wouldn't be happy.
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To me all the bullet points don't matter. What does matter is they cannot share conversation. It could still work, lots of couples do not share common interests, but I wouldn't be happy.
How true.
Wifey and I don't have a lot in common but we communicate very well. Also, both of us are dedicated to our marriage. That's all it takes.
I consciously stated "outside bedroom" because I don't want to make it dependend on sex.
And both are attractive.
My question is just all about the differences of class. Of course she knows proper etiquette if they go to a dinner party. But she won't be able to participate in many of the conversations there. Even if she just talks with the women, she still doesn't have much in common with them.
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