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No and I'd recommend against anyone waiting until marriage unless you subscribe to a strict religious way of life in which your sexual satisfaction isn't important and sex is strictly for procreation.
It's just a bad idea. Sexual compatibility is one of many important factors to consider when choosing a life partner and you can't know if you're compatible until you dive in. Doesn't mean you have to sleep with every chick who comes along, just find someone who satisfies the non-physical aspects of a relationship, then explore the physical, then get married.
I would never date a man that wouldn't have sex until marriage. I would also assume that someone that wanted to do this would be too conservative in other areas of their life, so we probably wouldn't be compatible in many of the non-physical aspects of the relationship anyway.
No way would I wait until married to find out too late that the only thing that turns him on is whips and chains and pain - or to find out that he has a very small sex drive, either of which you will now be living with every day too. Pass, thanks. Lack of compatibility in that area will shred a relationship.
Would you date a man who won't have sex until marriage?
No way. Having sexual compatibility is very important to me in a long term relationship. And I am also a fan of living with a boyfriend for several years before deciding to get married. I'd also like to add that I don't think it wise to get engaged sooner than three years of dating, and married after five years of being together. I'd want to make sure that it was true love and not honeymoon period infatuation driving our relationship.
Otherwise, I could see a possible compromise as having sex after the couple are engaged and serious about getting married to each other. But no way would I gamble getting married without trying out the goods... so to speak.
It's taken as a big joke if you're a woman -- so assuming it's going to be a joke if you're a man as well....They all need to hop into bed together pronto to figure out if a person is worthy of being with long term, since you know, the whole relationship hinges on sex. If you're not 'good enough' they need time to test out the next partner and so on and so forth.
I'm a guy and I'd wait until after marriage to have sex. But if I'm dating a woman who is very pretty and has a great career - a real good catch, - and if she insists on sex to try me out before marriage, then maybe I'd give in. But if I have sex with a woman I'd like straight, pretend lesbian, and role reversal sex with her. Would test out oral sex but no anal sex too.
I think Gina Lima or some Victorias Secret model stayed a virgin until marriage too.
I'm a guy and I'd wait until after marriage to have sex. But if I'm dating a woman who is very pretty and has a great career - a real good catch, - and if she insists on sex to try me out before marriage, then maybe I'd give in. But if I have sex with a woman I'd like straight, pretend lesbian, and role reversal sex with her. Would test out oral sex but no anal sex too.
I think Gina Lima or some Victorias Secret model stayed a virgin until marriage too.
No offense Jesse (enjoy your posts on the Chicago thread), but you are like the poster child for why a woman may not want to date a man who won't have sex before marriage.
You do enjoy cross-dressing in women's clothing and role reversal, pretend lesbian sex. That is something a girl should know before marrying a guy, don't you think? It works best if the man is very up-front about these desires before marriage and the woman is good with that. Many women are not good with that. Do you think most men would be upfront about that sort of thing before marrying/having first time sex with a woman?
Considering that we live in a different time now, I reckon most won't go with a person who won't have sex until marriage. That's how sexual active this society is right now.
I fully respect those who wait till marriage, whether it be for personal or religious reasons. I give credit to the OP for that. But being a virgin is frown upon nowadays, especially after you get older.
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