How to deal with a pregnant teen (custody, ideas, teenagers)
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Keep taking pictures and make sure the date stamp is on them. He'll look like a fool in court if he says she doesn't let him see the child and you have date stamped pictures of 3 days of every week. If he's like most liars, he's not really thinking about the possibility that pictures would be used against him. I wouldn't even hint at the possibility. Just keep taking lots of fun happy pictures. Let him dig is credibility grave in front of a judge.
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Originally Posted by Meyerland
I would also keep a log of the dates/times of his visits.
It is sad that people need to do that, but it is better to be prepared with documentation than be blindsided and wish that you had the documentation.
We have a log of visits. We also have when his grandmothers have come to visit as well.
He has only missed one and that was due to school.
It is very sad that she has to do this. It just makes no sense to lie. The problem with people that do is that they don't even realize they lie. It just comes naturally. They believe most of what they say.
The baby will never find out about the paternity test. She certainly won't remember it and I'm sure my daughter won't tell her about it. I know I never would either.
That's just incredible. It was perfectly reasonable of him to file for joint legal custody and visitation, to ensure his rights to the child. He didn't have to lie. But now, assuming no one tips him off about it (I sure hope he doesn't look at city data forum), he's going to look like an idiot in court if he tells the judge that mother won't let him see the baby. Take screen shots of his social media pictures and save them all.
I think that what he'll tell the judge is that mother won't let him take the baby unsupervised to his home for visitation, which is true. And I hope that the judge tells him not until the baby is older, hopefully much older.
And don't worry about him finding city data forum. I don't think young people look at this at all.
That's just incredible. It was perfectly reasonable of him to file for joint legal custody and visitation, to ensure his rights to the child. He didn't have to lie. But now, assuming no one tips him off about it (I sure hope he doesn't look at city data forum), he's going to look like an idiot in court if he tells the judge that mother won't let him see the baby. Take screen shots of his social media pictures and save them all.
I think that what he'll tell the judge is that mother won't let him take the baby unsupervised to his home for visitation, which is true. And I hope that the judge tells him not until the baby is older, hopefully much older.
And don't worry about him finding city data forum. I don't think young people look at this at all.
I have thought about this myself... jersey's ID obviously suggests she's in Jersey...Warren County no less... and if someone really wanted to go thru this entire thread there are lots of clues that could help identify both families, especially if someone is a "friend of a friend" and puts the clues together. It's not outside the realm of possibility.
While I agree that young people likely aren't in the Parenting forum there are plenty of other subject forums that could bring them to city-data... you never know.
Point being, the OP needs to be circumspect and not share EVERYthing...IMO. We all have to remember that everything on city-data forums can be Googled. I tried it once for something I posted and sure enough, there it was. And of course, it lives FOREVER.
True, but she hasn't posted names, or actual town, or the schools they attend. I think it's pretty anonymous, unless someone who actually knows them and knows the story also likes to lurk on CD and looks at the parenting forum. And the fact is, nothing she has posted is inflammatory. I don't think she has anything to worry about.
No. I'm careful to not say inflammatory things or anything else that's untrue.
I don't live like that. I don't say anything that I wouldn't directly to anyone either. It's ok. I really have nothing to hide or be afraid of in that respect.
Really the only thing anyone can find out on here is that we know they have lied. Which they know anyway about the other stuff. This is the one thing she's holding under her hat is that she knows he lied when he filed.
It's all ok.
And no she doesn't let the baby go unsupervised but that was agreed to as well.
The baby will never find out about the paternity test. She certainly won't remember it and I'm sure my daughter won't tell her about it. I know I never would either.
I've already since forgotten about the one I did. I got the results in an email, which I squirreled away to a folder I don't even look at anymore. Out of sight, out of mind, and move on.
The baby will never find out about the paternity test. She certainly won't remember it and I'm sure my daughter won't tell her about it. I know I never would either.
The paternity test isn't a big deal. It's a standard procedure that isn't worth mentioning and wouldn't come up in normal conversations. She could find out about it someday simply because family court records are publicly available on the internet. When my son's friend came to live with us because his mother kicked him out of the house before he was 18, I looked up his divorced parents court documents online. It was all there for his whole life----every single filing, motion, etc. Even without looking online, these are documents parents keep forever in their filing cabinets. Nosy teenagers eventually go through stuff like that. Even though that's very unlikely, I'm trying to convey that this isn't something to be ashamed of. You are treating this paternity test like it's some shocking family secret. Approach it, psychologically within your own minds, as a routine event parents go through when they end up in court for custody. Some states mandate paternity tests for custody hearings if the parents aren't married.
Yeah, I don't see it as a big deal. Obviously, the child will know her parents never married. It's just part of the normal court proceedings not some shocking secret.
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