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O/T seems to have a number of really great non-judgmental listeners. Lots of folks on here who have really good life experiences, and "get it". If any of us are having a bad day, or many bad days it is a good and safe place to come.
I've been a member of C-D for awhile now and only in O/T and community chat did I feel relaxed to share life's tortuous hilarity without fear of negative repercussion.
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Originally Posted by nimchimpsky
Ugh I know that feeling. I can't confide in my dad either (I live with him). It's not because he would tell everyone though. It's because he would just deny it all and make me feel worse about it, even though I have physical evidence on my body and other people who were there who remember too.
Sorry to hear that nimchimpsky! But I trust your spirit to be strong enough (we've been friends from R&P) to endure these trials.
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Originally Posted by BECLAZONE
I think that is why many of us are here, just reaching out.
I once happened to be in a room with five child phycharistrists (can't spell it!) I could'nt
resist, I piped up "it all started when I was seven years old" and proceeded to give them a
quick run down on my life as a child. When I got to the part where I told them my father
used to tell me to go outside, because he feared I was making his horses lose in the TV
racing, that he had bets on, they just could'nt stop laughing. One said "are you making all
this up?" "No, all true" I confirmed!! "No wonder you're nuts" one said.
Sorry couldn't resist a smile Dave! Sensing from your posts, a positive mindset was born who could laugh at life's brutal rendering!
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Originally Posted by pamelaBeurman
I know which one i'd prefer to be my doctor, the honest one!
I'm so glad you get that. I'm tired of people telling me to forget it or get over it.
People say get over it because they are selfish types and haven't a clue what it feels like. All they think of is its spoiling their good mood and we can't have that now can we. Another one I love is people telling you to "snap out of it", oh sure I'll do that, like anyone wants or enjoys feeling depressed and needy. I was always the helper not the helpee, I hate being in this role. It's a superficial world made up of superficial selfish people, sad but true.
I hate being alone, always have, so its rather comical that I've been totally alone for many years. I will say I got taken to task a couple of times on this O/T forum for sharing. It's funny on the internet people suddenly grow b.alls and say things they would never in a million years say to ones face. I keep that in mind now before posting. Why people enjoy being mean and nasty to people that have done nothing to them, I don't get that one at all.
Truth be told, most shrinks are more off the mark than their patients.
"Back in the day" the church/school in my neighborhood the priests and nuns were verbally abusive (some physically), the priest hearing your confession would lecture, scold you and name off the sins you committed and sometimes step out of the confessional to confront you face to face or to see who was confessing and make your life miserable! Trust me when I say it was the scariest feeling in the world to a 7,8,9,10 year old to go to confession and you HAD TO GO, they kept tabs on who did and didn't go. I can guarantee there are other CDers who have had similar experiences from the Roman Catholic church "back in the day"
Fortunately, not everyone had that same experience. My friend is a cradle catholic and now in his 70s and he was never mistreated by nuns or priests.
So much right now. Between my friend's death from being hit by a car and the flashbacks I get of my own near-death experiences I just need someone to friggin' talk to. I know I probably inappropriately keep bringing it up in CD threads but that's why. I have a counselor lined up when school starts again but that's in another week. Right now I just couldn't feel more alone in the world. I feel like I've lost it. My muscles are sore from shaking. My anxiety is through the roof. I'll be okay one minute and the next minute I'll be crying like a baby, in public (something I would usually never do). Yesterday I thought I was in North Carolina again (I live in DC now) and thought my life was in danger. I don't even remember the whole thing but apparently I emailed a few people and they told me about it later. According to my roommate, my ex tried to strangle me to death and tried to stab me and if it weren't for my roommate pulling her off me I would have probably died. I don't sleep at night. I just get flashbacks. The people I have right now in my life don't understand. They either think if I just "stop thinking about it" it'll go away, or they just can't relate and don't know what to do or say to make me feel better. I need to talk to someone who gets it. I need to tell someone everything that happened that I can remember, and I need to remember the parts I blocked out, so that I can move on from it.
I can empathize with you.
My step-father was very abusive, my mother was, in many ways, his enabler. It took me years to realize that it wasn't my fault and that he was a pathetic piece of excrement. Now, I just pity him. As for my mother, if there is a hell, she has her own suite.
I can't tell you how to deal with this, I wish I could because I understand how hard it is. The healing process is different for everybody. The best suggestion I can offer is to begin by finding a place where you feel safe, then the healing can begin.
Just remember that you can always find someone here to talk to when needed.
I am truly grateful to you all for being here, believe me, I am, thank you.
I don't know what to say now.
You could also try joining in one of the chat threads: The Village; Our Open House or Cozy Inn. There are a lot of nice people in all of those threads. They are fun and lighthearted, but also very supportive when you just need a friend.
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You could also try joining in one of the chat threads: The Village; Our Open House or Cozy Inn. There are a lot of nice people in all of those threads. They are fun and lighthearted, but also very supportive when you just need a friend.
I had never thought of that, I may just have a look in to see what’s going on. That could be good for me, though I don’t think of myself as chatty.
I had never thought of that, I may just have a look in to see what’s going on. That could be good for me, though I don’t think of myself as chatty.
Come on over to the Village!
I'm a newbie over there myself and despite the large number of dog houses, nobody bites.:d
It's a good place to just shoot the breeze with people and learn to be chatty. Conversation is a learned art for some of us, i've always been the opinionated rather than chatty type myself but it's a cathartic experience to just talk.
I had never thought of that, I may just have a look in to see what’s going on. That could be good for me, though I don’t think of myself as chatty.
Beclazone, you really should come see. Quite often some of the same posters visit each of the chat threads and others just stay in one. PJ8 was correct when she said they're fun and light-hearted, but if you need a friend (and sometimes a virtual friend is better than real life) there's always someone ready to step up and listen. No judging either.
Oops, I must have posted at the same time as PB. She mentioned The Village and I visit the Cozy Inn. Some days you feel like talking, other days not so much. Come take a look at all three!
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Great ideas! I know that OT and CC saved me after my Mom died in 2007 right after I joined. This chatting thing is learned for me too, but I really come away knowing that people are nice and they do care.
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But I trust your spirit to be strong enough (we've been friends from R&P) to endure these trials.
I once happened to be in a room with five child phycharistrists (can't spell it!) I could'nt
