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Ugh I know that feeling. I can't confide in my dad either (I live with him). It's not because he would tell everyone though. It's because he would just deny it all and make me feel worse about it, even though I have physical evidence on my body and other people who were there who remember too.
None of us can just forget, and sometimes we shouldn't, no matter what we are told to do.
O/T seems to have a number of really great non-judgmental listeners. Lots of folks on here who have really good life experiences, and "get it". If any of us are having a bad day, or many bad days it is a good and safe place to come.
I think that is why many of us are here, just reaching out.
I'm not Catholic and now I'm curious. Movies and TV all my life have shown scenes of confession with confessor listened to and treated gently. Would you mind describing how it was back in the day?[/quote]
"Back in the day" the church/school in my neighborhood the priests and nuns were verbally abusive (some physically), the priest hearing your confession would lecture, scold you and name off the sins you committed and sometimes step out of the confessional to confront you face to face or to see who was confessing and make your life miserable! Trust me when I say it was the scariest feeling in the world to a 7,8,9,10 year old to go to confession and you HAD TO GO, they kept tabs on who did and didn't go. I can guarantee there are other CDers who have had similar experiences from the Roman Catholic church "back in the day"
I'm not Catholic and now I'm curious. Movies and TV all my life have shown scenes of confession with confessor listened to and treated gently. Would you mind describing how it was back in the day?
"Back in the day" the church/school in my neighborhood the priests and nuns were verbally abusive (some physically), the priest hearing your confession would lecture, scold you and name off the sins you committed and sometimes step out of the confessional to confront you face to face or to see who was confessing and make your life miserable! Trust me when I say it was the scariest feeling in the world to a 7,8,9,10 year old to go to confession and you HAD TO GO, they kept tabs on who did and didn't go. I can guarantee there are other CDers who have had similar experiences from the Roman Catholic church "back in the day"[/quote]
Yes, they kept tabs on who went to confession back then. I remember that if I didn't go to confession every week with the rest of my class, during Mass the nuns would say (not quietly), 'everyone in this row can take communion except _____________. (and they'd call out my name and frown at me)
That sounds severely frightening and the church is supposed to be a place of peace and safety! I don't know what to say except I'm very sorry you grew up with that.
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Originally Posted by tiluha
"Back in the day" the church/school in my neighborhood the priests and nuns were verbally abusive (some physically), the priest hearing your confession would lecture, scold you and name off the sins you committed and sometimes step out of the confessional to confront you face to face or to see who was confessing and make your life miserable! Trust me when I say it was the scariest feeling in the world to a 7,8,9,10 year old to go to confession and you HAD TO GO, they kept tabs on who did and didn't go. I can guarantee there are other CDers who have had similar experiences from the Roman Catholic church "back in the day"
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Originally Posted by LilyLady
Yes, they kept tabs on who went to confession back then. I remember that if I didn't go to confession every week with the rest of my class, during Mass the nuns would say (not quietly), 'everyone in this row can take communion except _____________. (and they'd call out my name and frown at me)
I once happened to be in a room with five child phycharistrists (can't spell it!) I could'nt
resist, I piped up "it all started when I was seven years old" and proceeded to give them a
quick run down on my life as a child. When I got to the part where I told them my father
used to tell me to go outside, because he feared I was making his horses lose in the TV
racing, that he had bets on, they just could'nt stop laughing. One said "are you making all
this up?" "No, all true" I confirmed!! "No wonder you're nuts" one said.
None of us can just forget, and sometimes we shouldn't, no matter what we are told to do.
I'm so glad you get that. I'm tired of people telling me to forget it or get over it. They don't get just how much it hurts. It's nice to have someone who does. Thank you.
I once happened to be in a room with five child phycharistrists (can't spell it!) I could'nt
resist, I piped up "it all started when I was seven years old" and proceeded to give them a
quick run down on my life as a child. When I got to the part where I told them my father
used to tell me to go outside, because he feared I was making his horses lose in the TV
racing, that he had bets on, they just could'nt stop laughing. One said "are you making all
this up?" "No, all true" I confirmed!! "No wonder you're nuts" one said.
I know which one i'd prefer to be my doctor, the honest one!
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That sounds severely frightening and the church is supposed to be a place of peace and safety! I don't know what to say except I'm very sorry you grew up with that.
I once happened to be in a room with five child phycharistrists (can't spell it!) I could'nt
