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Sorry but implying that I look old and that I need to hurry up and get married before its too late is not what I call 'harmless teasing'. It's really disrespectful and unprofessional and I don't think that I am being immature for wanting to report it. It's not acceptable at all
Don't you have a tongue in your head?
This is why your generation gets labeled as "snowflakes".
You tell her "why don't you worry about passing nursing school, instead of my personal life, which is none of your business anyway, I am here to learn and I suggest you do the same".
Done.
If you are this sensitive how are you going to deal with distraught or angry family members who are upset over an ill or possibly dying family member?
With people like this you nip it in the bud, and do it with comments like I stated, you don't curse, but you firmly tell them this subject is up for discussion.
I feel that reporting it to the Dean might help mediate the situation. Because she is obviously trying to bait me into a argument or even physical fight. She's a single mother with two kids, if I bring that up she is going to get mad at me and want to fight.
Bait you into a physical fight ?!?! What kind of school environment is this? I have seven years of college and over 40 years in various job settings and I have never, ever been in situation where someone was trying to bait me into a physical fight nor have I even seen a situation like that (now, I have seen children or teenagers get into fights, but never adults in school or on a job).
I'm a 25 year old nursing student. In my group, I am one of two women who don't have children (the other one is married) while the other students are single, with out of wedlock children. One of my classmates who I thought was a decent person, will out of nowhere say to me "you need to hurry up and get married before its too late". She has no idea how old I am nor does she know my relationship status. Then once someone mentioned me being young only for her to say "who is young?" with a sly grin on her face. She keeps implying that I'm old and need to get married before its too late.
I feel that my personal decision to remain childless and single is none of her business. I find it strange that she keeps pressuring me to get married instead of pressuring the single mothers to get married because they have children. Her behavior has made me really insecure about myself and my appearance. I am not old nor do I think I look old. Should I report her to the dean because I am sick and tired of this
The Dean can tell her that what she is saying is completely inappropriate. She has said this a few times and I feel like its harassment. Also, I cannot avoid her because we are assigned to a small group together and we all have to work together.
So you think that by tattling on her, she'll be easier to be around? Best advice is don't go telling the teacher. My guess is that's she's jealous of your freedoms.
Bait you into a physical fight ?!?! What kind of school environment is this? I have seven years of college and over 40 years in various job settings and I have never, ever been in situation where someone was trying to bait me into a physical fight nor have I even seen a situation like that (now, I have seen children or teenagers get into fights, but never adults in school or on a job).
C'mon what good is going to come out of me saying "at least I don't have two kids without a wedding ring"...those are fighting words right there, that is enough to get someone riled up and ready to fight. That's why I always ignore her comments
Bait you into a physical fight ?!?! What kind of school environment is this? I have seven years of college and over 40 years in various job settings and I have never, ever been in situation where someone was trying to bait me into a physical fight nor have I even seen a situation like that (now, I have seen children or teenagers get into fights, but never adults in school or on a job).
You have to realize that today due to raising a generation or two where everyone gets a medal, no one ever loses, we have younger people running around who can't handle any criticism. I think the OP's classmate is a moron, but she can't grasp that there are other ways of handling this other than running to the Dean(which is laughable) or getting into a physical altercation.
I never heard of anyone in college or in the workplace that got into a physical fight either.
Let's face it, if the current younger generation were the generation fighting WW2 we would all be speaking German. Not saying all, but you can't help but notice how quickly they get overly upset over minor issues.
"60 Minutes" did a piece on this a few years ago, it showed parents of college educated 20 somethings calling the company if their son or daughter got a bad performance review at their corporate job.
So you think that by tattling on her, she'll be easier to be around? Best advice is don't go telling the teacher. My guess is that's she's jealous of your freedoms.
Exactly, now you have a real problem. Like getting your car keyed in the parking lot.
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Originally Posted by misssusie123
C'mon what good is going to come out of me saying "at least I don't have two kids without a wedding ring"...those are fighting words right there, that is enough to get someone riled up and ready to fight. That's why I always ignore her comments
I posted earlier an example of what you could say, did you not see it?
You simply tell her that you're both there to learn, as nursing is field you need to study for, not discuss your personal life, which is none of her business.
With any luck she will get miffed(these types usually do) and she won't interact with you.
You're not there to make friends, you're there to learn.
Do you not understand there are other things to say or do rather than run to the Dean or get snarky with her?
Nip it in the bud "I am here to learn, not discuss my personal life".
You better get a thicker skin, nurses get yelled at by patients and family members, you think you're going to lunge at someone who is upset and yells at you?
So you think that by tattling on her, she'll be easier to be around? Best advice is don't go telling the teacher. My guess is that's she's jealous of your freedoms.
It really sounds to me like they are just acting like many women and girls do (I shouldn't say females, guys do it with their buddies too) - they often tease and banter with each other that they consider friends. It seems to me they think she is one of them and she thinks they are the enemy! They probably don't realize how uptight and fragile this little snowflake is. I'm sure after something is said, they will totally ignore her and leave her alone, other than what has to be done work/school related. Other than that, she'll be the one they have to tip-toe around to try and not "offend"; the other girls will probably be good friends outside of the school environment too. They will want nothing more to do with her, understandably so! We've all known "that person"!
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