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Sorry but implying that I look old and that I need to hurry up and get married before its too late is not what I call 'harmless teasing'. It's really disrespectful and unprofessional and I don't think that I am being immature for wanting to report it. It's not acceptable at all
“Reporting it” is beyond silly. You are a grown woman. You do not need to “run and tell mommy” just because someone offends you. If you plan to be a nurse I advise you to grow a much thicker skin. You will be offended a lot.
She is jealous of you. She's tied down now and your not. You can come and go, do what you want and not have to answer to anyone. Next time she says that just reply with; Your good enough to have kids with, but not good enough to marry?
Her "boyfriend" has kids with her and he can't give her their own place to live? Really?........
She is a loud and obnoxious person sounds like. No filter. I'm not going to judge whether this is bullying, picking picked on etc.
But any human resouce office, dean, school authority will wonder what you have done to mitigate this.
They will want to know details.
How long has it been going on. How many times has it happened. What was your response.
Have you,
moved to another side of the class
avoided her
told her politely it was none of your business
how many times
They aren't going to do anything till you have tried to fix it yourself. And honetly its not fair to the "bullyier" to not tell her you want her to leave it alone and give her the chance to do so. Maybe she is just clueless. How many people have I known that are just....you have to take a 2x4 to them before they listen. Mostly men though
I'm assuming in a class of young woman the atmosphere can get pretty personal. That you are a private person puts you in a different category and they just need to know that you are nice but very private.
Nowhere in your posts have I seen whether you said anything to her at all. Not saying anything because you
don't want to say how really angry/upset you are about it doesn't cut it.
If she, or anyone else, says something again you have to have a response ready. Neutral but firm and clear.
It will only be after a couple of times clearly telling them all that your private life is not something you care to hear discussed by anyone that you can go to the dean.
She is jealous of you. She's tied down now and your not. You can come and go, do what you want and not have to answer to anyone. Next time she says that just reply with; Your good enough to have kids with, but not good enough to marry?
Her "boyfriend" has kids with her and he can't give her their own place to live? Really?........
Lol no don’t say that. You’ll get a visit to the deans office in reverse. Really it’s best to simply ask her to drop the remarks.
Repeatedly telling someone to 'get married before its too late' and implying that they are 'old' on numerous occasions certainly qualifies a visit to the deans office. It's harassment.
If you go running to the dean every time someone is meeeeeeeean to you, you're going to become the joke of campus. It's not harassment.
Going to the dean is definitely an overreaction. Be an adult, if it bothers you, tell her. She is joking, you are being hurt by it. Tell her, not the dean. IMO it will reflect poorly on you of you can’t handle something so simple.
IMO it will reflect poorly on you of you can’t handle something so simple.
YEP!!
Dealing with issues like this yourself is an important skill that the OP evidently needs to learn before stepping out into the workforce. It's only going to get worse. And the boss won't step in. He might even pass her over for someone who can behave more maturely.
She is jealous of you. She's tied down now and your not. You can come and go, do what you want and not have to answer to anyone. Next time she says that just reply with; Your good enough to have kids with, but not good enough to marry?
Her "boyfriend" has kids with her and he can't give her their own place to live? Really?........
Yes, I also suspect that she is jealous that you are single and childless. I can't even imagine having children with a man who is not mature or financially secure enough to get married and still lives with his mommy and daddy. Sheesh!
Just ignore her and think inside your head about how lucky you are not to be in her situation.
Going to the dean is definitely an overreaction. Be an adult, if it bothers you, tell her. She is joking, you are being hurt by it. Tell her, not the dean. IMO it will reflect poorly on you of you can’t handle something so simple.
I agree.
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