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It's sounding like you want this to escalate to a fight. Maybe not a physical one, but certainly one where your "punch" is delivered by the Dean. You want to WIN this fight.
Stop engaging. Stop caring what this girl thinks. Ignore her. Stop letting her get under your skin. Walk away from the fight.
Yes, I do want to win this fight, the right way. It's embarrassing and very humiliating when she says this to me in front of our classmates. I don't want to continue to be a punching bag for her own low self esteem
Yes, I do want to win this fight, the right way. It's embarrassing and very humiliating when she says this to me in front of our classmates. I don't want to continue to be a punching bag for her own low self esteem
You had your mind made up before posting and you're not interested in hearing what anyone here is saying.
So I'm going to stop wasting my time and encourage everyone else to do the same.
Sorry but implying that I look old and that I need to hurry up and get married before its too late is not what I call 'harmless teasing'. It's really disrespectful and unprofessional and I don't think that I am being immature for wanting to report it. It's not acceptable at all
Well, you've gotten good advice, but you don't see it that way. Why ask?
You go do your thing. Go report this silly harmless teasing to your dean. See how far it gets you. You're the one in charge of your destiny, not us. Go forth and see where it gets you.
Yes, I do want to win this fight, the right way. It's embarrassing and very humiliating when she says this to me in front of our classmates. I don't want to continue to be a punching bag for her own low self esteem
It makes HER look bad not you. Why are you embarrassed and humiliated by her inappropriate comments? Maybe she's doing it to get a reaction out of you. If you don't react it may stop. Ignore it.
It's not bullying as almost everyone else has said she's being a jerk. It happens. It may happen to you again in your life and you need to figure out how to handle it. If you run to the dean or HR or an authority figure every time something like this comes up it will not reflect well on you.
Of course there are situations where a report to authority is warranted but IMO this doesn't rise to that level.
oh hon, you won't survive in this world if you keep up with your mentality. The dean isn't the appropriate person to "report it" it isn't kindergarten anymore, you're 25, in a nursing program at college. welcome to the real world.
just make a smart come back, sit away from her, deflect. You mean to tell me, at age 25 its your first time dealing with this kind of conflict? what did you do in the past? buckle up.
I'm a 25 year old nursing student. In my group, I am one of two women who don't have children (the other one is married) while the other students are single, with out of wedlock children. One of my classmates who I thought was a decent person, will out of nowhere say to me "you need to hurry up and get married before its too late". She has no idea how old I am nor does she know my relationship status. Then once someone mentioned me being young only for her to say "who is young?" with a sly grin on her face. She keeps implying that I'm old and need to get married before its too late.
I feel that my personal decision to remain childless and single is none of her business. I find it strange that she keeps pressuring me to get married instead of pressuring the single mothers to get married because they have children. Her behavior has made me really insecure about myself and my appearance. I am not old nor do I think I look old. Should I report her to the dean because I am sick and tired of this
Oh for crying out loud little precious! While the remarks are inappropriate, it sounds like they are just teasing you. Pull the stick out of your behind and lighten up. At 25, can't you think of a witty comeback? Or just tell her to stop! You are NOT being "bullied" and you're claiming this as bullying is an insult to all those that are bullied. This is nothing to go tattling to the dean about. Does your school have a "safe space" - that might be where you need to go!
oh hon, you won't survive in this world if you keep up with your mentality. The dean isn't the appropriate person to "report it" it isn't kindergarten anymore, you're 25, in a nursing program at college. welcome to the real world.
just make a smart come back, sit away from her, deflect. You mean to tell me, at age 25 its your first time dealing with this kind of conflict? what did you do in the past? buckle up.
In the past, I never had anyone who cared that I was unmarried. I typically don't mention my relationship status unless someone specifically asks---having a boyfriend and not having kids yet is not a big deal, there are lots of people out there like me. But she seems so bothered by it that she obviously wants to fight me.
Sorry but implying that I look old and that I need to hurry up and get married before its too late is not what I call 'harmless teasing'. It's really disrespectful and unprofessional and I don't think that I am being immature for wanting to report it. It's not acceptable at all
You may be right about that, but that doesn't make it bullying either. Turn around and say to her that she's being disrespectful and unprofessional. Chances are she will back down. If you want to use childhood terms, you are saying you'd rather tattle on her than be mature and professional yourself. If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one
oh hon, you won't survive in this world if you keep up with your mentality. The dean isn't the appropriate person to "report it" it isn't kindergarten anymore, you're 25, in a nursing program at college. welcome to the real world.
just make a smart come back, sit away from her, deflect. You mean to tell me, at age 25 its your first time dealing with this kind of conflict? what did you do in the past? buckle up.
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Originally Posted by misssusie123
In the past, I never had anyone who cared that I was unmarried. I typically don't mention my relationship status unless someone specifically asks---having a boyfriend and not having kids yet is not a big deal, there are lots of people out there like me. But she seems so bothered by it that she obviously wants to fight me.
She meant, conflicts and dumb comments overall, not specifically your relationship status.
EVERYONE here says the same, you need to learn how to stand up to others, yet, after many pages of the SAME ANSWER over and over again, you STILL insist this is bullying and needs to be reported?
You are waiting for the ONE poster that will say "yes, report her" so you have validation for your reaction? Good luck.
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