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My wife is petite so once awhile I give her a liftoff hug. But I always do it gently & slowly so she knows it’s coming. It’s a sign of my affection so she doesn’t protest too much
On rare occasions I do this with close friends whom we have not seen each other for ages & we are both excited to see each other.
But yeah I agree it’s not appropriate to do this with casual friends or coworkers.
This kind of reasoning is used to justify all sorts of inappropriate behavior and touching. "Hey, I was just playing, you're over-reacting!"
I meant "lighthearted" and "playful" from the receiver's point of view. But you still make a good point.
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My wife is petite so once awhile I give her a liftoff hug. But I always do it gently & slowly so she knows it’s coming. It’s a sign of my affection so she doesn’t protest too much
On rare occasions I do this with close friends whom we have not seen each other for ages & we are both excited to see each other.
But yeah I agree it’s not appropriate to do this with casual friends or coworkers.
This is exactly what I meant in my first post, and it's been my MO for all lift-off hugs. It's a gesture of my affection (with past girlfriends) or comfort (with friends).
Last edited by MillennialUrbanist; 02-19-2018 at 01:27 PM..
Most of the women here say they don't like it. Makes me glad I never tried this lift hug.
Why did you start doing this, OP? What do you get out of it? A feeling of dominance? Something else?
You've heard from the ladies. They don't like it so stop.
I've seen these free hugs guys in the park. They look like they would need to soak in a 55 gallon drum of Lysol before anyone would want to touch them.
Most of the women here say they don't like it. Makes me glad I never tried this lift hug.
Why did you start doing this, OP? What do you get out of it? A feeling of dominance? Something else?
You've heard from the ladies. They don't like it so stop.
I've seen these free hugs guys in the park. They look like they would need to soak in a 55 gallon drum of Lysol before anyone would want to touch them.
I don't mind if it's my b/f , it's easier in his back as he's 6'5" and I am 5'2". He also playfully lifts me up to get things off a high shelf.
Between romantic partners and very close, physical friends... meaning those who both enjoy touching, grabs, tickles, piggyback rides whatever. And only after making sure it's acceptable to both.
Otherwise, no.
Slightly tangential, but I cringe every time I see one of those flying leap hugs that end with the woman's legs wrapped around the guy's hips and he's holding her like she's a rabid lemur or trying to have stand-up sex. Ick.
Most of the women here say they don't like it. Makes me glad I never tried this lift hug.
Why did you start doing this, OP? What do you get out of it? A feeling of dominance? Something else?
Murk explained it better than I could.
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Originally Posted by Murk
Between romantic partners and very close, physical friends... meaning those who both enjoy touching, grabs, tickles, piggyback rides whatever. And only after making sure it's acceptable to both.
Otherwise, no.
Slightly tangential, but I cringe every time I see one of those flying leap hugs that end with the woman's legs wrapped around the guy's hips and he's holding her like she's a rabid lemur or trying to have stand-up sex. Ick.
Quoting for truth. I don't do tickles or piggyback rides with my friends or past girlfriends, just lift-off hugs. And I don't agree with those "legs wrapped around the man" hugs, either. That's borderline dry-humping, best left to a trashy nightclub or a college spring break trip.
Last edited by MillennialUrbanist; 02-19-2018 at 02:10 PM..
Here's something that has's been asked on City-Data yet: What do people think of being on the receiving end of lift-off hugs? The kind where one person embraces the other, and briefly lifts them off the ground/floor. Political correctness aside, it's usually women being on the receiving end of such hugs, with men doing the lifting. For reasons that women tend to be lighter than men and that me tend to be physically stronger than women. As an average-sized man, I've never been on the receiving end of such hugs. Well, possibly as a young child from family, but I'm talking about lift-off hugs between two adults.
While I find these hugs to be pretty fun, I give them very judiciously. I stick to regular hugs unless I'm certain beyond a shadow of doubt that a lift-off hug is OK. I'm aware that not all women like them, and that it's not suitable in all situations. The only people I do the latter with, are some of the women I dated and close female friends I knew for some time, if we're both single. And if friends, not always; just once in a while, and even then, in jest or at moments that warrant a closer-than-normal hug.
Women's opinions on lift-off hugs seem to be divided. Some women like them; they say that being lifted off the ground makes them feel protected by the person doing the lifting, or even "dominated in a good way". Or simply because "it's fun". (Assuming that the person doing the lifting is a boyfriend, a close male friend, or an older brother.) Other women vehemently dislike such hugs; they find them objectifying in one way or another. All this doesn't even factor in those awkward situations where a man tries a lift-off hug on a woman, but can't do it; either because she's heavier than he expected (which embarrasses her), or because he's not as strong as he thought (which embarrasses him).
Men's opinions (on being lifted off the ground) are so few in number, apparently, that I couldn't find anything online.
Looking for input from the City-Data crowd now, both men and women.
I’m an older female (66). Please give these hugs VERY judiciously. I wouldn’t like to be on the receiving end of one. I am not a touch-feely person to begin with; I don’t want even to shake hands. I hug my sons. I hugged my SO when I was in a relationship. I don’t want to hug anyone else except possibly a small child who wanted to be held or hugged.
It's exceedingly rare for me, but I've been on the receiving end of a couple lift-off hugs. I'm not some 100 lb featherweight, and these guys are not as strong as they think, so it was definitely uncomfortable to say the least. Thankfully they were quick.
Btw, if you like to do them and you're still in the "what's the big deal" camp, ask one of your friends to give you a lift-off hug just to see what it's like from the other side.
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