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No. Not at all. What we're all wondering is whether this scene from your ongoing family drama sprang bit by bit from your unconscious, the source of what the character played by you really wanted to see happen.
... I wish I could call Taco Belle as a witness. I would begin by questioning her about her feelings towards ham....
Then they would have been running even later, and the OP would have still been upset. Besides, some people don't like to eat in their car. Or maybe since it is also her father's house (despite what the OP seems to think), she felt comfortable with bringing food into the house.
Of course we don't know the step daughters side of the story, but there are plenty of reasons for her to eat her food inside beside "being rude on purpose"
I don't agree. The OP obviously expressed that they weren't as late as she expected. It's a simple thing to scarf down some non-food like Taco Bell in the car rather than insult the cook by bringing it in. If OP is such a stepmonster then how would SD feel comfy bringing in Taco Bell? IDK I'm not one to pick up on rudeness right away as I don't take things personally right off the bat. However, either the SD is just clueless and has never experienced the energy that goes into one of these meals and doesn't care, or she is purposefully being rude.
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No. Not at all. What we're all wondering is whether this scene from your ongoing family drama sprang bit by bit from your unconscious, the source of what the character played by you really wanted to see happen.
Nah, if that was the case their would have been a public shaming of the stepdaughter by all the family members. Even baby black James would have got in on the action.
I think there are ways to corral and manage it when someone brings their own food. The first thing is to take that bag, box, or container of food and take it off the table and into the kitchen and put the food onto a regular dinner plate so the bag/box/container itself is not sitting there on the table making a statement. Maybe the food needs to be heated up in the microwave (a great excuse to put that food on a dinner plate first), then pop in the microwave for 1 minute. Nobody else cares what someone puts on their plate (except maybe the people hosting the event or the people who made the dinner), but there are ways mitigate the visual impact and keep some semblance of dignity.
The moment someone comes in, late, that person or people can also be taken to the spot that is designated to be theirs by their host/hostess. If that's at the kitchen island with a few others, then so be it.
Small measures like these can allow the host/hostess to have more control in an otherwise unpredictable situation and without having to just put up with it, whatever 'it' happens to be.
If OP is such a stepmonster than how would SD feel comfy bringing in Taco Bell?
Because after so many years, she probably no longer cares what her step mom thinks. Even though the OP thinks its only her house, its also the fathers house. The girl was there to visit with her father and grandparents for Christmas and so was probably only concerned about their feelings. They didn't care that she brought in Taco Bell, so that is all that mattered to step daughter.
i know.....the OP should print and bind all 43 pages of this thread, all 426 comments, and have them be a funny handout at the wedding! sort of like a party favor, humorous reading material at the reception to pass the time and generate fond memories and family stories!
She cant be an adult then if she acts like a baby if shes 22.... she maybe be a young adult and still has not acted mature yet since she was just a teenager herself 5 years ago...
Nah, if that was the case their would have been a public shaming of the stepdaughter by all the family members. Even baby black James would have got in on the action.
speaking of sweet baby James, is he going to get to be the ring bearer? and what is the seating arrangement going to be at the wedding? she needs to get back to us on this, and also the wedding menu, because with our input surely many potential pitfalls will be averted and transformed
i know.....the OP should print and bind all 43 pages of this thread, all 426 comments, and have them be a funny handout at the wedding! sort of like a party favor, humorous reading material at the reception to pass the time and generate fond memories and family stories!
Thats one way to keep step daughter away, let her know that you talk about her behind her back with strangers on the internet.
I would be mortified if anyone I knew ranted online over some trivial thing I did, even if it is all anonymous.
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