I've been told by 4 different family members this week, that I reminded them of my mom. Both times involved them seeing me from a distance, walking towards them.
I don't think they mean because of my face, because everybody, especially family, knows that we don't share any facial features.
My mom aged very quickly in the last 10 years she was alive because she had a nutrient absorption disorder caused by a surgery for ulcers she had in her 30's. That surgery has since been banned; it's essentially a gastric bypass & had a high 5-year mortality rate. By the time she died at age 75, she looked like she was in her 90's. If it wasn't for her degrees in science & nutrition, she never would have made it even that far. She weighed only 75 lbs when she died, despite having been 5'10" as a full grown woman (shrunk several inches as she aged).
I suspect I was told this because I've lost 102 lbs over the last 2 years. I think my family is seeing me "thin" & at age 54, it's translating as "frail", like my mom looked. I'm almost 5'11" & a very healthy weight for my height: 155 lbs. I don't
think I look frail.
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I'm actually quite strong & I feel great. I initially had only set out to lose 70 lbs, because I think women in their 50's are healthier if they are about 20 lbs heavier but the weight just kept coming off & I'm now just about 10 lbs heavier than when I was in high school.
I am still told all the time that it's "weird" that my oldest child is 36, because "you don't look old enough to have a kid in their mid-30's". Maybe it's because I am always wearing activewear & keep my hair past my waist (but it's going white, lol) & I do appreciate the "compliments" but sometimes it does feel weird, or kind of awkward.