Dealing with "lost looks" (naturally, dying, cut, girls)
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As I approach my sixth decade of life I find it invigorating that I no longer have to aspire to mere prettiness, but can achieve true elegance.
Clean living, abstemious eating habits, and a vigorous fitness regimine mean that one does not need to "lose her looks", but in fact fulfill her innate whole human potential for transcendent, timeless beauty.
No trends, no shocking new palettes of color, no 'style' but that which the Creator gave me a lifetime of potential to evolve -- comfortable and confident in my own skin like I never felt while young!
Whatever. In the meantime, I still go to the hairdresser and get my hair dyed "Back to Black," (it's natural shade). I also work out a lot because I can't keep my weight down like I used to (I'm almost 39 now), and it was difficult even in my 20s due to the obesity gene, being female, being short, and taking weight gain drugs on a regular basis. But the most important beauty trick I have is wearing a properly fitting bra It has made a world of difference in the way I feel all day.
What's alarming to me is the youth-oriented culture we live in, plus all the "celebrities" of a certain age who have had loads of PS and are celebrated for looking youthful. Natural aging has turned from something normal into something unacceptable that "has to be dealt with".
People are hoodwinked into believing they "need" to fix the saggy face or neck or whatever else indicates aging. And the PS industry, of course, supports this wholeheartedly. Maybe at some point there'll be a backlash and things will go back to normal and allow women to age however they age, without any societal pressure to look younger.
But for now, It's all about anti-aging, which cream makes you look younger, how to dress younger, how to keep from looking old, and on and on and on. It's no wonder so many women end up caving in and having things done, or feeling badly about themselves if they can't afford - or don't want - procedures.
THIS. Remember what our grandmothers (or great-grandmothers, if you're younger) looked like? OLD LADIES, lol. Grey hair, wrinkles, saggy necks, droopy bosoms, thick waists, and an extra 20 pounds they didn't have when they were 20. This was - and still is - "normal," but we're pressured to fight it...
Last edited by otterhere; 01-21-2016 at 07:32 AM..
thinned skinned people or people that are very lean show wrinkles & creases much faster
thats why I think it's better to be a little chubby than too skinny or lean, ever notice people like long distance runners always show strain / aging on their faces from being so lean? every facial expression shows creases or lines, a little body fat is actually beneficial to retain a more youthful look.
No it is not a spam, LOL.. its because I am a smoker, and females tend to get wrinkles sooner when they smoke, like in my case. I do have a youthful face and the lines I did have bothered me a lot besides fillers/botox are preventive measures also as it makes my own skin make more collagen. Besides a woman can never look too good :-)
Why not just quit smoking? You could put that money in a bank account and put your children through college on it --- or just use it to do charitable work.
But injecting your face with that mess so you can smoke cigs? Uggghhhhh. Don't get it.
Why not just quit smoking? You could put that money in a bank account and put your children through college on it --- or just use it to do charitable work.
But injecting your face with that mess so you can smoke cigs? Uggghhhhh. Don't get it.
Right.
"Let's see - this works for me - I'll spend thousands of dollars a year on smokes, which will probably kill me - and then to offset the skin damage I'll spend thousands more to have poison injected into my skin. So I'll just pay thousands and thousands of dollars to put all sorts of toxins in my body, rather than give up smoking."
THIS. Remember what our grandmothers (or great-grandmothers, if you're younger) looked like? OLD LADIES, lol. Grey hair, wrinkles, saggy necks, droopy bosoms, thick waists, and an extra 20 pounds they didn't have when they were 20. This was - and still is - "normal," but we're pressured to fight it...
You are absolutely right! Hard to believe Frances Bavier was only 57 when she started the Andy Griffith show as "Aunt Bea", and compare that to how Julianne Moore looks now at 55. (Personally, I think women who are close to 60 should aim for a realistic compromise.)
You are absolutely right! Hard to believe Frances Bavier was only 57 when she started the Andy Griffith show as "Aunt Bea", and compare that to how Julianne Moore looks now at 55. (Personally, I think women who are close to 60 should aim for a realistic compromise.)
Modern women take care themselves more, and dress more fashionably. As I have previously said, I just try to be as healthy and fit as possible, and dress in flattering clothes. I like to wear a modest amount of makeup, but I do not want to go the Botox/filler route and probably no plastic surgery. I do not judge those who do. These days besides taking care of my physical self, I work on expanding my inner self, and I truly believe this transcends the physicality.
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