How do you tell a woman she needs to get in shape ? (exercising, addiction)
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Where am I backpedaling? I said that many posts ago, even before you began responding to me. Again, reading isn't fundamental for many folks on here.
And it seems like I struck a nerve because you're the only one tying self worth to exercising and eating healthy. Perhaps you should work on whatever issues you have with that.
And no, it's not all over every post I've made on here. In fact, if I hadn't mentioned it, you wouldn't have even known.
I guess I could easily say I can tell you're an overweight woman in denial...
Ah, yes, the personal attack ... Regardless of how wrong it is, it's never a surprise.
You said, NO AMOUNT OF LOVE CAN OVERCOME A 60-lb WEIGHT GAIN. Do you not see how messed up that is??
Again, the fact that you don't get the point of the emphysema example proves that you tie weight to self_worth but disguise it as concern for health. All your arguments now are basically, "I know you are, but what am I?"
I could tell you had EDNOS. It IS all over every post you've made here.
And you work out? Congrats.
But guess what? It STILL doesn't make you any better than or more worthy of love than a fat girl who eats ice cream for dinner.
There appears to be a contradiction between your statement that no amt. of love can overcome a 60-lb. weight gain, and your statement that such a weight gain isn't divorce-worthy.
Get it?
I was speaking in terms of appearance. Love isn't going to make you find your partner attractive when they've gained that much weight, if it's something you've never been attracted to
I never once mentioned it will make a person fall out of love or no longer love that individual
I think something being overlooked here is that a person needs to eat, exercise, etc in a SUSTAINABLE way.
If not, you'll gain back every pound you ever lose, no matter how healthy or unhealthy your plan was to lose weight.
So, if never eating cake again is out of the question? Don't build an eating regimen that consists of NO CAKE. Or milk or whatever you know you will want to eat.
You do have to realize that many of your favorite foods may be causing you to overeat (due to their glycemic index or even due to your mental state) and plan accordingly. A lot of eating well for your metabolism means being honest about the food(s) that cause you problems, and making them rare treats.
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So moral of the story is OP, you shouldn't say anything because apparently weight loss is an incredibly complicated process that takes years of overthinking, and you are suppose to make yourself feel attraction for them regardless of their weight.
Therefore if your spouse wants to maintain a food addiction, let them do so. Apparently Americans have different DNA makeup than Europeans and Asians that somehow prevents them from utilizing all of the free online resources or even their doctors.
And those of you who aren't attracted to obese men and women are shallow individuals.
It's just completely wrong and selfish to expect your wife/husband and the mother/father of your children to take care of themselves or to seek help when necessary. Whether it's for their mental or health issues. Even if it's the result of poor eating, it's bad to encourage healthy eating and exercising.
Interesting.
Again, 2/3 of Americans are overweight so perhaps men and women should get with the changing times?
So moral of the story is OP, you shouldn't say anything because apparently weight loss is an incredibly complicated process that takes years of overthinking, and you are suppose to make yourself feel attraction for them regardless of their weight.
Therefore if your spouse wants to maintain a food addiction, let them do so. Apparently Americans have different DNA makeup than Europeans and Asians that somehow prevents them from utilizing all of the free online resources or even their doctors.
And those of you who aren't attracted to obese men and women are shallow individuals.
It's just completely wrong and selfish to expect your wife/husband and the mother/father of your children to take care of themselves or to seek help when necessary. Whether it's for their mental or health issues. Even if it's the result of poor eating, it's bad to encourage healthy eating and exercising.
Interesting.
Again, 2/3 of Americans are overweight so perhaps men and women should get with the changing times?
That's all I want to say and then quickly run out of the firing zone again ...
Didn't read this thread but about the only thing you can do is offer to work out with the person. Put the emphasis on health and having fun, and not on weight loss.
My BF always asks me to go running and/or work out with him, and even though I may not feel like it I am motivated to go, because I love spending time with him. And once I am there, I am really glad that I made the effort. Maybe you could consider the two of y'all getting involved in some activity together that would be both fun and provide exercise... like tennis or some similar sport. Get involved with her, don't just tell her what she needs to do.
There's no good way, you just do it. I really am picky about this upfront when I meet someone though. I always eat clean and exercise everyday. When meeting a women, I just get a feel for how her eating/exercise habits are. If they are not good or non-existant that usually will be a dealbreaker for me and we probably won't date. It's not really my place to change anyone and I don't have any desire to do so.
Everyone has certain expectations and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm not into heavier girls at all and that's always a dealbreaker for me. Some women won't date a guy under 6' tall. It goes both ways. It's not unrealistic for men not to physically desire fat women.
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