Chicago interracial dating from a blk male perspective. (transplants, living in)

[mikestylez]

I have been living in chicago for 1 year on a three year contract for a firm. Besides the weather I really like the city, the skyline, the night life and there is always stuff to do. I have lived in Dallas, Socal,NY and Denver,because my job requires alot of travel.

One complaint I have about chicago is that interracial dating seems to be
more difficult here for a blk male then in other places I have lived. I love BLK woman and have dated a couple beautiful blk woman while I have been here,but i am use to being able to date all kinds of woman.
i thought Chicago would be a great place for this,I havent had any problems fitting in on the northside of Chicago socially,but the dating has been lackluster.

The white woman seem to be even suprised that your
even talking to them if they dont seem uncomfortable.
In socal even the really preppy/yuppy girls would atleast give you
a chance to make your case and even dance with you or make small talk
if they werent interested. In more conservative dallas the white woman were way more down to earth even though Chicago is suppoose to be
more progressive.

The spanish and asian woman are pretty much impossible to talk to
unlike dallas and denver. A few puerto rican girls have been freindly but that was a heavylift. Mexican and Asian girls seem impossible.

Im not really complaining though just dating beautiful BLK girls
for the next two years is not the worst thing in the world LOL
but I was wondering did anybody have any tips or explanation for this.

[rhawkins74]

Originally Posted by mikestylez

I have been living in chicago for 1 year on a three year contract for a firm. Besides the weather I really like the city, the skyline, the night life and there is always stuff to do. I have lived in Dallas, Socal,NY and Denver,because my job requires alot of travel.

One complaint I have about chicago is that interracial dating seems to be
more difficult here for a blk male then in other places I have lived. I love BLK woman and have dated a couple beautiful blk woman while I have been here,but i am use to being able to date all kinds of woman.
i thought Chicago would be a great place for this,I havent had any problems fitting in on the northside of Chicago socially,but the dating has been lackluster.

The white woman seem to be even suprised that your
even talking to them if they dont seem uncomfortable.
In socal even the really preppy/yuppy girls would atleast give you
a chance to make your case and even dance with you or make small talk
if they werent interested. In more conservative dallas the white woman were way more down to earth even though Chicago is suppoose to be
more progressive.

The spanish and asian woman are pretty much impossible to talk to
unlike dallas and denver. A few puerto rican girls have been freindly but that was a heavylift. Mexican and Asian girls seem impossible.

Im not really complaining though just dating beautiful BLK girls
for the next two years is not the worst thing in the world LOL
but I was wondering did anybody have any tips or explanation for this.

Is this supposed to be a joke?????????

There are interracial couples all over the place around Chicago, no one I know has any problems dating interracially.

And why you would think a more liberal city would be better then a conservative one when it comes to mixing of ethnic backgrounds is beyond me also.

[Runuova]

Welcome to Chicago buddy! Next to Boston....meh forget it!

[aragx6]

Sorry you're having trouble, but that's not something I saw personally while living in Chicago.

[Tex?Il?]

Originally Posted by mikestylez

I have been living in chicago for 1 year on a three year contract for a firm. Besides the weather I really like the city, the skyline, the night life and there is always stuff to do. I have lived in Dallas, Socal,NY and Denver,because my job requires alot of travel.

One complaint I have about chicago is that interracial dating seems to be
more difficult here for a blk male then in other places I have lived. I love BLK woman and have dated a couple beautiful blk woman while I have been here,but i am use to being able to date all kinds of woman.
i thought Chicago would be a great place for this,I havent had any problems fitting in on the northside of Chicago socially,but the dating has been lackluster.

The white woman seem to be even suprised that your
even talking to them if they dont seem uncomfortable.
In socal even the really preppy/yuppy girls would atleast give you
a chance to make your case and even dance with you or make small talk
if they werent interested. In more conservative dallas the white woman were way more down to earth even though Chicago is suppoose to be
more progressive.

The spanish and asian woman are pretty much impossible to talk to
unlike dallas and denver. A few puerto rican girls have been freindly but that was a heavylift. Mexican and Asian girls seem impossible.

Im not really complaining though just dating beautiful BLK girls
for the next two years is not the worst thing in the world LOL
but I was wondering did anybody have any tips or explanation for this.

Socal, Denver, and Dallas have a significantly higher percentage of transplants from a wider geographic distant with its amenities more geographically spread out.

When people that come from all over, with less of an existing social network of friends and family they are more open to making new friends in general. And when you have to drive all over the metro area for shopping, entertainment, cultural amenities, etc. it may force people to expand their geographic horizons beyond their comfort zone.

Since, the city of Chicago is so large and dense people which might also be intimidate, more people feel more comfortable when in large existing groups, and if you don't already have a network it may be very difficult to break into them. The more sprawling, warmer, and newer cities that are more transplant oriented, it may be easier to make friends from scratch period.

[Lorielicious]

Is there a reason this refusal I've seen around here to spell out the word "black"?

[emathias]

Originally Posted by Lorielicious

Is there a reason this refusal I've seen around here to spell out the word "black"?

I always assumed it referred to a subset of black people who didn't like A/C.

[mikestylez]

Originally Posted by rhawkins74

Is this supposed to be a joke?????????

There are interracial couples all over the place around Chicago, no one I know has any problems dating interracially.

And why you would think a more liberal city would be better then a conservative one when it comes to mixing of ethnic backgrounds is beyond me also.

I work in downtown chicago,I dont see the frequency of interracial
relatationships I saw in denver, socal and dallas.

I mean denver is like 7% blk and Chicago is like 30%
BLK,but you see way more BLK/wht couples per capita
in Denver. Im comparing Chicago to other cities.

In regards to liberal vs conservative. Liberal tend to be believe
in cultural relativity more so than conservatives,while conservatives tend to expect people to assimilate to their culture, for their acceptance.

Example liberal white people might have less of a problem with a blk guy talking slang or a spanish guy speaking some broken english or spanish. A conservative might expect them to conform(learn english),becuase conservative tend to believe there cultural values are absolute. exp. This expalins why conservatives tend to express their patrotism more loudly. then liberals

[knitgirl]

Where are you trying to meet women? I think a lot of attractive women are not that interested in meeting men at clubs and bars, but are more open at activities for shared interests, like coed sports leagues, etc.

[rhawkins74]

Originally Posted by mikestylez

I work in downtown chicago,I dont see the frequency of interracial
relatationships I saw in denver, socal and dallas.

I mean denver is like 7% blk and Chicago is like 30%
BLK,but you see way more BLK/wht couples per capita
in Denver. Im comparing Chicago to other cities.

In regards to liberal vs conservative. Liberal tend to be believe
in cultural relativity more so than conservatives,while conservatives tend to expect people to assimilate to their culture, for their acceptance.

Example liberal white people might have less of a problem with a blk guy talking slang or a spanish guy speaking some broken english or spanish. A conservative might expect them to conform(learn english),becuase conservative tend to believe there cultural values are absolute. exp. This expalins why conservatives tend to express their patrotism more loudly. then liberals

While I am not going to argue about the conservative vs. liberal in this thread, but maybe you are not looking hard enough. I work all over the Chicago area. North, South, Downtown, West. all the Burbs etc... I see interracial couples quite often.

But, it isnt even the fact that you was claiming to rarely see mixed couples, but the way you are making it seem as if how white women are towards black men. Which is completely wrong. I think maybe you are looking for a reason for chicago to be the way you imagine it, because it isnt that way.