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When I was 32, my wife sent me to an audiologist for a hearing test because she said I was having problems.
He tested me and said: “You have selective deafness. Many husbands suffer from this”.
i got pulled over by a cop last week .
he said do you know your wife fell out of your truck about a mile back ?
i said , thank god that’s all it is , i thought i was going deaf .
My Wife complained about my hearing loss when she speaks, and at times, others. I did get tested, and the results showed that the higher tones were a challenge, and that most women speak within that range, men tend to speak in a lower tone and are heard a bit clearer. I did get hearing aids (10k ), and they do help in some environments, in others, not so much, so I use them periodically.
The OP may have a point about not being able to understand his wife. My GF has TMJ and cannot enunciate well. I can't tell you how many times I have had to ask her to repeat something. I can hear her ok but I do have a problem understanding her. I don't have that problem with anyone else. I'd say that if the OP doesn't have a problem communicating with most people he encounters that he might be onto something.
It may be that you don't process as quickly now. We have our 3 year old granddaughter a few days a week and Mrs. NBP has started spelling words out that she doesn't want the imp to hear. I'm not processing the spelling as fast as in the fast. Plus she talks too damn fast then, usually she takes f o r e v e r to say something. Enough so that I remind her that I have fewer tomorrows left than I have yesterdays.
Bingo on the "processing" part....my ex tried to claim I "mumbled" all the time. I claimed my ex was getting "hard of hearing" and "should have hearing checked"... because no one else asked me to repeat what I just said.
But, as we moved to new area before we finally separated (this is not the cause), I noticed when I said something... anything in ANY VOICE EVEN LOUDLY YELLING..that ex's "processing" seemed to be off.
Ex: up at old house, with a clean out crew on hand, I had just had major back surgery, so I basically had to sit and issue "orders," on what was trashed and what was going.
I said to ex "grab those empty boxes on top the Safe". Ex looked EVERYWHERE BUT at the safe in the corner. mumbling my "order" 'the empty boxes on the safe'...I was getting a little heated...repeated it 4 times, each time louder getting frustrated!
I finally said" WHERE is the SAFE?"... Again ex is looking everywhere but where it sat for several years...I knew ex heard me.. mumbling my instruction...BUT apparently it didn't register!
At least 4 other times in that room was similar issue!
Even down here...there was stuff dumped on the dining table and when I said "bring the next box on the table "...ex looked everywhere and went up every table in the combined living/dining room BUT the table we were sorting/putting stuff away on!
I said " WHAT TABLE WERE WE WORKING ON??!!" again, getting angry.
I realized then that there was a disconnect in ex's PROCESSING of what I said..not what I said or how loud I said it.. because again,ex was repeating my words, but apparently wasn't processing the meaning of the words ex was actually repeating out loud.
My late ex FIL had dimentia, and he was stubborn anyway, but this didn't seem to be an issue with him?
Ex is only 64, so in the future ex could have lots of trouble if what ex hears is not comprehended or mentally processed properly!
So, DO get hearing checked, and see your primary care to ask who to see regarding this issue.
My husband and I have the same issue. I know I am hard of hearing because I’ve been tested. I cannot, for example, hear the stove timer go off. My husband hasn’t been tested, but I’m sure he doesn’t hear everything either.
I think he has acquired an “old man voice”, which is hard to understand sometimes.
Anyway, I still would rather continue to say, “what?” than spend thousands of $$$ on hearing aids.
Please get your hearing tested and take your wife with you. She needs to understand suggestions and options of treatments and how she can assist.
You will loose not only hearing but also comprehension and use of certain letters over time.
SO simply ignored his hearing aids for a long time. Now he figured out how to synch his cell, his work conferences with them. No more head sets and he is back to being an active participant in conversations.
Please get your hearing tested and take your wife with you. She needs to understand suggestions and options of treatments and how she can assist.
I recognize my limitations. I think that of the 5 senses, I can barely leave the one of touch intact.
But my ears aren't too bad. I can still tell someone to ring the doorbell at home, as long as our dog is around.
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), and they do help in some environments, in others, not so much, so I use them periodically.
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