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I'm puzzled by the use of "avarice" ... wouldn't it be the people who are ordering 2 or 3 times as much as others, but expecting those others to SUBSIDIZE their extra-large meal by saying "Oh let's just split the check!", be the ones being greedy?
I'm with most others here -- separate checks are not that hard to get at most places. And I like this partly because sometimes I am the one ordering extra items, and I want to feel like I can do that without others feeling like they have to pay for part of my meal too.
Asking for separate checks wouldn't ruin the experience. The experience is the meal together, not the 5 minutes it might take at the end to pay for yourselves.
Ha Ha - I thought of it briefly before using - it comes from a particular psychospiritual personality model.
In this use, I was thinking that the people who are actually working on the check with a calculator and all are "greedy" in the sense that they don't want to give up their money (for the benefit of the group).
When I was working, we usually did the even split for lunches out, but nobody really abused it. We had similar meals and no wine or alcohol. In those days that was much the easiest method. But today, with computerized ordering and billing, most restaurants have no problem providing separate checks. That's the fairest way to go.
I think it's a "know" your audience type of deal. If I'm out my my two best friends, I really don't care if someone orders one cocktail, what's that an extra 3 bucks??
There are times when I get the more expensive dish and there are times when I don't.
Now personally I have not gone out to dinner where someone order 3xs as much as the other diners, lol what were they fasting for two days beforehand?? And I really wonder about some folks on here and there relationship?? Lol I wouldn't dine with people if I though they were running up the bill just because. Who does that?? And again my friends tend to be life long friends, so now I'm going out to dinner with them and squawking because they ordered an appetizer??
If I am dining with coworkers we'll get separate checks.
Last edited by eliza61nyc; 11-09-2019 at 08:22 PM..
Split; however, if some people get alcohol and some don't, the drinkers should separate out the bar tab from the food and split that among themselves.
Why not dessert and appetizers, too? Combined, thos two often cost more than the entree.
Honor system, ask each diner to round their total to the nearest dollar mentally and add 20%, gather it all up and leave the sum on the tray with the check.
I think it depends on how much a difference is involved. If I've gone out with a friend, and if I order something that is $14 and the friend orders something for $13, I would get really turned off if the friend objected to splitting the check. (This happened, with a $140K government worker, who remarked "we should get separate checks since yours was $1 more.)
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