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From what I understand, y'all talking about outliving your husbands and getting their fortunes. Then y'all use their fortunes to buy their own luxuries.
That goes to show that one demographic don't even care about their own spouses and are basically using them.
Getting their fortunes? I out earn my husband by 30-40k depending on the year (he's no minimum wage earner either). It's not a huge difference, but I'm certainly not in financial need of his earnings. And all of our investments for retirement are funded by my job. You guys need to get over these erroneous assumptions. I don't know where you get it from.
Anyway, what I'm talking about is if he were to pass before me, I would like to buy a big home with my girlfriends. Maybe even a small farm or something where we could grow things and enjoy our elder years.
I wouldn't want to. Financially it wouldn't be an issue. I'm a high enough earner. And it's not that I want folk around 24/7. I certainly need ample alone space. I just find more meaning in my life/activities when I have people to share it with. I'm also very close with my family. I'm family oriented through and through.
To add, cooking is a good analogy. I do not cook elaborate meals for myself. On my own I go real simple, usually raw. I will cook for my husband and I, so I at least get to enjoy my cooking daily.I'll go all out for a dinner party/group of friends, which I try to do often. The process of sharing makes it more involved and enjoyable.
I'm not real family oriented type of person anyways. but OK I understand if you feel it add more to your life to live that way, I don't see a problem with it. Just wouldn't be for me, I don't wants people around me in a social setting, I don't like that.
From what I understand, y'all talking about outliving your husbands and getting their fortunes. Then y'all use their fortunes to buy their own luxuries.
That goes to show that one demographic don't even care about their own spouses and are basically using them.
She makes more money than her husband - so how is she "getting his fortune?" I guess if you are trying to see misandry in everything - you will see it. Even in something as innocuous as saying that someone would like to live with her girlfriends if something happened to their husbands. She is actually quite happily married - this isn't a plan - just a "what if?"
My mom is a widow and now spends a lot of time with her other widowed and divorced friends - and some of her married friends as well. I'm so grateful that she has so many friends and loved ones close by so that she isn't alone.
Getting their fortunes? I out earn my husband by 30-40k depending on the year (he's no minimum wage earner either). It's not a huge difference, but I'm certainly not in financial need of his earnings. And all of our investments for retirement are funded by my job. You guys need to get over these erroneous assumptions. I don't know where you get it from.
People make assumptions on me, then I make assumptions on them. That's how it goes. Regarding marriage contracts, expiration dates would be better than a shady corrupt divorce.
I'm not real family oriented type of person anyways. but OK I understand if you feel it add more to your life to live that way, I don't see a problem with it. Just wouldn't be for me, I don't wants people around me in a social setting, I don't like that.
Yea, we're all different. We all have different needs/wants. As long as there is peace and some level of happiness it's good.
Being a rural hick at heart..when I get a dog tag...it expires when the metal wares through and if falls off...then I never bother getting a new one...just let the dog get old and die...Don't like the idea of paying a fee to have a mutt...nor paying a fee to breed myself.....marriage expires on death....whether you are together or not...I remember how my mother in law cried when her old husband died...She had not been with the man for 25 years...she cried like it was yesterday....people who love and marry...are married forever...Till death really do them part...Of my past three wives,,,two are deceased...they expired..the third one lives up the road..and we love each other...and wondering who will expire first...lol!
People make assumptions on me, then I make assumptions on them. That's how it goes.
I suppose there are two kinds of assumptions to be made. 1. People make assumptions based on the content of posts and any level of intelligence behind them. The assumptions you are making have little to nothing to do with the content of my posts. They have everything to do with you instead. 2. The assumptions about you regarding your negativity towards women is based on what you actually say. There is evidence we can draw on. For that matter, you say you have a SO and yet you speak ill of her as well. You speak negatively about women in general on a continual basis. I never speak negatively about men in general. Ever. And yet you charge me with your own behavior.
People make assumptions on me, then I make assumptions on them. That's how it goes. Regarding marriage contracts, expiration dates would be better than a shady corrupt divorce.
I really don't know anyone that has had a shady corrupt divorce.
The whole point of marriage is that you are vowing to spend your life with someone. If you don't want to do that - don't get married. If you love someone but only want to spend a few years with them - then do just that. The whole point of marriage is "until death do you part." If that isn't what you want right from the start - there is no point in doing it.
But that's the truly tragic part to me - you don't even want to be pitied for this skewed view of life and men that you have because you have no clue how twisted it really is.
I wish so badly I could look you in the eye, face to face, and explain to you in a way that would really make sense to you just how much more life could offer you if you weren't so erroneously convinced how bad men are
You apparently come from a very wounded place to have the beliefs you do. And I'm really really sorry for you.
But truly, there ARE good men out here in the world. Men who don't leave. Men who don't cheat. Men who cherish and protect their women and relationships.
I sincerely hope one day you meet one
not to be rude but maybe i should say i pities you for trusting a man who u don't even know where he is most of the days and also don't bother to look into it! Personally, I couldn't live like that but if u don't feels the need to keep tabs on him then I don't know what to tell you . i don't know what you mean by how much more life could offer -- if I had a man I guess? Oh please. I guess I am doing fine without one, i take care of myself everyday. masturbation basically fixes everything in that department. I seen where a lot of married women whole life revolve around trying to be a 'sex kitten' for some man and his massive sex drive. As soon as the sex falls off, he goes elsewhere looking to 'get some,' no thanks. putting in all that time and effort towards him, just to get left behind for 'fresh meat.'
again, i don't feels like i come from a wounded environment i use what i seen and learned on my own to come to my determinations. i will not be meeting any of these so called good men b/c i don't date and also don't trust them as far as i could throw one. how long have you been married anyways? So if your husband gone for say, 5 or 6 hours and you don't know where, you just beleive whatever he tell you when he comes back? IF so, I don't know how a person live like that and beleive it's accurate when we all know people lie left and right.
Yea, we're all different. We all have different needs/wants. As long as there is peace and some level of happiness it's good.
well i don't beleive in happiness for everyone, for some people there's just existing. that's what i do until otherwise noted. if you feels happiness is available and attainable, well then hat's off to you. I guess you also feels life is worth living and all that stuff too.
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. i don't know what you mean by how much more life could offer -- if I had a man I guess? Oh please. I guess I am doing fine without one, i take care of myself everyday. masturbation basically fixes everything in that department. I seen where a lot of married women whole life revolve around trying to be a 'sex kitten' for some man and his massive sex drive. As soon as the sex falls off, he goes elsewhere looking to 'get some,' no thanks. putting in all that time and effort towards him, just to get left behind for 'fresh meat.'
