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I have a friend, who was complaining to me yesterday, that she does most of the housework, alot of the yard work, takes care of their child, and works fulltime. Her husband does not work right now, and does not do much around the house, to help out.
I explained to her that maybe she needs to talk to him about helping out more often, but she just blew me off, as to say..."nah...he won`t."
Common sense tells me, that if you do not have a job, you would be willing to put forth the effort in helping out with everyday tasks, and chores, while the SO is out making the income to pay the bills.
Some people just don`t get it. OR...maybe they do, and they know that they can get by with it.
not me it was 90% /10% and she howled about her 10% for the entire marriage.
i am single now long time divorced i get a little lonely but im ok.
fyi my house is spotless and my housework is much less than when i was married.
I have a friend, who was complaining to me yesterday, that she does most of the housework, alot of the yard work, takes care of their child, and works fulltime. Her husband does not work right now, and does not do much around the house, to help out.
I explained to her that maybe she needs to talk to him about helping out more often, but she just blew me off, as to say..."nah...he won`t."
Common sense tells me, that if you do not have a job, you would be willing to put forth the effort in helping out with everyday tasks, and chores, while the SO is out making the income to pay the bills.
Some people just don`t get it. OR...maybe they do, and they know that they can get by with it.
I agree. If you're at home and don't work, the home should be taken care of.
I have a friend, who was complaining to me yesterday, that she does most of the housework, alot of the yard work, takes care of their child, and works fulltime. Her husband does not work right now, and does not do much around the house, to help out.
I explained to her that maybe she needs to talk to him about helping out more often, but she just blew me off, as to say..."nah...he won`t."
Common sense tells me, that if you do not have a job, you would be willing to put forth the effort in helping out with everyday tasks, and chores, while the SO is out making the income to pay the bills.
Some people just don`t get it. OR...maybe they do, and they know that they can get by with it.
If he's not working he really needs to help out around the house.
First of all, I have to wonder if he's suffering from depression. I didn't see you mention if this situation existed when he was working or if it's a recent event. I know that men tend to measure their worth by how well they can provide for their family, so he probably sees himself as worthless. However, I find it hard to believe that any husband would want to see his wife work that hard and not want to pitch in and help.
I work and the wife doesn't but she is studying for her masters. So she does the vast majority of the household chores but I certainly DO my share around the house, especially when she's cramming for school (I cook, clean, etc)..
First of all, I have to wonder if he's suffering from depression. I didn't see you mention if this situation existed when he was working or if it's a recent event. I know that men tend to measure their worth by how well they can provide for their family, so he probably sees himself as worthless. However, I find it hard to believe that any husband would want to see his wife work that hard and not want to pitch in and help.
She does most, and alot of the work, so she states, so apparently, he does some...what. In her eyes, I`m sure its not enough, to carry the load, of maintaing a marriage.
I have a friend, who was complaining to me yesterday, that she does most of the housework, alot of the yard work, takes care of their child, and works fulltime. Her husband does not work right now, and does not do much around the house, to help out.
I explained to her that maybe she needs to talk to him about helping out more often, but she just blew me off, as to say..."nah...he won`t."
Common sense tells me, that if you do not have a job, you would be willing to put forth the effort in helping out with everyday tasks, and chores, while the SO is out making the income to pay the bills.
Some people just don`t get it. OR...maybe they do, and they know that they can get by with it.
As my grandma used to say "marriage isn't 50/50, it's 100/100" meaning that at any given time one party gives 100% so the other can have what they want. She claimed that 50/50 arrangements just meant no one ever got what they really wanted.
Yes, I would expect a spouse at home to do more than their share because they are at home and have more time to do it. Right now, he should be doing most of the housework unless he's spending an inordinate amount of time actively looking for work. The only way he shouldn't be is if his job search is a full time job.
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In her eyes, I`m sure its not enough, to carry the load, of maintaing a marriage. 
