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I find this thought so funny "I am better looking than she is, so there is no reason she should reject me."
There are so many good looking men that I wouldn't be remotely interested in based on looks. They are attractive, but I am not attracted.
No one has to be attracted to everyone.
I have many faults, like I like to eat chicken wings with my hands and then wipe them off on my jeans, but if there's one fault I never had was this entliment of ''this girl looks just like me except guys open doors for her, she should sleep with me'' but a LOT of guys sure do seem to have that ingrained in their mentality. I wonder if it's porn that's doing all of this toxic nonsense to young men.
Now, there are only a handful of men who are universally attractive. Orlando Bloom, Johnny Depp, Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, Robert Pattinson, and even there are literally millions and millions who'd sleep with them on a heartbeat there are also plenty more who wouldn't. So why do men who aren't movie stars with movie stars looks and fame thinking they are entitled to women just because those women aren't hot?
I find this thought so funny "I am better looking than she is, so there is no reason she should reject me."
There are so many good looking men that I wouldn't be remotely interested in based on looks. They are attractive, but I am not attracted.
No one has to be attracted to everyone.
I never said that. Nothing a bout being better looking, but it's about realizing who is your equal when it comes to look. IE...she's chubby, but he's bald. Thats just an example
I've even heard how the last remaining single friend or relative where friends take the woman aside after she's been complaining (complaining being the operative word here) about how she can't find anyone to perhaps give that "Steve" guy a chance. Sure he's bald, sure he's short, but hey...he's a great guy personality wise. Just give him a lunch date, see what happens. Can't harm ya.
When your friends and family members see that your'e being overly picky, you know they have a problem.
If she's NOT complaining about not being able to meet any decent guys, then this wouldn't be an issues, friends and relatives wouldn't hear her complaining, so they wouldn't be asking her to give Steve a shot.
Also, I think some women think a guy IS cute and they'd consider dating him, but...they think they can do better. Just Google "The Husband Store" and you can get an idea how the selection process for single women works.
Also, I think some women think a guy IS cute and they'd consider dating him, but...they think they can do better. Just Google "The Husband Store" and you can get an idea how the selection process for single women works.
If she's thinking this way she's not all that interested. Some people just "hit" us right away. We sort of feel a "click" that we want to investigate further.
If this were not true, nobody would ever get together, since the overwhelming majority of people, both male and female, are not supermodel rocket rich rocket scientists, yet the majority also have felt, and will feel again, very, very strong love, lust and connection.
If you're thinking "I can do better" then you don't have much respect for the person right off the bat...something is just telling you, "nope." Sure, sometimes this can be wrong. Absolutely. But OTOH we need to have some gauge of whom we want to go out with, and whom we don't. "Do better" may not be a judgment at all on the person's empiric value (for lack of a better word)...but better for us is more to the point.
A few will legitimately be overly-picky, for a lifetime. Meh. A few never will find that "perfect" person. Also meh, because these are the minority and do you want them anyway?
I never said that. Nothing a bout being better looking, but it's about realizing who is your equal when it comes to look. IE...she's chubby, but he's bald. Thats just an example
I've even heard how the last remaining single friend or relative where friends take the woman aside after she's been complaining (complaining being the operative word here) about how she can't find anyone to perhaps give that "Steve" guy a chance. Sure he's bald, sure he's short, but hey...he's a great guy personality wise. Just give him a lunch date, see what happens. Can't harm ya.
When your friends and family members see that your'e being overly picky, you know they have a problem.
If she's NOT complaining about not being able to meet any decent guys, then this wouldn't be an issues, friends and relatives wouldn't hear her complaining, so they wouldn't be asking her to give Steve a shot.
How does the woman being chubby makes her the physical equivalent of a bald guy? Baldness adds like 20 years of aging to a dude, and then there's that little issue of, ''does he have a good head shape, or does his head looks like a deformed watermelon?''
A chubby woman can still have an attractive face, great hair and smile, she can have an awesome personality whereas the bald guy might be dull, average-looking, and boring. Really, man? You're saying a chubby woman isn't attractive because she's chubby and she should date a guy who is bald?
So, I'm one of the shortest men in the western world at 5'8''. Does that mean I should only date 4'10'' women? Instead of being with women my own height or taller? I should let 5'8'' women for the 6'3'' men?
Dude, what is it with you guys and the height thing, always talking about your legs. No one cares. The average height for women in America is 5'4'' If a guy isn't abnormaly short like being 5 feet tall, most women aren't going to care about his height. Why do I feel that the guys who complain about height are the men who don't have anything attractive about them, but they choose to blame their lack of success with women on their height? What if they were 6 feet tall and still couldn't get dates like many 6 feet tall can't? What would those guys complain about?
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, but hey...he's a great guy personality wise. Just give him a lunch date, see what happens. Can't harm ya.
Same could be said about the many men who reject women based purely on her looks, eh?
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Also, I think some women think a guy IS cute and they'd consider dating him, but...they think they can do better. Just Google "The Husband Store" and you can get an idea how the selection process for single women works.
Dude, I'm googling ''why do guys rooster-block themselves with women,'' and the results I'm getting are, '' guys like that need to consult a therapist to work out on their insecurities and low self-esteem before they are ready to date women.''
Lmao, you honestly think that's the selection process for single women?
No.
It's.
She is attracted to him. He doesn't have to look like Leonardo Dicaprio.
He has a job.
He doesn't have a criminal record.
In the 50s the beautiful people still got the beautiful people. It wasn't any different except for the fact that you effectively got no sex until you put a ring on the finger of that very average girl who "matched" you. So yay.So
I think some guys are u see the illusion that "in the 50s" the beautiful girls were forced to go out with the fully guy with the bad job. Nope, LOL.
Go ahead and google 50s wedding pictures. Why would you think it was any different back then? People found eachother for qualities that might include looks but weren't exclusive to them, and MOST people were average (hence the term), and people got together. Just like today except with a lot less sex beforehand unless you had some money and knew where the ugly girl who gave it for a few bucks lived.
"I wish it were the 50s"-ers don't realize that today they have MORE opportunity than ever before to be sexually satisfied ** without being tied down AND to take their time finding someone they truly want to be with. They just don't. They think, "In the old days, pretty girls were forced to be with guys like me. It was great!" Just think about that. I mean really just sit back and think about it.
** In fact it is SO MUCH easier today than ever before, that any guy who doesn't manage to bang a bunch of women regularly thinks he's deprived. Think about that too, in any time period before this fairly recent one, anywhere in the world.
Yeah... I have photos from the 1940s of my Great Aunt, who was the prettier of two sisters, as well as the one who did better in school and was Daddy's favorite, the works. She was multi-dating, she had a number of attractive young men competing for her attention and she was doing dinners and movies with a bunch of 'em. I know, I have the photos. No commitment, and no sex, until "going steady." At which point the man who won the contest, had a promising career, they were each agreeable to one another, and her father liked the young man's family, and he was good looking. He was the best prospect on multiple levels. Entirely sensible!
Meanwhile my Grandma, who was a little less pretty, and didn't do quite so well in school, and tended to get into trouble...she ended up running off with a biker. That was an abusive relationship with an alcoholic for almost a decade before my Mom was born. Eventually Grandpa cleaned up his act, but it was a rough road. Grandpa was your textbook bad boy, he was good looking, but he was all kinds of trouble.
Everybody's got a story. Of course nowadays, my Mom would not have been born maybe, it might have been easier for Grandma to leave the situation she was in.
I just don't know that anybody had it easier, exactly, back then. Life is complicated. Maybe it always was in one way or another.
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Dude, what is it with you guys and the height thing, always talking about your legs. No one cares. The average height for women in America is 5'4'' If a guy isn't abnormaly short like being 5 feet tall, most women aren't going to care about his height.
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Yeah, I don't know. Lots of women I know that are 5'4" or 5'5" still only are interested in guys 5'10" or 6' or taller. It's really common. I'd hate to be short as a guy. I'm not sure what the equivalent is for guys, or if there is one.
In the 50s the beautiful people still got the beautiful people. It wasn't any different except for the fact that you effectively got no sex until you put a ring on the finger of that very average girl who "matched" you. So yay.So
These guys think that if they had been born in 1930 they would have gotten themselves some beautiful 20 year old girl who'd be heads over heels in love with them because they have a high-income job lol, but that's not how it worked. It's true that they could have gotten themselves married to a beautiful woman, but the marriage would probably be miserable for everyone and sexless.
Why? I don't get it? Why are 20-something men so in love with a past they never knew? With a past that never existed? Beautiful women have always matched up with beautiful men, as it should be. Look at how much beauty their sons and daughters add to the world. Who'd want to ruin those people's gene pool with average *cough, cough, below average becoming the new average cough * genes? That would be like slashing the mona lisa with a knife.
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"I wish it were the 50s"-ers don't realize that today they have MORE opportunity than ever before to be sexually satisfied ** without being tied down AND to take their time finding someone they truly want to be with. They just don't. They think, "In the old days, pretty girls were forced to be with guys like me. It was great!" Just think about that. I mean really just sit back and think about it.
Never before, in the entirety of Human existence, ever since the first homo sapiens came out of his cave scratching his groin and wondering where he could go to get a beer, was it ever this easy for the average man to get laid. There are billions of women in the world, of all races and heights and shapes and weights and sizes, so many women for guys to meet and to sleep with and to be in a relationship with if that's what they want. So why do they waste away their youth complaining about pretty girls not wanting anything to do with them? Why don't they just go to the gym and lose the extra flab that is pulling them down?
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Yeah, I don't know. Lots of women I know that are 5'4" or 5'5" still only are interested in guys 5'10" or 6' or taller. It's really common. I'd hate to be short as a guy. I'm not sure what the equivalent is for guys, or if there is one.
hahaha. Nah. That's not how it is. I've met physically attractive German women, Swedish women, Finnish women, Islandic women, African women; women who are used to their men being 6 feet tall, and in many cases a lot taller than that, and my height never was much of an issue. It's true, I was rejected alot, but I would've been rejected a lot too was I 6 feet tall instead of 5'8'' because women - OMG- aren't all the same monolith entity that can only get aroused by some 6'6'' Swedish soccer player.
And no, this wasn't a case of my build or my face being so aesthetically godlike that these women, who were taller than me in many cases by the way, couldn't help but fall in lust with me despite my height.
I keep reading this from various places. Can any guys attest to the validity of this? Of course one would have to be interested in yoga in the first place or it wouldn't work. But regardless, I'm still skeptical. I'd imagine it would be similar to going to the gym. I workout all the time and the gym seems off limits to meeting women. So I'd imagine with yoga it would be the same. You would go do your yoga and then afterwards everyone would just go there separate way? I would think any guy at a yoga class would stick out like a sore thumb. They would appear like they are there just to pick up women.
I think college/class is the #1 place to meet women. I regret not taking advantage of it when I was younger.
I have a coworker who goes to yoga and he went out with at least three women (one was the instructor but she is married).
I went with him a few times. So some women know each other, they talk before and after class, not everyone just picks up their stuff and leaves, the regulars chat.
My coworker sometimes made funny remarks during class so some women liked that.
He has no pride and no shame, he just often walks up to the instructor before or after class to chitchat. Then some other women join. Some have a drink after yoga, they invited him. Voila.
You just have to be bold and not too obvious or creepy.
Sidemark: He is not good looking.
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there are also plenty more who wouldn't. So why do men who aren't movie stars with movie stars looks and fame thinking they are entitled to women just because those women aren't hot?
