Sick of this "I'm a bad texter" garbage! (long distance, guys)
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Stop texting and instead use that phone for what it was made for. Texting is really impersonal.
You think a girl not responding to text is going to answer. Nah. That'll just make him look more needy.
You older folk need to get off this phone high horse on the text threads with the younger generation. It is the normal form of communication for twenty something and below for simple conversation such as making plans and light flirting
Better get used to it, and learn how to do it in a interesting manner if you want to succeed in the current dating market 30 years and younger
yes
and this is just another example of younger ppl who are having difficulty dating come to CDR looking for answer and get response that are out-of-sync with current dating skills and norms. of course, not all advice, but i don't go to my parents for advice of why i cant get a date. they will always give me good warm caring words of compassion, but it doesn't improve my outcome, just my outlook.
You think a girl not responding to text is going to answer. Nah. That'll just make him look more needy.
You older folk need to get off this phone high horse on the text threads with the younger generation. It is the normal form of communication for twenty something and below for simple conversation such as making plans and light flirting
That may be but how is it working out for you guys? How many posts and complaints about so and so text, time limits and miscommunication and what could it possibly mean and snooping thru peoples phones and not knowing how to approach or talk to the opposite gender.
I think us old farts were happier when there was no instant communication. Ever heard the saying distance makes the heart grow fonder? You young'uns are getting angry because your love doesn't text back quick enough and you call it quits. We waited with smitten anticipation for that phone call.
That may be but how is it working out for you guys? How many posts and complaints about so and so text, time limits and miscommunication and what could it possibly mean and snooping thru peoples phones and not knowing how to approach or talk to the opposite gender.
I think us old farts were happier when there was no instant communication. Ever heard the saying distance makes the heart grow fonder? You young'uns are getting angry because your love doesn't text back quick enough and you call it quits. We waited with smitten anticipation for that phone call.
Did you read my previous posts? Getting angry over text responses or lack there of is a sure fire way to get no where
I don't think the issue is they are a "bad texter", they just aren't interested in texting you. It's pretty point blank and it's something I had to realize too. Anyone I was dating, and there was mutual interest, there was never this level of communication cloudiness. If they were busy, they would tell me they were busy. If they weren't a fan of texting, they would tell me they didn't like to text. Same went for me as well. Out of all the women I've dated, when we liked each other, there was no issue with texting AT ALL. Even before texting became prominent, we would email each other.
I believe what you're not wanting to believe is that they just aren't interested in texting you. It goes against how you perceive yourself as a person. You don't sit back and perceive yourself as being lame and not worth anyone's time. You feel that you're cool, chill, and the person people want to be around. You're that kind of person around your friends, but that is not going to be projected well when online dating. It's just not going to happen. Accept that not everyone is going to think you're fun and go on about your day as normal.
Hence why these guys continue to struggle with women and come here to complain and get backwards advice from married people and people waaaayyyy outside the young dating market
I don't think the issue is they are a "bad texter", they just aren't interested in texting you. It's pretty point blank and it's something I had to realize too. Anyone I was dating, and there was mutual interest, there was never this level of communication cloudiness. If they were busy, they would tell me they were busy. If they weren't a fan of texting, they would tell me they didn't like to text. Same went for me as well. Out of all the women I've dated, when we liked each other, there was no issue with texting AT ALL. Even before texting became prominent, we would email each other.
I believe what you're not wanting to believe is that they just aren't interested in texting you. It goes against how you perceive yourself as a person. You don't sit back and perceive yourself as being lame and not worth anyone's time. You feel that you're cool, chill, and the person people want to be around. You're that kind of person around your friends, but that is not going to be projected well when online dating. It's just not going to happen. Accept that not everyone is going to think you're fun and go on about your day as normal.
well said
really, how many times have you had the experience of sending out an email and soon discover the recipient was offended or took it the wrong way even though it wasn't intended???
texting is worse, just some ppl accept and recognize it's limits while others have yet to come to that realization.
and this is just another example of younger ppl who are having difficulty dating come to CDR looking for answer and get response that are out-of-sync with current dating skills and norms. of course, not all advice, but i don't go to my parents for advice of why i cant get a date. they will always give me good warm caring words of compassion, but it doesn't improve my outcome, just my outlook.
You are not a young adult, yourself, correct?
If I were a teen or a twentysomething and had relationship questions specific to my age group, I would seek out a forum that is primarily composed of others in my age group, yes.
Because there's no way that anybody who has been living an adult lifestyle for any amount of time is going to be sympathetic to "OMG SHE DSNT TXT ME BCK OMG OMG OMG SMH."
If I were a teen or a twentysomething and had relationship questions specific to my age group, I would seek out a forum that is primarily composed of others in my age group, yes.
Because there's no way that anybody who has been living an adult lifestyle for any amount of time is going to be sympathetic to "OMG SHE DSNT TXT ME BCK OMG OMG OMG SMH."
You'd be surprised how many guys *finally* get a shot a legitimately hot girl after striking out on the regular and lose their minds analyzing every text and communication.
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