Men, would you be a sugar daddy given the chance? (kids, friends)

[djohanna]

@Stabby Abby Yes, but being a prostitute or a porn actor/actress indeed increases chances of having an STD, more so than your average person (assuming that average person isn't sleeping with someone new every week). People NEVER wear condoms in porn (well, maybe 1% of the time or less). Well, obviously.

Sure, not everyone can become an engineer, but there are plenty of jobs you can get with little effort, that will enable you to make a more positive difference than simply making men ejaculate.

Female on male prostitution...you mean to say there are plenty of women hiring male prostitutes? ...Yeah right (and if I was a horny rich lady I wouldn't want to go near a male prostitute who spends most of his work time getting it up the behind [ahem, AIDS]).

[snowchaser2002]

Would I ever be a sugar daddy? At 32 I will say no because I have worked too hard to piddle my money away on a super cute twink! Now one night stand is a different story. Seriously I have been single a while now(9months) and I would hope one day I will find the right guy to be with in a relationship but I don't see myself ever being a sugar daddy because its not REAL and it just seems fake. Now in 20 years I may feel different I would not think so though!

[Wolfpacker]

Originally Posted by Elained10

Because your relationship is not real it's a business arrangement

Interestingly enough, marriage and relationships have historically been built on power, money/wealth, and alliances. Marrying for love is a rather recent movement in our history.




Is this a trend that is become more "popular" and open, or has always been around, but it's just that technology and current economic conditions make it seem that way?

[nokiddin]

Originally Posted by djohanna

I'm curious how many of you men in you're 30's to 50's would prefer to spend a lot of money on what is basically a prostitute of college age, rather than have a true love romance and committed partnership with someone closer to your age and about as intelligent?

I'm 21 and apparently females in my age bracket are all like, yay, of course I'll pimp myself out for money! I have a boyfriend who is 13 years older, and he doesn't even take me out to dinner, let alone buy me flowers because he's poor. The idea of a sugar daddy has appealed to me just because I do appreciate the fine life, but I'd rather get an honest job and work my way up through education because that dynamic is so heartless and superficial. And having a partner who loves me more for my personality than my physical self is preferred. All you (sugar daddy) men want is fresh meat, and aren't willing to put the time and effort into cultivating a lasting and loving relationship with a more mature woman. When I'm older, in my 30's let's say, and see a lot of men my age disinterested in a committed relationship with someone like me because they want someone just out of high school I think I will be sickened. Girls my age, even girls I know, are becoming prostitutes so they can be lazy. I bet older women are disgusted by the lack of morals and self-respect (to be willing to exploit themselves) of younger women like myself, and feel I should do them a favor by not adding myself to the pool of young whores.

I wonder, if my own boyfriend became rich, would he leave me for someone younger, who he wouldn't have to commit to? Probably.

I'm a cynical person, but also a realistic person. I bet most men would prefer to be a sugar daddy given the chance.

I have no problem with being a sugar daddy, and don't care what other say or think about it. really, none of their business what i do with my cash and who i'm hanging out with or banging. In my last marriage, I paid for everything, ex didn't have to work, could do whatever she wanted (classes/gym/spa/travel), had shopping/spending money, etc. After a while I figured out that I could offer that deal to many hotties, and many would take me up on it. Sure, it doesn't come with the emotional comforts of an LTR, but it doesn't have the drama and if I don't like it, I just unplug.

One more thing: I really do find it interesting that as a society we don't overly stigmatize women for being attracted to a man's potential/career/financial status. It's common knowledge that many women look for financial security in a man. But when it comes to men "objectifying" women for their youth, beauty, and body somehow that is more distasteful. go figure.... but in the meantime, I do whatever makes me happy.

[ohio_peasant]

The term “sugar daddy” is so loaded with invective that any reasonable man would react with disgust. Most of can surely agree that a married man, or one otherwise in a committed relationship, who maintains a paid “fling” on the side, deserves unmitigated censure. But what about the single man? In fact, the more realistic question is, “how do people feel about an unequal partnership where one of the partners is substantially younger and less established in life, but physically more robust; and the other partner is the reverse?”

Originally Posted by Elained10

I just don't understand why someone would think that little of themselves that they would actually pay someone to spend time with them or have sex with them to me it's just not right. It's not real it's fake.

There's a continuum from lifelong mutually devoted love to outright prostitution. Somewhere along that continuum is a "relationship" consisting of mutually using each other. That may be overt, as implied by the gauche term "sugar daddy", or it might be implicit, as what happens with the modern "hook up".

Consider this case: a man is a widower. He’s a high-powered lawyer, maybe a partner at his firm. His wife died 5 years ago, and he’s been alone ever since. At office functions or parties with clients, he appears alone. That’s just bad public relations for the firm. It’s bad for business. So he finds a much younger women – not a college-gal but say one in her early 40s – who accompanies him to social functions, and who serves as hostess when he entertains at home. What do we make of this? Is this foolish? Is it immoral?

Originally Posted by Elained10

A married man supporting his wife does not make her a prostitute.

True, but if the husband prizes his wife primarily as decorative accessory at dinner parties and business trips, and the wife prizes the husband primarily as means of financing her shopping-habits, the arrangement approaches prostitution in semantics, if not in legal definition.

Originally Posted by crabman1

There is not one thing we do in life that is not an exchange of money or services in pursuit of a result.

Another excellent point! Some interchanges are based on love, or friendship, or filial loyalty, or patriotism, or outright altruism. Others are based on an exchange of tangibles. That exchange could be money for services, or bartering. If A and B don't have deep mutual fondness or ties of kinship, they will exchange things of material value. Why necessarily must physical lust be excluded as something inadmissible in an exchange?

Originally Posted by crabman1

The real truth is that if you are such a man your chances of finding a partner on an equal financial footing are almost non-existent. You can either choose to be alone or decide to seek a partner from a larger pool that includes women who are lower earners.

...A high earner is going to pay somewhat the amount depending on the inequity in the earnings.

I agree. We have a pernicious myth here on CD that high-earning men are going to be successful in dating. Wrong! There are different kinds of success in life. The man who is successful in business might be awkward, lacking charisma or social skills. He has theoretical power in attracting women by virtue of his career-status and money, but theory does not readily translate into practice.

It stands to reason that a more equal partnership is more desirable, from the viewpoint of stability, mutual satisfaction, division of labor and a tractable path towards genuine love. But inequality can and does happen. The question is, is such inequality anathema and recipe for disaster, or could one view it with legitimacy?


Please keep in mind, that in some cultures it is expected for the man to pay for absolutely everything, and for the woman to be treated essentially as a bird of beautiful plumage in a golden cage. Typically this is a marriage, not a fee-for-service or even a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. But the level of genuine intimacy is paltry, and the understanding is that the wealthier the man, the more beautiful the woman.

Originally Posted by DELL37

We've all had that 20 yr old neighbor or the local waitress hit on you when they find out you have some cash. I was once followed into a bar by a 22 yr old because of the car I was driving.

While I agree that such experiences are unlikely to congeal into a substantive relationship, the thrill of being thus pursued is intense, as it massages the masculine ego. My less-mature side envies the person who finds himself in such scenarios. I've had other men compliment my cars at car shows - young men asking what's under the hood, older men smiling proudly, remarking that they used to drive such a thing, but foolishly disposed of it under family-pressures. But I've never had women express enthusiasm upon beholding some flashy accoutrement such as car.

[TaoistDude]

Only if she's not diabetic.

[Tele-Cat]

Originally Posted by djohanna

I'm curious how many of you men in you're 30's to 50's would prefer to spend a lot of money on what is basically a prostitute of college age, rather than have a true love romance and committed partnership with someone closer to your age and about as intelligent?

I'm 21 and apparently females in my age bracket are all like, yay, of course I'll pimp myself out for money! I have a boyfriend who is 13 years older, and he doesn't even take me out to dinner, let alone buy me flowers because he's poor. The idea of a sugar daddy has appealed to me just because I do appreciate the fine life, but I'd rather get an honest job and work my way up through education because that dynamic is so heartless and superficial. And having a partner who loves me more for my personality than my physical self is preferred. All you (sugar daddy) men want is fresh meat, and aren't willing to put the time and effort into cultivating a lasting and loving relationship with a more mature woman. When I'm older, in my 30's let's say, and see a lot of men my age disinterested in a committed relationship with someone like me because they want someone just out of high school I think I will be sickened. Girls my age, even girls I know, are becoming prostitutes so they can be lazy. I bet older women are disgusted by the lack of morals and self-respect (to be willing to exploit themselves) of younger women like myself, and feel I should do them a favor by not adding myself to the pool of young whores.

I wonder, if my own boyfriend became rich, would he leave me for someone younger, who he wouldn't have to commit to? Probably.

I'm a cynical person, but also a realistic person. I bet most men would prefer to be a sugar daddy given the chance.

I want some of your stash, it has to be good...

[RockJock1729]

Originally Posted by djohanna

I'm curious how many of you men in you're 30's to 50's would prefer to spend a lot of money on what is basically a prostitute of college age, rather than have a true love romance and committed partnership with someone closer to your age and about as intelligent?

I'm 21 and apparently females in my age bracket are all like, yay, of course I'll pimp myself out for money! I have a boyfriend who is 13 years older, and he doesn't even take me out to dinner, let alone buy me flowers because he's poor. The idea of a sugar daddy has appealed to me just because I do appreciate the fine life, but I'd rather get an honest job and work my way up through education because that dynamic is so heartless and superficial. And having a partner who loves me more for my personality than my physical self is preferred. All you (sugar daddy) men want is fresh meat, and aren't willing to put the time and effort into cultivating a lasting and loving relationship with a more mature woman. When I'm older, in my 30's let's say, and see a lot of men my age disinterested in a committed relationship with someone like me because they want someone just out of high school I think I will be sickened. Girls my age, even girls I know, are becoming prostitutes so they can be lazy. I bet older women are disgusted by the lack of morals and self-respect (to be willing to exploit themselves) of younger women like myself, and feel I should do them a favor by not adding myself to the pool of young whores.

I wonder, if my own boyfriend became rich, would he leave me for someone younger, who he wouldn't have to commit to? Probably.

I'm a cynical person, but also a realistic person. I bet most men would prefer to be a sugar daddy given the chance.

Your poll would indicate otherwise. As of my post, it's 30 would, 69 would not.

As someone in his 40's I don't think a college age girlfriend, rented or not, would be anything but annoying. We'd be in two different places in life, and have nothing in common. I'm middle aged, and she'd still be in the larval stage.

[Tele-Cat]

Originally Posted by RockJock1729

Your poll would indicate otherwise. As of my post, it's 30 would, 69 would not.

As someone in his 40's I don't think a college age girlfriend, rented or not, would be anything but annoying. We'd be in two different places in life, and have nothing in common. I'm middle aged, and she'd still be in the larval stage.

Yeah but larval seems to last until 50 these days.

[SouthernRXMan]

the girls call me "splenda daddy"