Guys: Would you date or marry a woman with aspergers/autism? (how to, call)
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men usually slap us with a label like that stupid moron beta 12 just did. but yet A.S. men are seen as downtrodden and just desperate for love. I get so sick of it. Adult A.S. women are basically treated like we're nonexistent within that community.
You just called somebody a stupid moron? Isn't your reaction kind of typical for people with AS which is no correlation between the actual event and your reaction?
Most people have no idea what AS is and what are the symptoms. I can add to this thread that all that clingy "search for love" AS patients talk about has nothing to do with actual human emotions.
If someone makes a mistakes and believes AS patient and his/her "emotions" he/she will be punished. It's all a passive / aggressive scheme.
Not the same but similar to a mistake of falling in love/dating/marrying someone with strong bi-polar: you just can't ever believe what you see.
I don't think dating anyone with severe emotional problems is healthy. Unless you love drama or have your own issues.
Last edited by noworneveragain; 09-13-2012 at 01:12 PM..
To the guys who answered "It depends/I don't know/Explain below":
I've noticed that most of you've suggested that it depends on how attractive she is. Like if she's attractive enough, it wouldn't matter. Does that mean that personality is not so important to you?
This is City Data. Do you really need to ask that question?
You just called somebody a stupid moron? Isn't your reaction kind of typical for people with AS which is no correlation between the actual event and your reaction?
Most people have no idea what AS is and what are the symptoms. I can add to this thread that all that clingy "search for love" AS patients talk about has nothing to do with actual human emotions.
If someone makes a mistakes and believes AS patient and his/her "emotions" he/she will be punished. It's all a passive / aggressive scheme.
Not the same but similar to a mistake of falling in love/dating/marrying someone with strong bi-polar: you just can't ever believe what you see.
I don't think dating anyone with severe emotional problems is healthy. Unless you love drama or have your own issues.
I don't know whether it's 'typical' or not and don't care. I guess if it is 'typical' it would make sense, wouldn't it? Seeing as I have A.S.
I have no idea what else you're talking about here.
What I think is that some men will screw any woman who is open to it. I have met a woman recently whom I think would fit the profile of autistic. I feel she is not heterosexual, but I don't know, so I hope she is not vulnerable.
It depends on how high functioning she is and if she can bond with you. Mostly, I think of this as a series of quirks that one has to put up with and work around, if I'm not mistaken. Better this in an attractive and smart woman who somehow found a way to care about you than one who is with you for the wrong reasons.
What I think is that some men will screw any woman who is open to it. I have met a woman recently whom I think would fit the profile of autistic. I feel she is not heterosexual, but I don't know, so I hope she is not vulnerable.
The thing is that we are not talking about screwing but dating.
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Originally Posted by beta12
I did that. My GF had Asperger's and... PhD in psychology. To make it short, I am glad I did not end up in psychiatric ward.
My advice; stay away of crazies of any kind and keep your eyes open. Women are crazy enough as they come...
Aspies are not all 'crazies.' In fact I'd say most aspies I know are probably more rational and sound of mind than most non-aspies. I don't even think of it as a mental disease/condition/disorder but a natural variation. Great people like Da Vinci, Einstein and Bill Gates probably had AS.
Anyone heard of Temple Gradin? She's probably one of the most famous people with AS but while she's 'high functioning' she's on the more extreme end. Many people with AS have happy, well-functioning relationships. It just requires a bit of understanding. You know those geeks in school? Good chance they were AS or have AS traits.
I'm probably borderline Asperger's (one doc says he thinks I have it, another doesn't) but I'm better at reading body language.etc that sort of thing. My main thing is having obsessive interests. I know a few girls with mild autism/AS and honestly, often you wouldn't know. Things aren't always obvious. There are 'benefits' if you like. They won't ask if they think this outfit makes them look fat and get angry when you tell the truth, they are GENERALLY more honest and straight-forward (aspies are still people and all people can lie). They can also more easily rationalize a situation, but they still emotions as much as anybody else, can be as loving and compassionate and caring. They CAN show 'normal' human emotions, they aren't JUST interested in subjects, objects and nerdy things.
If she was a good person I would say sure, I would date her in a heartbeat.
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Isn't your reaction kind of typical for people with AS which is no correlation between the actual event and your reaction? 
some kind of language barrier or something.
