Husband cheated but I have my own guilt too (dating, wives, long distance)
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Yup, the majority of married people are out here cheating. I read an article a while back that said that over half of all married people have cheated at some point during their marriage. It's a joke.
Yup, the majority of married people are out here cheating. I read an article a while back that said that over half of all married people have cheated at some point during their marriage. It's a joke.
It's true stats like that that are behind why I have no desire to get married. It's unfortunate. :/
I think I'd rather be single forever than go through the pain of having my wife cheat on me.
We've been married for 12 years and it's been 4 months since finding out about his affair. I'm hurt and he's been showing remorse but at the same time I'm having trouble dealing with this.
I'm guilty of the same thing but only this was way before we got married and I was a then naivee 19 year-old who got drunk that day (now I'm 34). Till this day he's still unaware and don't know if I should even mention it. Or should I focus on his cheating esp. when he did it more than once for several months and would still be going on if I had never found out.
What you did and what he did are two TOTALLY different things and one has nothing to do with the other. I would not mention it to him at all.
You seem to be really caught up in your emotions and may need some help sorting them all out.
Have you guys tried meeting with a marriage counselor to develop a concrete plan for dealing with this crisis?
Yup, the majority of married people are out here cheating. I read an article a while back that said that over half of all married people have cheated at some point during their marriage. It's a joke.
Link please
You've already said all this BS on the marriage thread that got closed, quit going off topic on this thread.
I don't know how to really handle this situation, but both of you are wrong.
You for cheating and with holding information from your spouse for 19 yeas or more, and he for cheating on you recently for however long he had the affair.
IMO both of you come clean and get it all out on the table, ad possibly seek some help because he's going to have all kinds of emtions erupting.
They weren't married when she did it Froggie - and she was a 19 year old kid who was drunk - it's not quite the same thing as her husband cheating on her after 12 years of marriage.
So you are going to let him suffer and beat himself up over this and you get off scott free?
In my opinion, you need to tell him. You are BOTH wrong. Your offense isn't any less wrong because it was years ago, you were drunk and naive. You are just trying to convince yourself of that. It does not matter how long his affair went on for...the only difference here is that he never found out about yours. So you are a better liar, congratulations.
She didn't have an affair - she had a one night stand before she was ever married.
There is NO value to him knowing that at this moment, as he may try to use it as a last minute justification for what he has REPEATEDLY done to her
They weren't married when she did it Froggie - and she was a 19 year old kid who was drunk - it's not quite the same thing as her husband cheating on her after 12 years of marriage.
So that makes it a better situation or her? In my eyes that's still pathetic, 15 years later and she still hasn't spilled the beans. Sorry LM I'm not budging on what I said.
That may have altered both there lives had she came out and was honest before the vows were taken.
So that makes it a better situation or her? In my eyes that's still pathetic, 15 years later and she still hasn't spilled the beans. Sorry LM I'm not budging on what I said.
That may have altered both there lives had she came out and was honest before the vows were taken.
I know what you are saying... but can't agree.
Nothing would be served by anyone confessing to a one time infidelity (one night stand), 15 years ago (when said behavior has NEVER been repeated).
I would say that no matter the gender.
What would be gained by confessing? For either party?
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