Ladies, how long would you stay in a relationship without a ring? (young, divorced)
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Thank you, that is all I'm saying. The folks on here throwing rotten tomatoes at me, just don't want to look at the idea that any time a woman spends with a man who really doesn't want her is just too much time wasted. In my last serious relationship, it took two years for the "M" word to come up. I didn't offer an ultimatum. He said he didn't want to be "rushed" Because I loved him and he said he wanted marriage, I gave him two more years, only to have him hem and and haw and make excuses at the end of that second two years. Vindication is sweet though. This is a small town and he has done similar to couple of other girls over the years so now he has a repuation for being a big flake and a weak mama's boy and now he can't even get arrested. No one will go out with him! I guess he'll go try to catch some poor hapless unsuspecting non-citizen to take him and his mama and his freeloading family on. Hope she's got a lot of money. She'll need it.
Let's be honest here, women who want to get married who date men that dont (or say they aren't sure) are just as at fault as the men.
It's up to you to set parameters from the get-go. If its not going in the direction you want it to then it's your responsibility to leave. I dont know why people wait around for things to happen instead of making them happen.
Let's be honest here, women who want to get married who date men that dont (or say they aren't sure) are just as at fault as the men.
It's up to you to set parameters from the get-go. If its not going in the direction you want it to then it's your responsibility to leave. I dont know why people wait around for things to happen instead of making them happen.
Yeah, okay. True. What I didn't include is that two months after the breakup, he has tried to get me to go back to him and then had the nerve to get angry because I didn't want him anymore. How do you even begin to try to trust a CON ARTIST like the one I've described? He's just looking to waste more of my time, and he's desperate now. Good.
Thank you, that is all I'm saying. The folks on here throwing rotten tomatoes at me, just don't want to look at the idea that any time a woman spends with a man who really doesn't want her is just too much time wasted. In my last serious relationship, it took two years for the "M" word to come up. I didn't offer an ultimatum. He said he didn't want to be "rushed" Because I loved him and he said he wanted marriage, I gave him two more years, only to have him hem and and haw and make excuses at the end of that second two years. Vindication is sweet though. This is a small town and he has done similar to couple of other girls over the years so now he has a repuation for being a big flake and a weak mama's boy and now he can't even get arrested. No one will go out with him! I guess he'll go try to catch some poor hapless unsuspecting non-citizen to take him and his mama and his freeloading family on. Hope she's got a lot of money. She'll need it.
your example is what i am talking about. his leading you on for 2 years with the hopes of marriage when he really had no intention in the first place. then for another 2 years. again, they will just string a woman along for as long as she allows it. they are interested in 'freebies' (cooking, cleaning sex, etc) from any woman that's willing to keep giving them with no demands of her own. then when he gets tired of her or find someone that's marriage material that's where he'll go. seen it happen to a number of women... but you can't tell some of these women nothing and that's their buisness if they want to keep getting into dead end situations with no end in sight.
Yeah, okay. True. What I didn't include is that two months after the breakup, he has tried to get me to go back to him and then had the nerve to get angry because I didn't want him anymore. How do you even begin to try to trust a CON ARTIST like the one I've described? He's just looking to waste more of my time, and he's desperate now. Good.
Was he a con artist? Did he tell you he wanted to marry you at any point? You didn't clarify that in your post.
Was he a con artist? Did he tell you he wanted to marry you at any point? You didn't clarify that in your post.
Once more, it would be good for you to pay a little attention in my OP, I said that at the two year mark, he said he wanted marriage, but didn't want to be rushed. On his word, he got more two more years of my time. I hope that clears it up.
Once more, it would be good for you to pay a little attention in my OP, I said that at the two year mark, he said he wanted marriage, but didn't want to be rushed. On his word, he got more two more years of my time. I hope that clears it up.
But your idea of not being rushed and his could be two different things.
I'ts good you got out if he wasn't giving you what you wanted, but it doesn't necessarily mean he was leading you on. If he told you in two years I will make up my mind and he didn't-then that's an issue. The two-year was your cut off point not his.
Let's be honest here, women who want to get married who date men that dont (or say they aren't sure) are just as at fault as the men.
It's up to you to set parameters from the get-go. If its not going in the direction you want it to then it's your responsibility to leave. I dont know why people wait around for things to happen instead of making them happen.
I couldn't agree more with this. Women who stays for years hoping he'll change his mind have no one to blame but themselves when things don't work out.
exactly. i know a woman who played 'wife' with a guy for 8 years without the actual marriage. she refer to herself as 'his wife' but too bad she wasn't the wife in his mind, only her own. he left her and then married someone totally different. what a freaking waste of 8 years of her time all for him to marry another woman, LOL. this have happened time and again where a woman put herself out there with a man for many years and then gets the short end of the stick as he pursues another woman more worth his time and then marries her. if she would've set him straight with some kind, any kind of guidelines wouldn't have ended up in that dead end situation for so long.
This is all gospel, great points.
I know I've posted this before but it really applies here
But your idea of not being rushed and his could be two different things.
I'ts good you got out if he wasn't giving you what you wanted, but it doesn't necessarily mean he was leading you on. If he told you in two years I will make up my mind and he didn't-then that's an issue. The two-year was your cut off point not his.
There are a lot of his ilk out there findly--it's called wanting a free ride; something for nothing. All you can get for the least amount you can put on the table. It caught up to him though, because all the girls in town rightfully think of him as a loser, now.
There are a lot of his ilk out there findly--it's called wanting a free ride; something for nothing. All you can get for the least amount you can put on the table. It caught up to him though, because all the girls in town rightfully think of him as a loser, now.
I don't consider a man who doesn't want to get married a loser just for that one fact. If he was a straight a**hole all the way around, thats an issue in and of itself and you never should have given him the time of day to begin with.
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