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ImhO, part of the marriage contract is sex. Someone who says they don't care for sex is in essence saying, I don't like sex with you. If her claim is that she has no interest in sex whatsoever, you might inquire why she even wants to be married?, since sex is certainly part of the marriage contract. I'd say its time for some very honest converstations.
Yes. It IS part of your marital duties. Othrwise, it's not a valid marriage. Alienation of Affection is a valid reason for divorce.
no---- birth control pills do not lower sex drive. .
signing a marriage license w/o a prenup does that.
if birth control pills lowered sex drive there would be no marriages.
Absolutely they do - they reduce testosterone, and they also change the estrogen and progesterone balance.
For some women, it has a greater effect, and some less, since our sex drives are about one-third hormonal, one-third mental attitude, and one-third emotional...and, it depends on other hormones like dopamine and even the thyroid and overall health and wellness.
So? I never ran over a cat with my car. That doesn't mean other people haven't run over cats with theirs.
I'm just saying, I don't think it is as prevalent as people make it out to be. I think its another excuse women use to explain a low sex drive. Those of us with high sex drives are not going to notice an effect regardless. Those who are frigid to begin with...those problems are only exacerbated by birth control.
Maybe the OP just really, REALLY stinks in bed and the wife is trying to be nice and not tell him so she just says that she never cared for sex. He even said that women he dated got bored with him and even cheated. Maybe when he's not around she goes to town with the vibrator. If she lets on that she enjoys the vibrator more than him, he'll have a whole other set of issues. We know nothing about the OP and his wife other than they are young. What are their backgrounds? Are there religious or ethnic taboos? Some cultures frown upon talking about sex. Parents don't discuss it with their children so later on in life, some people don't realize that sex can be pleasurable and not just for makin' babies.
Actually...I did. She won't even try it, she thinks it's "perverted".
I swear, I think I know this woman...
She sounds like a little West Texas baptist girl I know-she thinks everything is perverted.
She needs to love you enough to realize how important the sexual part of your marriage is. It just cannot stay intact over time without that kind of affection.
Absolutely they do - they reduce testosterone, and they also change the estrogen and progesterone balance.
For some women, it has a greater effect, and some less, since our sex drives are about one-third hormonal, one-third mental attitude, and one-third emotional...and, it depends on other hormones like dopamine and even the thyroid and overall health and wellness.
I'm not anti Pill, in fact, its good its around...since I'm not a fan of condoms, (which is why the hormone-less Paragard is better) but it has its side effects.
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