Judge orders lesbian couple to surrender their child to be given to hetero couple

[Mahrie]

Originally Posted by JAMS14

"Homosexuality is an aberration of nature and it will never be 'normal."

Your words, not mine. And if you don't think your daughter has picked up on that, then she's either not too bright or you are in denial. She grew up with you, she knows exactly how you feel about those "aberrations of nature." And as a result, she's living a lie, in a relationship that you yourself admitted she finds the physical part of to be barely tolerable. In trying to pretend to be something she is not, she is missing out on one of the most beautiful parts of being in a relationship. But as long as she denies who she is, it's all good with you.

No, I have nothing left to say to you. I think you've said it all.

Oh, for goodness sake! I doubt I said word one about homosexuality to any of my kids. The subject didn't come up and few talked about it openly in those days. I didn't find out about my daughter's sexual predilections until she was circa twenty-two, I'd say - when she told me about the woman she was seeing at the time. She surprised me, but she has always been her own person and didn't need an opinion from me on how to live her life - and she didn't get one.

She also had two second-trimester abortions, and I'm very pro-life, so DH and I begged her to let us raise the babies, but she chose the other path, which still hurts to think about. I don't have to agree with my daughter (or anyone else) to love her, and vice versa.

Yes, I do believe that homosexuality is unnatural, but that doesn't stop me loving my daughter or treating AIDS patients, any more than treating someone who is bipolar. Many conditions aren't 'normal,' but homosexuality takes center stage oftentimes because the homosexual ACT (not the people themselves, as I understand it) is condemned by many religions, including Christianity and Islam.

I'm a Christian missionary, and have been for forty+ years, and I'm not interested in arguing about what God may or may not have meant by what is recorded in The Bible. If the homosexual act is a sin then I'll take Christ's advice: 'Hate the sin - love the sinner.' Heaven knows, I'm enough of a sinner myself!

[Mahrie]

Originally Posted by JAMS14

I do, too. But a lot of people would rather live a lie than lose the love and approval of their family members. I have a nephew who is living like this because my brother is a fundamentalist Christian who would disown him if he ever found out what most of the rest of the family knows to be true about his son. It's sad how bigotry forces people to choose between having a fulfilling life of their own or denying who they are in order to hold onto the love of those who matter to them.

My daughter isn't living a lie, as you put it, she made an informed decision which she has stuck with for sixteen years. And yes, DH and I are Christians, but so is she, and no one is disowning anyone in our family. There's more drama and supposition on this thread than has ever taken place in our house! If our daughter wanted a different lifestyle, she'd have it - period.