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Good day! I'm having an "off" week! We forgot a couple of things DS7 was supposed to take to school today. He is so sensitive, I knew he would be so upset. I ran them over as soon as I realized. It was only 10 minutes into the school day, but he'd already been crying. A big smile and a big hug from him was a wonderful reward, though. It's the kind of thing that makes me so glad to be home and able to do that. I really want to go back to work, but uuggh! how? Then I went to a new work out class. Beginners encouraged my a$$! I'm going to hurt tomorrow!
Poor kid. Funny enough I had to take things in to my son yesterday and today too. I sometimes wonder if I did work if my kids would be a bit more self-sufficient though? They are so dependant on me. I know it gives them security, but I wonder how different it would be if there wasn't always Option Mom.
Poor kid. Funny enough I had to take things in to my son yesterday and today too. I sometimes wonder if I did work if my kids would be a bit more self-sufficient though? They are so dependant on me. I know it gives them security, but I wonder how different it would be if there wasn't always Option Mom.
There's truth to that. I learned the hard way---my son was always forgetting stuff for school and I would stupidly run back and forth to make it all better. My girlfriend's children were waking themselves up and getting ready for school on their own in first grade. (She didn't get home from work until 2am and was sleeping.) TK wakes himself up everyday and gets himself off to school. Children who are forced to fend for themselves are definately more self reliant. Seems harsh but there must be a middle ground a parent can find.
I think when they are little, the mom option is great!
As they get older, here is how it goes:
Text from DS this morning: I forgot to make my lunch
Me: Well come home or go to Abo's (pizza) - use your upside card
DS: okay
Later -
DS: I can't eat lunch. I have $2 and thought that was enough to buy a lunch but it's not.
Me: Go to Abo's!
DS: Not enough time now
Me: Bummer
I feel really bad for him - he'll really be hungry when he gets home (this really happened this morning). But it was his late morning (not class first block) so it's not like he didn't have plenty of time. He just was goofing on his computer. Bet he won't do that again!
"My Dad's GF is SO GREAT!!!!" She helped my daughter pick out some clothes, and told her what colors are best for her...so of course, they are bonding while shopping...I have told my daughter the SAME things...but choose not to get into an argument with her, because all she wanted to wear was black. Apparently, same information from "CHRISSY" is wonderful, gospel, and from me, it is "control freak ***** Mama"....and "Chrissy" is SO great..."she bought me this, and that...". Meanwhile, Mama buys barely anything, but pays car insurance, tuition, books, apartment and spending money.
Just venting...I guess it is good that she enjoys being with her "new" Mother so much. After all, who would want to be with a mean Mama, who never buys DD ANYTHING?!
Poor kid. Funny enough I had to take things in to my son yesterday and today too. I sometimes wonder if I did work if my kids would be a bit more self-sufficient though? They are so dependant on me. I know it gives them security, but I wonder how different it would be if there wasn't always Option Mom.
ya. I guess the world won't end if he forgets his book. And it would be a learning experience for next time.
"My Dad's GF is SO GREAT!!!!" She helped my daughter pick out some clothes, and told her what colors are best for her...so of course, they are bonding while shopping...I have told my daughter the SAME things...but choose not to get into an argument with her, because all she wanted to wear was black. Apparently, same information from "CHRISSY" is wonderful, gospel, and from me, it is "control freak ***** Mama"....and "Chrissy" is SO great..."she bought me this, and that...". Meanwhile, Mama buys barely anything, but pays car insurance, tuition, books, apartment and spending money.
Just venting...I guess it is good that she enjoys being with her "new" Mother so much. After all, who would want to be with a mean Mama, who never buys DD ANYTHING?!
Try not to be jealous of her relationship with the new women. Kids need adult mentors aside from their parents. I know it's hard, but it would be worse if she hated her.
As my kids got older (later elem school years and for sure by jr. high), I told them they had one "free pass" per semester of Option Mom.....after that they were SOL....it actually didn't happen that much. I also told them if they required my help on homework (either in reviewing it or going to the store to obtain supplies) that it must be asked at a reasonable hour. I was off the clock at 9PM (the exception being, if they themselves had been hard at work since they got home from school). I was not obliged to provide assistance at 10PM the night before a book report was due, if they had come home, goofed around for a few hours then started stuff after dinner, then realized at 10 they needed something. Sorry. Too bad, so sad. Just because I wasn't working, was no excuse for them not to plan well or to be cognizant that the world didn't revolve around their needs and that if one was dependent on someone else for help, they needed to be aware that it was done at the convenience of the other person....That's the way of the world, so may as well learn it at home.
I was the kid who forgot everything. And the kid with the mother who refused to stop what she was doing to bring me my... whatever. I swore up and down that if I had kids and they forgot their math book I was going to be nice and take it to school for them.
Didn't quite turn out that way.
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