Are people getting more self-absorbed? - Other Topics - Page 3 - City-Data Forum

dreameyes · 03-22-2007, 11:44 AM

Thanks for pointing that out smoker. I guess I'm kinda hesitant at times to make postings because of a "no one's interested in your thoughts" kinda attitude. Anyways I'm glad you said that because when I make a posting commenting on someone's thread I always like to have a response so why wouldn't other people?
Anyways I appreciate everyone's comments (cept for the mormon thing I won't even go there! Funny how the first thing that comes outta some people's mouths when you even mention Utah is something about those Mormons!). I think Travel'r had some good points about the techology thing and how things have replaced face to face interaction. It's too bad some people would rather send an email rather than pick up the phone and actually talk to the person. Thanks for the ideas cil!

Gee I wish you lived on my block.

I don't think I'm outgoing enough to pull something like that off though.

A little too shy.

It's not all that bad though I mean we do have a mother's walking/play group in our neighborhood and sometimes we have bbq's too. So I do do quite a few things with other mom's and stuff. I just really miss the "true" friendship that I have in Alberta. It seems that a lot of people are just so...kinda closed if that makes sense. Not willing to really open up and get to know someone and let someone know them. I don't know if it's fear of getting hurt because the closer someone is to your heart the more they can hurt you.
Crew Chief mentioned that this forum can be used as an outlet. So I guess the technology thing kinda works positive and negative. Hey I met my husband this way and things worked out great so there must be some positive!

I am definately grateful for forums like this where one can talk to others over 3 years of age

and express opinions and thoughts.
I thank everyone for their thoughts on this subject and any more are welcome!

Hey DeLaSalle....care to elaborate?

ElizaTeal · 03-22-2007, 01:05 PM

Well enough about me...what do YOU think of me? I love the that sarcastic line.

mb919 · 03-23-2007, 08:13 PM

This thread has nothing to do with me, so I don't see any reason to pay it any more attention...

ApartmentNomad · 03-24-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by dreameyes

Why arn't people more courteous? Were did the sincerity go??
Anyways I just wanted to let this out. I don't know if i'm making any sense here.

I don't equate politely turning down dinner invitations with a lack of courteousness, or even a lack of sincerity.

dreameyes · 03-24-2007, 09:32 AM

I never said they were politely refused.....if they were that would be ok but I said they were often met with lame excuses about being to busy....ya you're too busy to eat. Now if you have other plans and would rather do that that's fine....at least fes up and not hide behind some lame excuses. I mean really why are people so afraid of the truth? You're not gonna hurt someone's feelings by saying you were planning something else or that you wanted to spend the night with your family. And if you do hurt someone's feelings then that's their problem. Sometimes when something's left up to the imagination it's worse than what the actual truth is.

ApartmentNomad · 03-24-2007, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by dreameyes

I never said they were politely refused.....if they were that would be ok but I said they were often met with lame excuses about being to busy....

That sounds like a form of politely declining your offer, to me. Most people I've come across aren't comfortable being really direct when turning down a social offer. In my world, saying you're too busy is a polite way of doing this. (Although, I admit, it leaves open some ambiguity. Maybe they really are too busy now and would be open for it in the future? But then, they would probably emphasize that, if so.)

Also, I think it's pretty laughable that you would compalin that they have dinner with their family, but decline an offer to have dinner with a relative stranger. Why would you expect to have anything like a comparable claim on their time?

Dingler · 03-25-2007, 02:46 PM

Our street is like that. We live so close to each other but do not know each other. I doubt people are all that busy other wise there would not be so many message boards and TV watching. I think they just use busy as an excuse to get out of what they feel would be a boring get together. I do not like spending any real time with people who I do not have alot of chemistry with. I only enjoy maybe one in ten of the people I meet. The other 9 are usually nice enough people but I just do not connect.

Maybe you come off as to eager.